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<p>Questions & Quotations on Timeless Topics</p><p>Written, Compiled, and edited by</p><p>Eric H. Roth and Toni Aberson</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • i</p><p>Compelling Conversations</p><p>Questions and Quotations on Timeless Topics</p><p>An EngAging ESL TExTbook for AdvAncEd STudEnTS</p><p>Written, Compiled, and Edited by</p><p>Eric H. Roth and Toni Aberson</p><p>compelling conversations:</p><p>Questions and Quotations on Timeless Topics</p><p>An Engaging ESL Textbook for Advanced Students</p><p>copyright © 2006, Eric H. roth and Toni W. Aberson</p><p>copyright © 2008, Second Edition</p><p>All rights reserved.</p><p>iSbn: 1-4196-5828-x</p><p>Library of congress reg. # Tx 6-377-924</p><p>To order additional copies, please contact us.</p><p>bookSurge, LLc</p><p>Published in charleston, Sc uSA</p><p>www.booksurge.com</p><p>1-866-308-6235</p><p>orders@booksurge.com</p><p>bookSurge is a division of Amazon books, inc.</p><p>Please visit www.compellingconversations.com</p><p>to share comments, ask questions,</p><p>contribute quotations or buy books.</p><p>cover photo from iStock.com/cosmonaut creative Media LLc</p><p>All other photos by Laurie Selik</p><p>Chimayo Press</p><p>Dedicated to</p><p>Dani Herbert Joseph Roth</p><p>(1937–1997)</p><p>A global citizen, he could talk with almost</p><p>anyone, in six different languages, and share a</p><p>laugh. This book attempts to capture some of</p><p>his generous spirit, wit, and curiosity.</p><p>“Own only what you can always carry with</p><p>you: know languages, know countries, know</p><p>people. Let your memory be your travel bag.”</p><p>Alexander Solzhenitsyn (1918–),</p><p>Russian writer and historian</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • v</p><p>“gratitude is the memory of the heart.”</p><p>french proverb</p><p>“no one is as capable of gratitude</p><p>as one who has emerged from</p><p>the kingdom of the night.”</p><p>Elie Wiesel (1928–), American</p><p>writer and nobel Peace Prize winnerACknowleDgements</p><p>Several people helped in the development,</p><p>research, and creation of this hybrid ESL text-</p><p>book. Several ESL professionals and students</p><p>have offered numerous suggestions at critical</p><p>moments in developing this conversation book.</p><p>Here is a brief, and no means complete, list of</p><p>kind individuals who have helped improve this</p><p>book.</p><p>“Everybody is a student, and everybody is a</p><p>teacher” goes the saying. This book reflects that</p><p>philosophy. The eager students that worked</p><p>with us during the last decade in various ESL</p><p>classrooms have expanded our world.</p><p>From the adult students at the Santa Monica</p><p>Adult Education Center, Indianapolis Ivy Tech,</p><p>and Community Enhancement Services at-</p><p>tending classes while working difficult jobs to</p><p>energetic American Language Institute students</p><p>in Long Beach, Santa Monica Community Col-</p><p>lege, and UCLA Extension, you have shared</p><p>your experiences and insights. Thank you.</p><p>Naturally, we also owe an exceptional debt to the ambitious USC gradu-</p><p>ate students at the American Language Institute; we have often shared</p><p>questions, proverbs, and laughs. Your enthusiasm pushed us to complete</p><p>this project. Our lively conversations, in and out of the classroom, have</p><p>exceeded expectations and created small classroom communities where</p><p>we could take chances and develop our skills. The adoption of this book</p><p>by the Conversation Club promises to lead to even more compelling</p><p>conversations.</p><p>Please visit our website, www.compellingconversations.com, to offer feed-</p><p>back, suggest additional topics, or contribute questions or quotations for</p><p>future editions.</p><p>We hope this rich collection of questions, proverbs, and quotations will</p><p>spark many compelling conversations. Let’s keep talking, sharing, and</p><p>learning together!</p><p>Eric H. Roth</p><p>Toni Aberson</p><p>Laurie Selik</p><p>Zigmund Vays</p><p>Jim Valentine</p><p>Idalia Rodriguez</p><p>George Rodriguez</p><p>Adam Rado</p><p>Regina Pablo</p><p>Sharon Myers</p><p>Nina Ito</p><p>Alla Kogan</p><p>Oleg Khalkevich</p><p>Paula Johnson</p><p>Ben Hammer</p><p>Marina Goldshteyn</p><p>Ronit Frazam</p><p>Rosa Dreizin</p><p>Mark Chumley</p><p>Elaine Afable</p><p>Lucienne Aarsen</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • v i i</p><p>intRoDuCtion</p><p>“Colors fade, temples crumble,</p><p>empires fall, but wise words endure.”</p><p>Edward Thorndike (1874–1949),</p><p>American psychologist</p><p>The art of conversation, once considered the sign of a civilized individual,</p><p>seems less common today. Yet I treasure the moments of sharing experi-</p><p>ences, collecting news, and exchanging ideas. I make a point of knowing</p><p>my neighbors, allowing casual greetings to become long conversations,</p><p>and making time to explore in depth the feelings and perceptions of</p><p>friends and relatives. These natural conversations provide information,</p><p>encouragement, laughs, and pleasure.</p><p>Many people say that they are too busy to have long talks. Other people</p><p>prefer to watch television, play computer games, or listen to the radio</p><p>rather than talk to relatives and friends. Sometimes people feel too shy to</p><p>speak to the people next to them. Many Americans have forgotten how</p><p>to hold good, deep conversations, or even a friendly chat on the phone. I</p><p>suspect this lack of real communication lessens their daily joy.</p><p>Of course, people learning English as a second, third, or fourth language</p><p>face even more barriers to a satisfying conversation in English. First,</p><p>English remains a confusing, difficult, and strange language. It’s easy to</p><p>feel uncomfortable when speaking in this new tongue. What questions do</p><p>I ask? How can I keep a conversation going? What vocabulary words are</p><p>needed? How do I show agreement, or disagreement, in a lively, yet polite</p><p>way? How can I share my experiences in a clear manner? How can I have</p><p>better, more engaging conversations in English?</p><p>Compelling Conversations: Questions and Quotations on Timeless Topics addresses</p><p>these issues for both native and non-native speakers. The focus is on learn-</p><p>ing by doing, and making good mistakes. (Good mistakes, by the way, are</p><p>natural mistakes that help us learn so we can make different and better</p><p>“good mistakes” next time.)</p><p>Each of the 45 chapters includes 30 or more questions, 10 or more</p><p>targeted vocabulary words, a few proverbs, and 10 or more quotations.</p><p>Although designed for advanced students, intermediate ESL students will</p><p>find plenty of material to use and can benefit from exposure to the new</p><p>words, phrases, and questions.</p><p>Each chapter focuses on a promising conversation topic. The questions</p><p>allow the reader to practice exchanging experiences and ideas in a natural</p><p>style. You can add questions, skip questions, and move on to related topics.</p><p>Each chapter begins with easier questions and moves on to questions that</p><p>are more abstract. Both native and non-native speakers will find the ques-</p><p>tions allow one to share experiences, exchange insights, and reflect on life.</p><p>A n o t e o n t e r m s</p><p>ESL, short for English as a</p><p>Second Language, remains</p><p>the most common term in the</p><p>United States—especially in</p><p>public education.</p><p>TESOL, the largest</p><p>professional organization,</p><p>stands for Teachers of</p><p>English to Speakers of Other</p><p>Languages. Many scholars</p><p>prefer to break down the field</p><p>into sub-categories such as:</p><p>EFL: English as a Foreign</p><p>Language</p><p>ESP: English for Special</p><p>Purposes</p><p>ELT: English Language</p><p>Teaching, and</p><p>ELL: English Language</p><p>Learners.</p><p>We use ESL for both simplicity</p><p>and convenience since we live</p><p>in the United States.</p><p>v i i i • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>A few more tips for</p><p>satisfying conversations</p><p>with your partners:</p><p>• Be active</p><p>• Be curious</p><p>• Be encouraging</p><p>• Be kind</p><p>• Be open</p><p>• Be tolerant</p><p>• Make good mistakes</p><p>• Be yourself</p><p>The questions are conversation starters, and not scripts to follow. The goal</p><p>remains to create a real dialogue, increase your understanding of your</p><p>classmates, and gently push you toward using a richer vocabulary in your</p><p>English conversations.</p><p>Many of these conversation worksheets were originally developed for</p><p>an Advanced Conversation class that met four hours a week, 15 weeks</p><p>a semester. The original college course textbook offered little more</p><p>i o n s</p><p>Pick your favorite five quotations, and explain your choices.</p><p>1. “The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for</p><p>the past, not to worry about the future, not to anticipate troubles,</p><p>but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.”</p><p>—Siddhartha Guatama (563–483 B.C.E.), philosopher</p><p>2. “The first duty of a physician is that he should do the sick no</p><p>harm.”</p><p>—Hippocrates (460–380 B.C.E.), ancient Greek physician</p><p>3. “It is part of the cure to wish to be cured.”</p><p>—Seneca the Younger (4 B.C.E.–65 A.D.), Roman philosopher/</p><p>statesmen</p><p>4. “Better use medicines at the outset than at the last moment.”</p><p>—Publilius Syrus (85–43 B.C.E.), Roman writer</p><p>5. “Body and spirit are twins: God only knows which is which.”</p><p>—Algernon Swinburne (1837–1909), English writer and critic</p><p>6. “A sound mind in a sound body is a short, but full description of a</p><p>happy state in this world.”</p><p>—John Locke (1632–1704), English philosopher</p><p>7. “Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy, and</p><p>wise.”</p><p>—Benjamin Franklin (1706–1790), American icon</p><p>8. “Health is so necessary to all duties, as well as the pleasures of life,</p><p>that the crime of squandering it is equal to folly.”</p><p>—Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709–1784), British writer</p><p>9. “You can’t lose weight by talking about it. You have to keep your</p><p>mouth shut.”</p><p>—The Old Farmer’s Almanac</p><p>10. “You can’t ignore the importance of a good digestion.</p><p>The joy of life...depends on a sound stomach.”</p><p>—Joseph Conrad (1857–1924), English author</p><p>11. “There is no cure for birth or death save to enjoy the interval.”</p><p>—George Santayana (1863–1952), American philosopher</p><p>12. “The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don’t want,</p><p>drink what you don’t like, and do what you’d rather not.”</p><p>—Mark Twain (1835–1910), American humorist</p><p>13. “Be careful about reading a health book.</p><p>You may die of a misprint.”</p><p>—Mark Twain (1835–1910), American humorist</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>List your top five tips for</p><p>staying healthy and happy.</p><p>Prepare to share your advice</p><p>with the class.</p><p>1. ...............................................</p><p>2. ...............................................</p><p>3. ...............................................</p><p>4. ...............................................</p><p>5. ...............................................</p><p>2 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>“Honor thy father and thy mother.”</p><p>The bible,</p><p>Exodus</p><p>s h A r i n g e x P e r i e n c e s</p><p>Everyone was once a child; most are or will become parents. Share your</p><p>experiences and exchange ideas on parenting pleasures and challenges.</p><p>1. Where are you in your family’s birth order?</p><p>2. How old were your parents when you were born?</p><p>3. Did your parents ever live with their parents?</p><p>4. When you were a baby, who was your primary caretaker?</p><p>5. What activities do you remember doing with your mother?</p><p>6. What activities do you remember doing with your father?</p><p>7. Do you remember playing with your parents? What did you play?</p><p>8. When you were a child, were you ever punished? How? Why?</p><p>9. Which of your parents was the main disciplinarian in your family?</p><p>10. Were the rules different for girls than for boys?</p><p>What about family expectations for girls and boys?</p><p>11. Do you remember helping either of your parents with chores?</p><p>Which ones?</p><p>12. Do you know any parents that hovered over their children like a</p><p>helicopter? Why or why not?</p><p>13. What did your parents expect from you as a teenager?</p><p>Did you rebel?</p><p>14. Which parenting duties do you think your parents did well?</p><p>15. What would you like to change about the way your parents treated</p><p>you as a child? A teenager? Why?</p><p>16. Are you close with your father or mother now?</p><p>What do you do together?</p><p>17. Do you resemble either of your parents? How?</p><p>18. What are you grateful to your parents for?</p><p>9</p><p>PARenting</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 2 7</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle the words that you know. Write three questions with them.</p><p>primary .....................................................................................................</p><p>duties .........................................................................................................</p><p>caretaker ...................................................................................................</p><p>chores ........................................................................................................</p><p>estranged ...................................................................................................</p><p>protect .......................................................................................................</p><p>loyal ...........................................................................................................</p><p>sacrifice .....................................................................................................</p><p>spank .........................................................................................................</p><p>qualities .....................................................................................................</p><p>resemble ....................................................................................................</p><p>ideal ...........................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Do you know these proverbs? What are some others about parenting?</p><p>Love your children with your heart,</p><p>but train them with your hands.—Ukrainian</p><p>Don’t threaten a child; either punish him or forgive him.—Talmud</p><p>It’s an ill bird that fouls its own nest.—Chinese</p><p>Emeralds and crystals glitter when lit.—Japanese</p><p>Spare the rod and spoil the child.—The Bible</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Are you especially close with any of your siblings?</p><p>What do you do together?</p><p>2. Are you estranged from any of your siblings? Why?</p><p>3. Do you have children? What are their ages?</p><p>4. Can you briefly describe each of your children?</p><p>What do they like to do?</p><p>5. Do you want children? How many?</p><p>6. In what ways do you hope to repeat the parenting skills of your</p><p>father and mother? How would you describe their parenting style?</p><p>7. Are there also ways you hope to be a better parent than your</p><p>parents? How?</p><p>8. When, if ever, do you discipline your children? What are some</p><p>methods of discipline? Talking? Additional chores? Grounding?</p><p>Spanking? What works best?</p><p>9. How do parents sacrifice for their children?</p><p>Why isn’t this always appreciated?</p><p>10. What do you think is the ideal age for parents to be? Why?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be kind</p><p>Be open</p><p>Be supportive</p><p>“When i was a boy of fourteen, my</p><p>father was so ignorant i could hardly</p><p>stand to have the old man around.</p><p>But when i got to be twenty-one, i</p><p>was astonished at how much he had</p><p>learned in seven years.”</p><p>Mark Twain (1835–1910) American</p><p>humorist</p><p>2 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>11. In what ways was it easier to be a parent 40 years ago?</p><p>How was it more difficult?</p><p>12. What are some problems that parents face today?</p><p>13. What are some “good mistakes” that parents sometimes make?</p><p>14. What are some of the satisfactions of being a parent?</p><p>15. What movies have touched you by their depiction of parents and</p><p>children?</p><p>16. How would you describe an ideal father? Ideal mother?</p><p>17. What five qualities would you like your children to have?</p><p>18. Can you share your top five tips for being a loving parent?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Circle the quotations that you agree with.</p><p>1. “Children today are tyrants. They contradict their parents, gobble</p><p>their food, and tyrannize their teachers.”</p><p>—Socrates (469–399 B.C.E.), Greek philosopher</p><p>2. “Obeying from love is better than obeying from fear.”</p><p>—Rashi (1040–1105), rabbi and scholar</p><p>3. “Give me the children until they are seven and anyone may have</p><p>them afterwards.”</p><p>—Saint Francis Xavier (1506–1552), Catholic educator</p><p>4. “A child is not a vase to be filled, but a fire to be lit.”</p><p>—Rabelais (1494–1553) French essayist and humanist</p><p>5. “Before I got married, I had six theories about bringing up children.</p><p>Now I have six children and no theories.”</p><p>—John Wilmot, Lord Rochester (1647–1680)</p><p>6. “The first half of our lives is ruined by our parents, and the second</p><p>half by our children.”</p><p>—Clarence Darrow (1857–1938) American lawyer</p><p>7. “No two children are ever born into the same family.”</p><p>—Leo Rosten (1908–1997) American writer</p><p>8. “Insanity is hereditary; you can get it from your children.”</p><p>—Sam Levenson, (1911–1980) American humorist and journalist</p><p>9. “The children have been a wonderful gift to me, and I’m thankful to</p><p>have once again seen the world through their eyes.”</p><p>—Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis (1929–1994) first lady</p><p>10. “No parent should ever have to choose between work and family;</p><p>between earning a decent wage and caring for a child.”</p><p>—Bill Clinton (1946–) 42nd U.S. President</p><p>11. “In the final analysis, it is not what you do for your children, but</p><p>what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make</p><p>them successful human beings.”</p><p>—Ann Landers, (1918–2002) advice columnist</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Interview a successful parent.</p><p>What tips does</p><p>that person offer?</p><p>OR</p><p>List five things you</p><p>are grateful for.</p><p>1. ...............................................</p><p>2. ...............................................</p><p>3. ...............................................</p><p>4. ...............................................</p><p>5. ...............................................</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 2 9</p><p>“When the character of a</p><p>man is not clear to you,</p><p>look at his friends.”</p><p>Japanese proverb</p><p>s h A r i n g m e m o r i e s</p><p>We all want good friends. How does one make good friends? Share your</p><p>ideas about friendship with your partner.</p><p>1. Did you have a best friend when you were an 8-year-old? Who?</p><p>2. What did you do together? Can you describe your best friend?</p><p>3. Who was your best friend when you were 14? What did you do?</p><p>4. Are you still friends, or pals, with the best friends of your youth?</p><p>5. Why do best friends sometimes drift apart?</p><p>6. What are some tips for keeping a friendship strong?</p><p>7. Who is your best friend now? How did you meet your best friend?</p><p>8. What activities do you do with your friend?</p><p>What makes this friendship special?</p><p>9. What do you and your best friend have in common?</p><p>10. How are you and your best friend different?</p><p>11. Have you seen the TV show “Friends”? Do you like it? Who is</p><p>your favorite character?</p><p>12. Can you think of a good movie about friendship?</p><p>13. In your opinion, are there rules for a friendship?</p><p>14. What are some things that a good friend should do?</p><p>15. Are there things that a good friend should not do? Like what?</p><p>16. Do you think you are a good friend to others? In what ways?</p><p>17. Do you think friends should loan each other money? Why or why</p><p>not?</p><p>18. How do you deepen friendships? Can you share five tips for</p><p>making and keeping friends?</p><p>19. Which of your friends would make good roommates? Why?</p><p>20. Do you have any friends that you would not want as roommates?</p><p>10</p><p>mAking AnD keePing fRienDs</p><p>3 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Use the words or phrases you know in sentences.</p><p>fast friends .................................................................................................</p><p>pal .............................................................................................................</p><p>drift apart ..................................................................................................</p><p>crisis ..........................................................................................................</p><p>opinion in common ..................................................................................</p><p>circle of friends .........................................................................................</p><p>betray ........................................................................................................</p><p>roommate .................................................................................................</p><p>Googled ....................................................................................................</p><p>supportive .................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Circle the proverbs with which you agree.</p><p>A friend in need is a friend indeed.—Latin</p><p>Never catch a falling knife or a falling friend.—Scottish</p><p>Do not protect yourself by a fence,</p><p>but rather by your friends.—Czech</p><p>Do not use a hatchet to remove a fly from your friend’s face.—Chinese</p><p>Lend money to a good friend, and you will lose the</p><p>money as well as your friend.—Korean</p><p>Fate chooses your relatives; you choose your friends.—French</p><p>Your best friend is yourself.—American</p><p>Your best friend won’t tell you.—Mouthwash ad</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Why do fast friends often form in crisis situations?</p><p>2. How do you meet new friends? Do you have any tips for making</p><p>friends?</p><p>3. How do you keep in touch with friends?</p><p>4. Do you use instant messaging with friends?</p><p>5. Have you ever Googled a friend, coworker, or date?</p><p>6. Do you think that people of the opposite sex can be friends?</p><p>7. Have you ever had a good friend of the opposite sex?</p><p>8. Do you think one can truly be friends with former romantic partners?</p><p>9. Do you know a married couple who are best friends?</p><p>10. If so, why do you think that works?</p><p>11. Have you ever felt betrayed by a friend? How did you react?</p><p>12. Do you think it is fair to judge people by their friends? Why?</p><p>13. Do you have a close circle of friends? What unites you?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be active</p><p>Be encouraging</p><p>Be curious</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 3 1</p><p>14. Can one be friends with one’s parents? Why or why not?</p><p>15. Can one be friends with one’s children? Why or why not?</p><p>16. Can you think of classic stories about true friendship?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read the quotations aloud. With your partner, decide what they mean.</p><p>Then, circle the ones with which you agree.</p><p>1. “Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all</p><p>other goods.”</p><p>—Aristotle (384–322 B.C.E.), Greek philosopher</p><p>2. “Have no friends not equal to yourself.”</p><p>—Confucius (551–479 B.C.E.), Chinese philosopher</p><p>3. “A faithful friend is the medicine of life.”</p><p>—Ecclesiastes 6:16</p><p>4. “The shifts of Fortune test the reliability of friends.”</p><p>—Cicero (106–43 B.C.E.), Roman statesman</p><p>5. “It is more shameful to distrust our friends than to be deceived by</p><p>them.”</p><p>—Duc de La Rochefoucauld (1613–1680)</p><p>6. “Don’t walk behind me, I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me, I</p><p>may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.”</p><p>—Albert Camus (1913–1960), French novelist</p><p>7. “Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born</p><p>until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is</p><p>born.”</p><p>— Anaïs Nin (1903–1977) French-American author</p><p>8. “If a man does not make new acquaintances as he advances</p><p>through life, he will soon find himself alone. A man should keep his</p><p>friendships in constant repair. ”</p><p>—Samuel Johnson (1709–1784) English scholar</p><p>9. (A friend is) “Someone who will help you move; a good friend is</p><p>someone who will help you move a body.”</p><p>—Alexei Sayle (1952–), British comedian and actor</p><p>10. “Animals are such agreeable friends; they ask no questions, they</p><p>pass no criticisms.”</p><p>—George Eliot/Mary Ann Evans (1819–1880), English novel</p><p>11. “One’s friends are that part of the human race with which one can</p><p>be human.”</p><p>—George Santayana (1863–1952) philosopher</p><p>12. “It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a</p><p>friend.”</p><p>—William Blake (1757–1827), English poet</p><p>13. “Have friends. It’s a second existence.”</p><p>—Baltasar Gracian, (1601–1658), Spanish philosopher</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Write a letter, by hand</p><p>or on a computer, to</p><p>a friend that you have</p><p>not communicated with</p><p>recently. Feel free to</p><p>include photos, etc.</p><p>Share it with your group.</p><p>3 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>“Heaven goes by favor; if it went by</p><p>merit, you would stay out and your</p><p>dog would go in.”</p><p>Mark Twain (1835–1910)</p><p>American writer and humorist</p><p>s h A r i n g m e m o r i e s</p><p>Please ask your partner about their dog or other pet. Take turns so the</p><p>conversation flows. Encourage your partner.</p><p>1. Are you an animal lover or a pet person?</p><p>Can I call you a “dog person”?</p><p>2. What is the name of your favorite pet? How did you choose it?</p><p>3. What does, or did, your favorite dog/pet look like?</p><p>Can you describe your pet?</p><p>4. Can you tell me about your dog’s personality?</p><p>What makes this pet special for you?</p><p>5. How did your dog join your family?</p><p>What were some factors in your decision?</p><p>6. What are your favorite photographs of your favorite dog?</p><p>Are they displayed?</p><p>7. Did you train your dog? How? To do what? Why?</p><p>8. How do you take care of your dog? Give specific examples.</p><p>9. So, what makes a good pet owner or guardian?</p><p>What are the tips and taboos?</p><p>10. How do you play with your dog (or other pet)?</p><p>What do you enjoy doing together?</p><p>11. Does your dog like car trips? Beach walks? Hikes? Parks? Playing</p><p>with Frisbees?</p><p>12. What else does your favorite pet like to do?</p><p>13. How did others in your family feel about your favorite dog/rabbit/</p><p>fish/bird/other pet?</p><p>14. Why are dogs good pets? Do you agree that dogs are the ideal pet?</p><p>15. What are some challenges with having a dog?</p><p>16. What are some dog breeds that you think are beautiful? Strange?</p><p>11</p><p>loving Dogs AnD otHeR Pets</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 3 3</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Define the words you know.</p><p>personality ................................................................................................</p><p>rescued ......................................................................................................</p><p>mutt ...........................................................................................................</p><p>purebred ...................................................................................................</p><p>veterinarian ...............................................................................................</p><p>spayed .......................................................................................................</p><p>guardian ....................................................................................................</p><p>train ...........................................................................................................</p><p>pamper ......................................................................................................</p><p>allergies .....................................................................................................</p><p>fashionable ................................................................................................</p><p>dogma .......................................................................................................</p><p>i d i o m s</p><p>Do you know these common idioms? What do they mean?</p><p>His bark is worse than his bite.</p><p>It’s raining cats and dogs.</p><p>She’s sniffing the air before making a decision.</p><p>He’s like a dog marking his territory.</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Can you think of another proverb about dogs?</p><p>Let sleeping dogs lie.—German</p><p>A dog is man’s best friend.—English</p><p>Two dogs can kill a lion.—Jewish</p><p>(Add your own) .........................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. What is a purebred? What’s a mutt?</p><p>2. Have you ever owned a purebred dog? What kind?</p><p>3. Have you ever owned a mutt? What did your mutt look like?</p><p>4. When did you first get a dog? How old were you?</p><p>5. How do dogs help people? Can you name some professions for dogs?</p><p>6. Have you ever known an animal that rescued a person? How?</p><p>7. What’s the most extraordinary thing you’ve heard a pet do?</p><p>8. What are some disadvantages to having pets? How could pets cause</p><p>trouble?</p><p>9. Have you ever taken a pet to a veterinarian? Did it get a</p><p>vaccination? Why?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be active</p><p>Be open</p><p>Be sympathetic</p><p>3 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>10. Why do some cities encourage people to spay or neuter their pets?</p><p>11. How did you express your grief when your pet died?</p><p>What did you do to honor your memories together?</p><p>12. Are pets treated different in the United States than your native</p><p>country? Can you give an example?</p><p>13. Have you ever watched a dog show ? What was your reaction?</p><p>14. Are you allergic to any animals? Which ones? What do you do for</p><p>your allergies?</p><p>15. Can you name movies that star dogs? Other animals? Which was</p><p>your favorite?</p><p>16. What books or songs celebrate dogs? Other pets?</p><p>Which was your favorite?</p><p>17. What do you think children learn from having pets?</p><p>18. Pet robots and virtual pets are now available. Why do you think</p><p>these hi-tech toys have become fashionable?</p><p>19. Who do you think might buy pet robots? Why?</p><p>20. Why are we so devoted to our pets? Why do we love them so much?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Pick your favorite three quotations. Explain your choices.</p><p>1. “If you lie down with dogs, you’ll rise up with fleas.”</p><p>—Benjamin Franklin (1706–1790), American icon</p><p>2. “Mad dogs and Englishmen go out in the noonday sun.”</p><p>—Noel Coward (1899–1973), dramatist</p><p>3. “A dog starved at his master’s gate, Predicts the ruin of the state.”</p><p>—William Blake (1757–1827, English poet</p><p>4. “To his dog, every man is Napoleon; hence the popularity of dogs.”</p><p>—Aldous Huxley (1894–1963) British novelist</p><p>5. “The more I see of men, the more I like dogs.”</p><p>—Madame de Stael (1766–1817), French writer</p><p>6. “If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not</p><p>bite you; that is the principal difference between a dog and a man.”</p><p>—Mark Twain (1835–1910), writer</p><p>7. “If man’s best friend is a dog, his worst is dogma.”</p><p>—Leo Rosten (1908–1997), writer</p><p>8. “I like pigs. Dogs look up to us. Cat look down on us. Pigs treat us as</p><p>equals.”—Winston Churchill (1874–1965), British Prime Minister</p><p>9. “Animals are such agreeable friends–they ask no questions, they pass</p><p>no criticisms.”—George Elliot (1819–1890), English novelist</p><p>10. “What counts is not necessarily the size of the dog in the fight–it’s</p><p>the size of the fight in the dog.”</p><p>—Dwight D. “Ike” Eisenhower (1890–1969), 34th U.S. President</p><p>11. “Dogs are our link to paradise.”</p><p>—Milan Kundera (1929–) Franco-Czech novelist</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Some people say that dogs and</p><p>their owners look alike. As you</p><p>walk or ride around in the next</p><p>few days, observe dog owners</p><p>and their dogs.</p><p>Try to find at least five</p><p>examples. What do you think?</p><p>Do dog owners resemble their</p><p>dogs? What did you find out?</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 3 5</p><p>c h At t i n g</p><p>Pet owners often enjoy talking about their animals. Interview your partner.</p><p>1. Do you like cats? Are you a cat person? Why or why not?</p><p>2. Which do you like better, cats or dogs? Why?</p><p>3. Have you ever owned a cat? What was its name?</p><p>4. Do you prefer indoor cats or outdoor cats? Why?</p><p>5. How can cats be helpful to people?</p><p>6. Why do farmers often have cats in their barns?</p><p>7. What are some of the things that kittens like to play with?</p><p>8. How do cats keep clean? Have you ever tried to wash a cat?</p><p>9. Can you name a purebred long-haired cat?</p><p>10. Can you name a purebred short-haired cat?</p><p>11. Have you ever read</p><p>the popular children’s book The Cat in the Hat?</p><p>Have you ever read any other books by Dr. Seuss?</p><p>12. Can you describe how a cat moves?</p><p>13. What are some colors that cats come in?</p><p>14. Can you make the purr sound a happy cat might make?</p><p>15. Can you make the hissing sound an angry cat might make?</p><p>16. Do you consider cats a blessing or a burden?</p><p>17. What is a feral cat? Are there many stray cats in your area?</p><p>18. Why do you think cats were considered sacred in ancient Egypt?</p><p>19. Can you name some of the big cats in the cat family?</p><p>20. Have you ever seen a lion or a tiger? Where?</p><p>“the way to keep a cat is</p><p>to try and chase it away.”</p><p>Ed Howe (1853–1937),</p><p>American humorist</p><p>12</p><p>CAts, AnD moRe CAts</p><p>3 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle the words you know. Ask your partner about the other words.</p><p>kitten .........................................................................................................</p><p>sanctuary ...................................................................................................</p><p>purr ...........................................................................................................</p><p>circus .........................................................................................................</p><p>feral ...........................................................................................................</p><p>hiss.............................................................................................................</p><p>predator ....................................................................................................</p><p>roar ............................................................................................................</p><p>endangered ...............................................................................................</p><p>stray ...........................................................................................................</p><p>s e n t e n c e s A n d i d i o m s</p><p>What do these expressions mean? Discuss with your group.</p><p>Shh! Shh! Don’t let the cat out of the bag.</p><p>Has the cat got your tongue?</p><p>She made a very catty remark about you.</p><p>He has the heart of a lion.</p><p>There’s more than one way to skin a cat.</p><p>P r o v e r b s A n d s Ay i n g s</p><p>Circle the proverbs that you have heard before. Add another.</p><p>A cat has nine lives.</p><p>While the cat’s away, the mice will play.</p><p>Even a cat is a lion in her own lair.—Indian</p><p>When the mouse laughs at the cat,</p><p>there is a hole nearby.—Nigerian</p><p>Even the lion has to defend himself against flies.—German</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Do large cats like lions or jaguars roam wild in your native country?</p><p>2. Can you make the sound of a roar of a lion?</p><p>3. Why do you think a lion is called the “king of the jungle”? Which</p><p>animal would you consider the peasant?</p><p>4. Have you ever hunted for a large cat? Would you like to? Why?</p><p>5. Have you seen large cats in zoos? Which zoos? Which cats?</p><p>6. Have you seen large cats in a circus? Which cats? What did they do?</p><p>7. Why do you think someone might become a lion tamer?</p><p>8. What is a predator? What animals are natural predators? Is man?</p><p>9. What are some ways that cats, big or small, are used as symbols?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 3 7</p><p>10. What does “endangered” mean? What are some endangered</p><p>animals?</p><p>11. Is it okay to kill endangered animals? Why or why not?</p><p>12. Can you think of anyone who had a lion, tiger, or other exotic</p><p>animal as a pet?</p><p>13. Do you think a lion or tiger can really be a trustworthy pet?</p><p>14. What are animal sanctuaries? Why are they expanding?</p><p>15. What are some ways that people can help protect lions, panthers,</p><p>and tigers?</p><p>16. What books, movies, paintings, etc. have been inspired by cats?</p><p>17. Why do both wild cats and domesticated pets fascinate humans?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Pick your three favorite quotations. Memorize one of the three.</p><p>1. “An oppressive government is more to be feared than a tiger.”</p><p>—Confucius (551–479 B.C.E.), China’s most influential philosopher</p><p>2. “I was not a lion, but it fell to me to give the lion’s roar.”</p><p>—Winston Churchill (1874–1965), British orator and prime minister</p><p>3. “I’m like a lion–I roar. If someone betrays me, I won’t be a victim. I</p><p>don’t sulk. I get angry.”</p><p>—Lisa Marie Presley (1968–), daughter of Elvis Presley</p><p>4. “When a man wants to murder a tiger, he calls it sport; when a tiger</p><p>wants to murder him, he calls it ferocity.”</p><p>—George Bernard Shaw (1856–1950), playwright</p><p>5. “Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should</p><p>relax and get used to the idea.”</p><p>—Robert A. Heinlein (1907–1988), science fiction writer</p><p>6. “Lettin’ the cat outta the bag is a whole lot easier ‘n puttin’ it back</p><p>in.”—Will Rogers (1879–1935), American entertainer</p><p>7. “‘I know a good game we could play,’ said the cat. ‘I know some</p><p>new tricks,’ said the Cat in a Hat.”</p><p>—Dr. Seuss (1904–1991), author of children’s books</p><p>8. “The tigers of wrath are wiser than</p><p>the horses of instruction.”</p><p>—William Blake (1757–1827),</p><p>English poet and artist</p><p>9. “One of the striking differences</p><p>between a cat and a lie is that a cat</p><p>has only nine lives.”</p><p>—Mark Twain (1835–1910),</p><p>American writer and humorist</p><p>10. “With cats, some say, one rule</p><p>is true: Don’t speak till you</p><p>are spoken to.”—T.S. Eliot</p><p>(1888–1965), British poet</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>In the Word Search, find and</p><p>circle the following 10 words:</p><p>KITTENS, TABBY, ROAR,</p><p>LION, CLAW, TIGER,</p><p>SIAMESE, MEOW, CAT,</p><p>and MEW. The words may</p><p>be across, up and down, or</p><p>diagonal.</p><p>K L C C L A W</p><p>S I A M E S E</p><p>R O T A B B Y</p><p>O N I T M Z K</p><p>A S G W E C W</p><p>R M E W O N R</p><p>X B R I W A S</p><p>3 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>s h A r i n g c o m P l A i n t s</p><p>Sometimes things annoy us, and that’s okay. Share your complaints and</p><p>pet peeves with your partner. Laughing and sighing can help.</p><p>1. What annoys you? Do you have any pet peeves?</p><p>2. Do you prefer sales pitches in person, by phone, or on TV? Why?</p><p>3. How can salespeople be annoying? Can you give some examples?</p><p>4. Have you ever had serious email problems? How did you respond?</p><p>5. What technology or gadget bothers you? Why?</p><p>6. Do you quickly figure out how new appliances work?</p><p>7. What common behavior do you often find offensive? Why?</p><p>8. What are some things that you find impolite? Give examples.</p><p>9. What is litter? Have you seen any litterbugs? Where does litter</p><p>bother you most?</p><p>10. What do you consider bad cell phone manners or habits?</p><p>11. When, or where, do you most often see people stressed?</p><p>12. What behavior might be considered irritating in a neighbor? Have</p><p>you ever had a noisy neighbor? Can you give an example of a</p><p>difficult neighbor?</p><p>13. Is there a difference between assertive and aggressive? How do</p><p>aggressive people make you feel? How do you tend to respond?</p><p>14. Are there many aggressive drivers in your area? Is “road rage” a</p><p>problem?</p><p>15. What behavior would be strange for a man, but normal for a</p><p>woman?</p><p>16. What behavior might seem odd for a woman, but normal for a man?</p><p>17. Is there a double standard for men and women? How? Is this fair?</p><p>“if you haven’t anything nice</p><p>to say, come sit by me.”</p><p>Alice roosevelt Longworth (1884–1980),</p><p>icon and Theodore roosevelt’s daughter</p><p>13</p><p>Pet Peeves</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 3 9</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Use them to write three questions.</p><p>annoy ........................................................................................................</p><p>rage ...........................................................................................................</p><p>peeve .........................................................................................................</p><p>bother ........................................................................................................</p><p>polite .........................................................................................................</p><p>impolite .....................................................................................................</p><p>offended ....................................................................................................</p><p>courtesy .....................................................................................................</p><p>litter ...........................................................................................................</p><p>litterbug .....................................................................................................</p><p>obnoxious ..................................................................................................</p><p>toxic ...........................................................................................................</p><p>profanity ....................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Read the common sayings and proverbs below. Can you add two more?</p><p>Recite “patience” three times and it will spare you a murder.—Korean</p><p>This is done and I’m to blame</p><p>Therefore, know that I’m in shame.—Persian</p><p>Control yourself: remember anger</p><p>is only one letter short of danger.—School poster</p><p>Love makes a good eye squint.—English</p><p>The reputation of a thousand years may be</p><p>determined by the conduct of one hour.—Japanese</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. What table manners or eating styles make you frown or annoy you?</p><p>2. When, if ever, does snoring, sneezing, or coughing bother you?</p><p>3. Where do you find adults generally act their worst? Why?</p><p>4. How does a polite child act? How does a rude child behave?</p><p>5. Where do people learn good manners? What are good manners?</p><p>6. What do you dislike about living here?</p><p>7. Can you describe a polite boss? A very difficult boss?</p><p>8. How have co-workers annoyed you? What did they do?</p><p>How did you handle difficult co-workers?</p><p>9. How have you handled working with rude customers? Are you able</p><p>to keep your cool?</p><p>10. Does foul language, or profanity, upset you? When?</p><p>11. What obnoxious ads have you had a strong negative reaction to?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be yourself</p><p>Be honest</p><p>make good mistakes</p><p>4 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>12. Have you ever walked out of a movie? Were you bored or</p><p>offended? Why?</p><p>13. Are there personality traits that you find extremely disagreeable?</p><p>14. How can someone really make you “blow your lid” or explode?</p><p>What brings out the worst in you? A family relative? A good friend?</p><p>15. What is something that once annoyed you that you have, over time,</p><p>come to tolerate?</p><p>16. Have you seen any changes in what are considered good manners</p><p>in your life? What?</p><p>17. Do you have any advice for dealing with difficult, moody, or “toxic”</p><p>people?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read aloud all the quotations. Pick your favorites and discuss.</p><p>1. “If you empty a cup of wine in one gulp, you are a drunkard.”</p><p>—Talmud</p><p>2. “The test of good manners is to be patient with bad ones.”</p><p>—Solomon ibn Gabriol (1021–1051) Hebrew poet</p><p>3. “Good manners are made up of petty sacrifices.”</p><p>—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882), writer</p><p>4. “Be polite; write diplomatically; even in a declaration of war one</p><p>observes the rules of politeness.”</p><p>—Otto von Bismarck (1815–1898), German Chancellor</p><p>5. “Never treat a guest like a member of the family—treat him with</p><p>courtesy.”</p><p>—Evan Esar (1899–1935), American humorist</p><p>6. “My dad was the town drunk. Usually that’s not so bad, but New</p><p>York City?”—Henry Youngman, comedian</p><p>7. “Isn’t it monstrous the way people go about saying things behind</p><p>other people’s backs that are absolutely and entirely true?”</p><p>—Oscar Wilde (1854–1900), playwright</p><p>8. “In the first place, God made idiots; this was for practice.</p><p>Then he made school boards.”</p><p>—Mark Twain (1835–1910), humorist</p><p>9. “The best way to be successful in Hollywood is to be as</p><p>obnoxious as the next guy.”</p><p>—Sylvester Stallone (1946–), actor and director</p><p>10. “Being a star has made it possible for me to get insulted in places</p><p>where the average Negro could never hope to get insulted.”</p><p>—Sammy Davis, Jr (1925–1990), American entertainer</p><p>11. “When you’re down and out, something always turns up–usually</p><p>the noses of your friends.”</p><p>—Orson Welles (1915–1985), actor and director</p><p>12. “Earthquakes bring out the worst in some guys.”</p><p>—George Kennedy in Earthquake</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Give a one-minute</p><p>presentation to the</p><p>class on your biggest</p><p>pet peeve.</p><p>“i’ve had a wonderful</p><p>evening–but this wasn’t it.”</p><p>groucho Marx (1895–1977), wit</p><p>Free tim</p><p>e</p><p>“Half our life is spent trying to</p><p>find something to do with the</p><p>time we have rushed through</p><p>life trying to save.”</p><p>Will rogers</p><p>(1879–1935), comedian</p><p>LAuriE SELik PHoTo</p><p>4 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>14</p><p>tRAveling</p><p>s h A r i n g e x P e r i e n c e s</p><p>Traveling can be wonderful or awful. How have you fared? Chat with</p><p>your class partner about your travels.</p><p>1. What is your native country?</p><p>2. In which region or city did you live in your homeland?</p><p>3. Were there any nearby tourist attractions? If so, what were they?</p><p>4. What did you travel to see in your native land?</p><p>5. What spot in your homeland was most interesting to you? Why?</p><p>6. Would you recommend that tourists from other lands visit there?</p><p>Why? Why not?</p><p>7. Are there popular vacation sites in your homeland? What are they?</p><p>8. Do you like to use travel guidebooks? Which ones? How are</p><p>guidebooks useful?</p><p>9. What are some other good sources of travel information?</p><p>10. In which other countries have you traveled?</p><p>11. Did you plan where you would go before you left?</p><p>12. Did you make reservations ahead of time?</p><p>13. Did you travel alone or with others?</p><p>14. Of the places you have been, which was the prettiest?</p><p>15. Of the places you have been, which was the most impressive?</p><p>16. Of the places you have been, which was the most educational?</p><p>How?</p><p>17. In the countries you visited, which people were the friendliest?</p><p>18. In the countries you visited, which people were the least friendly?</p><p>19. What languages have you spoken while traveling?</p><p>20. What are some useful phrases to learn in a foreign language? Why?</p><p>“travel is never a destination,</p><p>but a way of looking.”</p><p>Henry Miller (1891–1982),</p><p>novelist</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 4 3</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>With the help if your partner, define the meaning of each of the</p><p>following words or phrases.</p><p>site .............................................................................................................</p><p>homeland ..................................................................................................</p><p>native country ...........................................................................................</p><p>region ........................................................................................................</p><p>popular ......................................................................................................</p><p>recommend ...............................................................................................</p><p>luggage ......................................................................................................</p><p>eventually ..................................................................................................</p><p>cheated ......................................................................................................</p><p>exchanged .................................................................................................</p><p>wander ......................................................................................................</p><p>impressive .................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Can you add another proverb about traveling?</p><p>When in Rome, do as the Romans.—Latin</p><p>All roads lead to Rome.—Latin</p><p>Every land has its own law.—Scottish</p><p>Fish and visitors smell after three days.—American</p><p>In an undeveloped country, don’t drink the water.</p><p>In a developed country, don’t breathe the air.—Anonymous</p><p>Let yourself go.—Travel slogan</p><p>(Add your own) ........................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. While traveling, were you ever afraid? Why?</p><p>2. While traveling, were you ever lost? Where were you?</p><p>3. Have you ever taken a tour? When? Where?</p><p>4. Have you ever asked a person on the street for help while you were</p><p>traveling? What happened?</p><p>5. Have you ever asked for help from an embassy or Traveler’s Aid?</p><p>5. What happened? Did you receive help?</p><p>6. Were you ever cheated by a store or restaurant while you were</p><p>traveling? What did you say or do? How did you react?</p><p>7. Have you ever taken a wild taxi ride? What happened?</p><p>8. Did you ever lose your luggage? Did you eventually get it?</p><p>9. Where do you exchange money when you travel?</p><p>Is foreign money confusing?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be curious</p><p>Be open</p><p>Have fun</p><p>4 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>10. Is there any country you would like to visit again?</p><p>What sites would you visit?</p><p>11. Is there any country outside your native country in which you</p><p>would like to live?</p><p>12. Where have you traveled in the United States?</p><p>13. Has any place surprised you? How was it different from what you</p><p>expected?</p><p>14. Where would you like to travel next? Why?</p><p>What would you most like to see?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read aloud each of the following quotations. Talk about their meaning</p><p>with your partner. Then, circle your favorite.</p><p>1. “The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only a</p><p>page.”—Saint Augustine (354–430), Catholic theologian</p><p>2. “Your land and home and pleasant wife must be left behind.”</p><p>—Horace (65–8 B.C.E.), Roman lyric poet</p><p>3. “I travel for travel’s sake.”</p><p>—Robert Louis Stevenson (1850–1894), writer</p><p>4. “What was important then was not that the beggar was drunk</p><p>and reeling, but that he was mounted on his horse, and, however</p><p>unsteadily, was going somewhere.”</p><p>—Thomas Wolfe in You Can’t Go Home Again</p><p>5. “When traveling with someone, take large doses of patience and</p><p>tolerance with your morning coffee.”</p><p>—Helen Hayes, (1900–1993), American actress</p><p>6. “He travels best who knows when to return.”</p><p>—Thomas Middleton (1580–1627), playwright</p><p>7. “What gives value to travel is fear.”—Albert Camus (1913–1960),</p><p>French writer, Nobel Prize for Literature</p><p>8. “Traveling is a fool’s paradise.”</p><p>—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882), writer</p><p>9. “There is wisdom in turning as often as possible from the familiar</p><p>to the unfamiliar; it keeps the mind nimble; it kills prejudice, and it</p><p>fosters humor.”—George Santayanya (1863–1952), philosopher</p><p>10. “…traveling, we are born again, able to return at moments to a</p><p>younger and more open self.”</p><p>—Pico Iyer (1957–) travel writer</p><p>11. “Never go on trips with anyone you do not love.”</p><p>—Ernest Hemingway (1899–1961), Nobel Prize-winning novelist</p><p>12. “Travel is the best way we have of rescuing the humanity of</p><p>places, and saving them from abstraction and ideology.”</p><p>—Pico Iyer (1957–) travel writer</p><p>13. “The traveler sees what he sees; the tourist sees what he has come</p><p>to see.”—G.K. Chesterton (1874–1936), English writer</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Write a short report on a place</p><p>you have been. Then, present</p><p>your report to the class.</p><p>Use at least one map,</p><p>photograph, or other visual</p><p>aid so the class can more easily</p><p>share your experience.</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 4 5</p><p>c h At t i n g</p><p>California, nicknamed the Golden State, evokes many images. Ameri-</p><p>cans have also created many myths about California with colorful post-</p><p>ers, television shows, and numerous movies. Interview your partner and</p><p>share your impressions of California.</p><p>1. What are some famous places in California?</p><p>2. What are some beautiful places in California?</p><p>3. Have you seen any pictures from California? What was in the</p><p>picture?</p><p>4. Has California been in the news lately? Why?</p><p>5. Have you seen any movies that took place in California? Which?</p><p>6. Have you ever visited California? Why? When?</p><p>7. Have you ever lived in California? Where? When?</p><p>8. Can you name some cities in California?</p><p>9. Can you name any national parks in California?</p><p>10. Who are some famous people who have called California home?</p><p>11. How would you describe the climate in California?</p><p>12. How do you think being so close to Mexico has influenced</p><p>California?</p><p>13. What are some cultural institutions in Los Angeles?</p><p>14. What are some tourist sights in San Francisco?</p><p>15. Which cities would you like to visit?</p><p>16. Where else would you like to visit in California? Why?</p><p>17. Do you have relatives in California? Who?</p><p>18. How would you prepare for a two-week trip to California?</p><p>19. Which adjectives would you use to describe California? Why?</p><p>20. Do you think you would like to live in California? Why?</p><p>“as one went to europe to see the</p><p>living past, so one must visit southern</p><p>California to see the future.”</p><p>Alison Lurie (1926–),</p><p>American novelist</p><p>15</p><p>CAlifoRniA CAlling</p><p>4 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>With your partner, give short definitions for these words.</p><p>landscape ..................................................................................................</p><p>vacation .....................................................................................................</p><p>memorable ................................................................................................</p><p>gold rush ...................................................................................................</p><p>homesick ...................................................................................................</p><p>factors ........................................................................................................</p><p>tipping point .............................................................................................</p><p>distinctive ..................................................................................................</p><p>desert .........................................................................................................</p><p>guidebook .................................................................................................</p><p>nickname ..................................................................................................</p><p>attraction ...................................................................................................</p><p>s Ay i n g s</p><p>Go West, young man.</p><p>As California goes, so goes America.</p><p>California is the America of America.</p><p>California is full of nuts and berries.</p><p>Hooray for Hollywood!</p><p>I left my heart in San Francisco.</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>The California myth remains strong as over 35 million people pursue</p><p>their American dreams in the nation’s most populous state. Millions more</p><p>have visited, and collected memories. These questions focus on their</p><p>experiences in the Golden State.</p><p>1. What brought you to California? Business? Pleasure? Other?</p><p>2. How long did you spend in California?</p><p>3. Where did you enter California? Were you traveling alone?</p><p>4. Have you visited San Diego? Los Angeles? San Francisco?</p><p>5. Have you driven on the highways? Where did you go?</p><p>6. Do you like deserts? Have you been to Joshua Tree? Death Valley?</p><p>7. What adjectives do you think best describe Los Angeles? Why?</p><p>8. Have you visited a theme park? Disneyland? Universal Studios?</p><p>9. What made a strong first impression on you?</p><p>10. What surprised you about California? Why?</p><p>11. What are some advantages to living in California? Why?</p><p>12. What are some problems that face California residents?</p><p>13. What tips would you give a friend moving to California? Why?</p><p>14. Do you think California represents the American Dream? How?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 4 7</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read the quotations aloud, circle your favorites, and discuss at least one</p><p>of them.</p><p>1. “Nowhere on the continent did Americans find a more diverse</p><p>nature, a land of more impressive forms and more powerful</p><p>contrasts, than in California.”</p><p>—Wallace Stegner (1909–1993), Western novelist</p><p>2. “The attraction and superiority of California are in its days. It has</p><p>better days and more of them than any other country.”</p><p>—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882),American philosopher</p><p>3. “The first treasure California began to surrender after the Gold</p><p>Rush was the oldest: her land.”</p><p>—John Jakes (1932–), novelist</p><p>4. “When I am in California, I am not in the west, I am west of the</p><p>west.”</p><p>—Theodore Roosevelt (1858–1919), 26th U.S. President</p><p>5. “This land is your land, this land is my land, From California to</p><p>the New York island, From the redwood forest to the Gulf Stream</p><p>waters, This land was made for you and me.”</p><p>—Woody Guthrie (1912–1967), American folksinger</p><p>6. “It’s a scientific fact that if you stay in California, you lose one point</p><p>of IQ every year.”</p><p>—Truman Capote (1924–1984), writer</p><p>7. “San Francisco has only one drawback. ‘Tis hard to leave.”</p><p>—Rudyard Kipling (1865–1936), British novelist</p><p>8. “The coldest winter I ever spent was a summer in San Francisco.”</p><p>—Mark Twain (1835–1910), humorist and novelist</p><p>9. “Tip the world over on its side and everything loose will land in Los</p><p>Angeles.”</p><p>—Frank Lloyd Wright (1867–1959), architect</p><p>10. “There is science, logic, reason; there is thought verified by</p><p>experience. And then there is California.”</p><p>—Edward Abbey (1927–1989), environmentalist</p><p>11. “California is a tragic country…like every Promised Land.”</p><p>—Christopher Isherwood (1904–1986), dramatist and author</p><p>12. “Whatever starts in California, unfortunately, has an inclination to</p><p>spread”</p><p>—Jimmy Carter (1924–), 39th U.S. President</p><p>13. “We have to get back and bring California back to where it once</p><p>was.”</p><p>—Arnold Schwarzenegger (1947–), 38th California Governor and</p><p>actor</p><p>14. “California has become the first American state where there is no</p><p>majority race, and we’re doing just fine. If you look around the</p><p>room, you can see a microcosm of what we can do in the world.”</p><p>—Bill Clinton (1946–), 42nd U.S. President</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Where do you want to go in</p><p>California?</p><p>Research a tourist destination,</p><p>museum, or city in California</p><p>Check websites, talk to people</p><p>who know the place, and look</p><p>at pictures.</p><p>Prepare a short oral report</p><p>for the class. Use visual aids.</p><p>4 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>e x c h A n g i n g v i e w s</p><p>Reading is a solitary activity, yet it can bring people together in</p><p>conversation. Interview your partner and exchange reading experiences.</p><p>1. Have you ever re-read a book? Which? Why? How many times?</p><p>2. Do you have a library card yet? Do you like to browse in bookstores?</p><p>3. What book, or author, has influenced you the most? How?</p><p>4. Have you ever been in a book club? Did your club focus on a genre?</p><p>5. Did your mother read to you as a child? Did you have a favorite</p><p>story? What was it?</p><p>6. Did you have a favorite book character as a child?</p><p>7. Where did you first learn to read? At home? School? Church?</p><p>8. What language did you first learn to read in?</p><p>9. What were your favorite books as a child? Who was your favorite</p><p>author? Why?</p><p>10. What kind of books does your mother read? Your father? Your</p><p>children? Your siblings?</p><p>11. What did you like to read in high school? Why?</p><p>12. What was your favorite book that you had to read in school?</p><p>13. What was your least favorite book that you were assigned to read?</p><p>Why?</p><p>14. As a teenager, did you have any favorite books, comics, or</p><p>magazines? Can you describe them?</p><p>15. Do you read emails? Postcards? Websites? Blogs? Newspapers?</p><p>Magazines?</p><p>16. Which magazine or newspaper sections do you scan? Why?</p><p>17. Who are some famous writers from your country?</p><p>18. Who are some famous writers who write in your native language?</p><p>“the man who doesn’t read good books</p><p>has no advantage over the man who</p><p>can’t read them.”</p><p>Mark Twain (1835–1910),</p><p>American humorist</p><p>16</p><p>ReADing PleAsuRes AnD tAstes</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 4 9</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle the words that you know. Then write a long sentence using at least</p><p>three of these vocabulary words. Share your sentence with your partner.</p><p>literature ....................................................................................................</p><p>browse .......................................................................................................</p><p>genre .........................................................................................................</p><p>essays .........................................................................................................</p><p>novels ........................................................................................................</p><p>memoir .....................................................................................................</p><p>re-read .......................................................................................................</p><p>poem .........................................................................................................</p><p>poet ...........................................................................................................</p><p>biography ..................................................................................................</p><p>autobiography...........................................................................................</p><p>scan ...........................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>What experiences might have inspired these proverbs?</p><p>Drink nothing without seeing it;</p><p>sign nothing without reading it.—Spanish</p><p>When all else fails, read the instructions.</p><p>You can’t tell a book by its cover.</p><p>So many books, so little time.</p><p>Reading is addictive.</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Can you think of some movies that are adapted from novels?</p><p>2. Can you suggest a good movie that was originally a book? Can you</p><p>compare the movie or the book?</p><p>3. Do you prefer to read poems, essays, or short stories? Why?</p><p>4. Do you prefer reading fiction or non-fiction? Why?</p><p>5. Do you have a</p><p>favorite poet or short story writer? Who?</p><p>6. Did you have to memorize any poems in school? Which?</p><p>7. Have you ever listened to an audio book? Which one? Why?</p><p>8. Where do you find books? Have you bought any books online?</p><p>9. Have you read any good biographies? Memoirs? Self-help books?</p><p>10. What are some books that you have read and enjoyed?</p><p>11. What kinds of books do you tend to read? Dislike? Why?</p><p>12. Why do you think book clubs have become so popular in the U.S.?</p><p>13. How do you select books? Covers? Ads? Book reviews?</p><p>Word of mouth? Gifts?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be curious</p><p>explore</p><p>Be tolerant</p><p>5 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>14. What magazines do you read? Which articles attract you? Why?</p><p>15. Are you reading a book now? What is it? Can you describe it?</p><p>16. What do your friends and relatives like to read?</p><p>17. Do you think books and magazines make good gifts? Why?</p><p>18. Have you read any controversial or banned books?</p><p>19. What book are you planning to read in English this year? Why?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Memorize your favorite quotation and author’s name. Share it with</p><p>someone.</p><p>1. “Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body.”</p><p>—Richard Steele (1672–1729), Irish writer</p><p>2. “No entertainment is so cheap as reading, nor any pleasure so</p><p>lasting.”</p><p>—Lady Mary Wortley Montagu (1689–1762), British author/critic</p><p>3. “The pleasure of all reading is doubled when one lives with another</p><p>who shares the same books.”</p><p>—Katherine Mansfield (1888–1923), short story writer and poet</p><p>4. “However many holy words you read, however many you speak,</p><p>what good will they do you if you do not act upon them?”</p><p>—Buddha (563–483 B.C.E.), founder of Buddhism</p><p>5. “Read the best books first, or you may not have a chance to read</p><p>them at all.”</p><p>—Henry David Thoreau (1817–1862), essayist</p><p>6. “Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed,</p><p>and some few to be chewed and digested.”</p><p>—Sir Francis Bacon (1561–1626), English essayist</p><p>7. “I would rather be poor in a cottage full of books than a king</p><p>without the desire to read.”</p><p>—Thomas B. Macaulay (1800–1859), historian</p><p>8. “This is not a novel to be tossed aside lightly. It should be thrown</p><p>with great force.”</p><p>—Dorothy Parker (1893–1967), screenwriter</p><p>9. “A book should serve as the ax for the frozen sea within us.”</p><p>—Franz Kafka (1883–1924), novelist</p><p>10. “There is a great deal of difference between the eager man who</p><p>wants to read a book and the tired man who wants a book to read.”</p><p>—G.K. Chesterton (1874–1936), novelist</p><p>11. “A home without books is like a body without a soul.”</p><p>—Cicero (106–43 B.C.E.), statesman</p><p>12. “Any book that helps a child to form the habit of reading, to make</p><p>reading one of his deep and continuing needs, is good for him.”</p><p>—Maya Angelou (1928–), American poet</p><p>13. “Where they burn books, they will end in burning human beings.”</p><p>—Heinrich Heine (1797–1856), German poet</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Bring in a book which is</p><p>important to you. Show the</p><p>book to the class. Tell them</p><p>the author, the title, and</p><p>the reason why this book is</p><p>important to you.</p><p>“a truly great book should be read</p><p>in youth, again in maturity and once</p><p>more in old age, as a fine building</p><p>should be seen by morning light, at</p><p>noon and by moonlight.”</p><p>robertson davies (1913–1995),</p><p>canadian novelist</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 5 1</p><p>s h A r i n g m u s i c A l m o m e n t s</p><p>Music is a universal language. Compare your music taste with that of</p><p>others in groups of three or four classmates.</p><p>1. What kinds of music do you like?</p><p>2. What is one of your favorite songs?</p><p>3. Where do you like to be when you listen to music?</p><p>4. Do you like to sing? What is your favorite song to sing?</p><p>5. Can you carry a tune? Are you tone deaf ?</p><p>6. Can you name some popular musicals?</p><p>7. Can you name a song from a musical? Can you sing or hum a song</p><p>from a musical?</p><p>8. Have you ever sung in public? Have you ever been in a choir?</p><p>Where?</p><p>9. Is your voice soprano, alto, tenor, or bass?</p><p>10. Do you like to sing to yourself ? Where?</p><p>11. Have you ever been to a karaoke bar? Did you sing? Which songs?</p><p>12. What kind of music is traditionally popular in your native country?</p><p>13. Which instruments are used to play this traditional music?</p><p>14. Which kinds of American music do you like?</p><p>15. Do you like rap? Can you name a rap star?</p><p>16. Do you like salsa? Bosa nova? The tango?</p><p>17. What kind of music do you dance to?</p><p>18. Do you like jazz? Who is your favorite jazz musician?</p><p>19. Which are your favorite groups? Which groups did you like as a</p><p>teenager?</p><p>20. Who are your favorite singers? How do they make you feel?</p><p>“if music be the food of love, play on.”</p><p>William Shakespeare (1564–1616),</p><p>English playwright</p><p>17</p><p>moving to musiC</p><p>5 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle the words you know. Find the meaning of the others with your</p><p>classroom partner.</p><p>tone deaf ...................................................................................................</p><p>salsa ...........................................................................................................</p><p>musician ....................................................................................................</p><p>yearn .........................................................................................................</p><p>symphony ..................................................................................................</p><p>vocalist ......................................................................................................</p><p>opera .........................................................................................................</p><p>concert ......................................................................................................</p><p>downloaded ..............................................................................................</p><p>instrument .................................................................................................</p><p>compose ....................................................................................................</p><p>composer...................................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Have you ever been to a concert? Who did you see? What did you</p><p>hear? Did you find it satisfying?</p><p>2. If you won free tickets from a radio station, which group or vocalist</p><p>would you like to see in concert? Why?</p><p>3. Have you ever taken piano lessons or lessons on any musical</p><p>instrument? Which one? How long did you take lessons?</p><p>4. Did you ever play in a band? Was it a marching band?</p><p>5. Do you like classical music? Who are some significant composers of</p><p>classical music?</p><p>6. Have you ever been to a symphony? What was it like?</p><p>7. Can you name some operas? Can you name some opera stars?</p><p>8. How do you find new music? Radio? MTV? Internet?</p><p>9. Have you ever downloaded music? What kind of music?</p><p>10. Can you recommend websites to help find great new music?</p><p>11. Do you have a favorite music video? Musical?</p><p>12. Do you have any soundtracks from movies? Which ones?</p><p>13. What music did you play at your wedding or wedding reception?</p><p>14. Are there any songs you’ve heard which made you want to travel to</p><p>a particular place? Which songs? Where did you yearn to go?</p><p>15. Can you suggest some places to hear live music?</p><p>Is there a cover charge?</p><p>16. If you could have a date with a musician, whom would you</p><p>choose?</p><p>17. If you were trapped on a desert island and could only take five</p><p>albums with you, which would you pick? Why?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 5 3</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read aloud all the quotations. Pick your favorites and discuss.</p><p>1. “Virtue is the trunk of man’s nature, and music is the blossoming of</p><p>virtue.”</p><p>—Confucius (551–479 B.C.E.), legendary social philosopher</p><p>2. “Music I heard with you was more than music. Bread I broke with</p><p>you was more than bread.”</p><p>—Conrad Aiken (1889–1973), American poet and novelist</p><p>3. “Music is love in search of a word.”</p><p>—Sidney Lanier (1842–1881), poet</p><p>4. “Music hath charms to soothe the savage beast</p><p>To soften rocks, or bend a knotted oak.”</p><p>—William Congreve (1670–1729), English playwright</p><p>5. “Without music, life would be a mistake.”</p><p>—Friedrich Nietzsche (1844–1900), writer</p><p>6. “Even if you can’t sing well, sing. Sing to yourself. Sing in the</p><p>privacy of your home. But sing.”</p><p>—Rabbi Nachman of Breslov (1772–1810), religious leader</p><p>7. “God respects me when I work, but he loves me when I sing.”</p><p>—Rabindranath Tagore (1861–1941) Indian poet and musician</p><p>8. “Musical people always want one to be perfectly dumb at the very</p><p>moment when one is longing to be absolutely deaf.”</p><p>—Oscar Wilde (1856–1900), playwright</p><p>9. “If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is</p><p>because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music</p><p>which he hears, however measured or far away.”</p><p>—Henry David Thoreau (1817–1862), American writer</p><p>10. “Unperformed music is like a cake in the oven–not fully baked.”</p><p>—Isaac Stern (1920–), Russian violinist</p><p>11. “My music is best understood by children and animals.”</p><p>—Igor Stravinsky (1882–1971), Russian composer</p><p>12. “It is impossible to experience one’s own death objectively and still</p><p>carry a tune.”</p><p>—Woody Allen (1935–), American film director and comedian</p><p>13. “After silence, that which comes nearest to expressing the</p><p>inexpressible is music.”</p><p>—Aldous Huxley (1894–1963), English novelist</p><p>14. “Music melts all the separate parts of our bodies together.”</p><p>—Anaïs Nin (1903–1977), French-American author</p><p>15. “When you play music you discover a part of yourself that you never</p><p>knew existed.”</p><p>—Bill Evans (1829–1980), American jazz pianist</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Research a favorite musician,</p><p>composer, instrument, or</p><p>piece of music. Write a short</p><p>paragraph about your chosen</p><p>subject and read it to a small</p><p>group.</p><p>5 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>g e t t i n g A c Q u A i n t e d</p><p>Almost everybody watches television, but somehow many people feel</p><p>ashamed of doing it. Interview your partner and find out about their</p><p>tastes in TV shows.</p><p>1. When did you start watching TV? How many years have you</p><p>watched television?</p><p>2. Were the TV shows in color or black and white?</p><p>3. When did your family first get a television? Why?</p><p>4. Did you have some favorite TV shows, cartoons, or characters as a</p><p>child? Why?</p><p>5. Where did you do you usually watch TV? With whom did you watch?</p><p>6. Did you ever watch any English language programs as a child?</p><p>7. How many television sets are in your home today? Which do you</p><p>use the most?</p><p>8. How many channels do you receive at home? How many do you</p><p>regularly watch?</p><p>9. What television programs do you like to watch with your family?</p><p>10. What TV programs do you like to watch with your friends? Alone?</p><p>11. Do you eat while watching television? Pay bills? Wash dishes?</p><p>Knit? Quilt? Do crafts?</p><p>12. What are your favorite television programs now? Why?</p><p>13. Do you pay for cable or satellite? Do you subscribe to any channels</p><p>like HBO?</p><p>14. Do you follow any dramatic series on a regular basis? Which?</p><p>15. How many hours, on a weekly basis, do you usually watch?</p><p>16. Would you like to watch more television? What would you like to</p><p>watch more?</p><p>17. Do you ever feel guilty about watching television? Why?</p><p>“all television is educational</p><p>television. the question is: what is it</p><p>teaching?”</p><p>nicholas Johnson, (1934–),</p><p>former federal communications</p><p>commission chair</p><p>18</p><p>tAlking ABout television</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 5 5</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle the words that you know. Write questions using new words.</p><p>series ..........................................................................................................</p><p>drama ........................................................................................................</p><p>crime .........................................................................................................</p><p>channels ....................................................................................................</p><p>subscribe ...................................................................................................</p><p>cater ..........................................................................................................</p><p>broadcast ...................................................................................................</p><p>personalities ..............................................................................................</p><p>reality TV .................................................................................................</p><p>characters ..................................................................................................</p><p>controversy ................................................................................................</p><p>closed-captioned .......................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. When are you most likely to watch television? Where? Why?</p><p>2. When are you least likely to watch television? Where? Why?</p><p>3. Are there more channels than when you were a child? Can you give</p><p>an example?</p><p>4. What are some influential television programs in your country?</p><p>5. What television programs can you recommend for children? Young</p><p>adults? Why?</p><p>6. Can you suggest some programs for seniors? Why?</p><p>7. What languages are programs broadcast in your city? Which</p><p>channels seem to cater to immigrant populations?</p><p>8. Do you watch programs closed-captioned (for the deaf) or subtitled?</p><p>9. Do you find American TV shows educational? Strange? Funny?</p><p>Why? Can you give an example?</p><p>10. Have you seen any reality TV shows? Which? What did you think?</p><p>11. What are some popular crime and detective shows? Which? Why?</p><p>12. Who are some famous TV personalities or stars? Any personal</p><p>favorites?</p><p>13. Who is Oprah? Jerry Springer? Larry King? Jon Stewart? Homer</p><p>Simpson?</p><p>14. What TV shows would you recommend to a visitor to the United</p><p>States? Why?</p><p>15. Have you found any differences between the TV news coverage in</p><p>your country and the United States? Can you give an example?</p><p>16. How has television changed in the last decade?</p><p>How would you like to change TV?</p><p>17. What do you think are some social effects of television? Why?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be curious</p><p>explore</p><p>Have fun</p><p>5 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read the quotations aloud with your partner. Pick four to discuss.</p><p>1. “Television could perform a great service in mass education, but</p><p>there’s no indication its sponsors have anything like this on their</p><p>minds.”—Tallulah Bankhead (1903–1968), American actress</p><p>2. “I find television very educating. Every time somebody turns on the</p><p>set, I go into the other room and read a book.”</p><p>—Groucho Marx (1890–1977), comedian</p><p>3. “In the age of television, image becomes more important than</p><p>substance.”</p><p>—S.I. Hayakawa (1906–1992), U.S.</p><p>Senator from California</p><p>4. “Television is an invention that permits you to be entertained in your</p><p>living room by people you wouldn’t have in your home.”</p><p>—David Frost (1939–), British broadcast journalist</p><p>5. “Television is the first truly democratic culture—the first culture</p><p>available to everybody and entirely governed by what the people</p><p>want. The most terrifying thing is what people want.”</p><p>—Clive Barnes (1927–), critic and author</p><p>6. “Seeing a murder on television can help work off one’s antagonisms.</p><p>And if you haven’t any antagonisms, the commercials will give you</p><p>some.”—Alfred Hitchcock (1899–1980), British film director</p><p>7. “When television is good, nothing is better. When it’s bad, nothing is</p><p>worse.”—Newton N. Minow (1926–), media critic</p><p>8. “Television is not real life. In real life, people actually have to leave</p><p>the coffee shop and go to jobs.”</p><p>—Bill Gates (1955–), American entrepreneur and philanthropist</p><p>9. “Television has proved that people will look at anything rather than</p><p>each other.”—Ann Landers (1918–2002), advice columnist</p><p>10. “I want to use television not only to entertain, but to help people</p><p>lead better lives.”</p><p>—Oprah Winfrey (1954–) TV host, producer, and actress</p><p>11. “Television! Teacher, mother, secret lover.”</p><p>—Homer Simpson, cartoon character</p><p>12. “I hate television. I hate it as much as peanuts. But I can’t stop</p><p>eating peanuts.”—Orson Welles (1915–1985) American actor</p><p>13. “Television is a method to deliver advertising like a cigarette is a</p><p>method to deliver nicotine.”—Bill Maher (1956–) social critic</p><p>14. “Television, that insidious beast, that Medusa which freezes a billion</p><p>people to stone every night, staring fixedly, that siren which called</p><p>and sang and promised so much and gave, after all, so little.”</p><p>—Ray Bradbury (1920–) American science fiction writer</p><p>15. “Television brought the brutality of the war into the comfort of the</p><p>living room. Vietnam was lost in the living rooms of America–not</p><p>on the battlefields of Vietnam.”</p><p>—Marshall McLuhan (1911–1980) media scholar</p><p>16. “Life doesn’t imitate art; it imitates bad television.”</p><p>—Woody Allen (1935–) comedian</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Please complete this</p><p>sentence: I would like to</p><p>be on the TV show</p><p>...................................................</p><p>because ......................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 5 7</p><p>c h At t i n g</p><p>You can also start a conversation by asking for movie suggestions. Talk</p><p>with your partner, and share your movie experiences.</p><p>1. Do you like movies? Where do you usually see movies?</p><p>2. How often do you watch movies? At home? In theatres?</p><p>3. Where do you find movies to watch at home? Library? Cable?</p><p>Blockbuster? Netflix?</p><p>4. Do you have cable television? Do you use on-demand features?</p><p>5. Do you own any movies? Which? Do you repeatedly watch them?</p><p>6. Have you figured out a way to see movies for free? How?</p><p>7. Can you compare movie houses in your homeland with theatres in</p><p>the United States?</p><p>8. What might annoy you at a movie theatre? Using phones? Babies</p><p>crying? Other?</p><p>9. Do you have a favorite movie theatre? A preferred place to sit?</p><p>10. Have you ever seen a celebrity or famous person? Where? Tell us</p><p>about it</p><p>11. What movies have been blockbusters here? In your native country?</p><p>12. Can you think of some tourist sights related to the movie industry?</p><p>13. What movies have you seen that took place in Los Angeles? New</p><p>York? Chicago?</p><p>14. Have you ever seen movies being filmed? Where? What was the</p><p>atmosphere?</p><p>15. Have you ever acted in a play or movie? Can you describe your</p><p>experience?</p><p>“talking about dreams is like talking</p><p>about movies, since the cinema uses</p><p>the language of dreams; years pass in a</p><p>second and you can hop from one place</p><p>to another.”</p><p>federico fellini (1920–1993),</p><p>italian film director</p><p>19</p><p>tAlking ABout movies</p><p>5 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>With your partner, write definitions for five vocabulary words.</p><p>blockbuster ................................................................................................</p><p>famous .......................................................................................................</p><p>popular ......................................................................................................</p><p>adapt .........................................................................................................</p><p>word of mouth .........................................................................................</p><p>cast ............................................................................................................</p><p>crush..........................................................................................................</p><p>celebrity ....................................................................................................</p><p>director ......................................................................................................</p><p>genre .........................................................................................................</p><p>film noir ....................................................................................................</p><p>animation ..................................................................................................</p><p>m o v i e g e n r e s</p><p>1. Which types (genres) of movies do you enjoy most? Why?</p><p>2. Can you think of an example of a good movie in five different</p><p>categories?</p><p>3. Can you think of an example of a bad movie in three categories?</p><p>4. What makes your favorite films special or memorable?</p><p>5. Name a few movies that you disliked. Why did you dislike them?</p><p>6. Can you think of some books that have been adapted into movies?</p><p>Did the adaptations work?</p><p>7. Did you have a favorite movie as a child? Teenager?</p><p>8. Did you have a favorite star as a child or teenager? Who? Why?</p><p>9. Do you know anybody who had a “crush” on a famous actor or</p><p>actress?</p><p>10. Have you ever seen a movie several times? Which? Why?</p><p>11. Do you have any favorite actors now? Why? Did they move you in</p><p>any role?</p><p>12. What actors, actresses, or directors would you like to lunch with?</p><p>13. Do you have any favorite directors? Why? Which of that director’s</p><p>films touched you?</p><p>14. How do you decide which movie to see? Word of mouth? Ads?</p><p>Awards? Reviews?</p><p>15. Which movies would you suggest a tourist to your country watch?</p><p>Why?</p><p>16. What movies have you seen this year? Which do you recommend?</p><p>17. Do you think movies influence society or reflect society? How?</p><p>g e n r e s</p><p>Adventure</p><p>Animation</p><p>Biography</p><p>Comedy</p><p>Detective</p><p>Documentary</p><p>Drama</p><p>Fantasy</p><p>Film Noir</p><p>Foreign</p><p>Historical</p><p>Horror</p><p>Musical</p><p>Mystery</p><p>Propaganda</p><p>Romantic</p><p>Science Fiction</p><p>Silent</p><p>War</p><p>Western</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 5 9</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Circle four quotes that appeal to you. Discuss your choices.</p><p>1. “Movies are a fad. Audiences really want to see live actors on a</p><p>stage.”</p><p>—Charlie Chaplin (1889–1977), British comedian and actor</p><p>2. “You know what your problem is? It’s that you haven’t seen enough</p><p>movies–all of life’s riddles are answered in the movies.”</p><p>—Steve Martin (1945–), comedian</p><p>3. “I think nudity on screen is disgusting, shameful, and unpatriotic.</p><p>But if I were twenty-two, with a great body, it would be artistic,</p><p>tasteful, patriotic, and a progressive, religious experience.”</p><p>—Shelly Winters (1920–2006), actress</p><p>4. “Watch this if you like, and if you don’t, take a hike.”</p><p>—Clint Eastwood (1930–), actor, director, and producer</p><p>5. “It’s the movies that have really been running things in America ever</p><p>since they were invented. They show you what to do, how to do it,</p><p>when to do it, how to feel about it, and how to look how you feel</p><p>about it.”</p><p>—Andy Warhol (1928–1987),</p><p>than</p><p>vocabulary lists, cost too much, and avoided any topic that might cause</p><p>any controversy. Several lessons talked about the weather, colors, etc. So</p><p>I dropped the book, and created conversation worksheets with 30 related</p><p>questions on practical topics for adult students. I didn’t come in with a</p><p>set point of view; I wanted to find out what people had experienced and</p><p>their reflections on their lives, current events, and the bigger questions</p><p>about our changing world. Why should we just talk about the weather</p><p>and become bored when we could explore our lives, times, passions, and</p><p>challenges?</p><p>Many students would contribute proverbs during our discussions since</p><p>proverbs, sayings, and idioms can be useful in daily life. Often similar</p><p>ideas, like “the sky is always blue somewhere”, can be found across</p><p>cultures. Proverbs can point out some universal aspects of the human</p><p>experience— in 21st century America, 19th century England, 17th</p><p>century Paris, 4th century China, or 1st century Rome. Proverbs may</p><p>often contradict each other, yet the trick is to use the right proverb at the</p><p>right time in the right situation. Sometimes it’s good to know, and even</p><p>hold, two opposite ideas. “Where you stand, depends on where you sit.”</p><p>Therefore, each chapter includes a proverb section.</p><p>This collection of proverbs and quotations also includes many insights</p><p>from religious leaders and philosophers that go back even more than</p><p>2,000 years such as Buddha, Confucius, Aristotle, and the Biblical</p><p>prophets. These quotations remind us that some conversations have</p><p>spanned centuries and cultures. The selected quotations present a wide</p><p>range of ideas, beliefs, and perspectives. Some quotations might make you</p><p>laugh, some might make you sigh, and a few might even annoy you. Share</p><p>your genuine feelings and reasons. Join the conversation. Free speech</p><p>remains a rare and precious right.</p><p>Including classic quotations also helps preserve the insights and comments</p><p>of well-known and significant cultural figures. This habit helps us escape</p><p>the too-common delusion that the world began when we were born and</p><p>provides a larger perspective. Sometimes knowing the speaker and histori-</p><p>cal era invites another way of looking at our modern lives.</p><p>Your English may not be perfect yet, but daily practice does lead to</p><p>significant progress. Compelling Conversations gives you the tools and</p><p>phrases to talk more and listen better to friends and strangers in English.</p><p>Finally, I hope you enjoy creating many compelling conversations!</p><p>eric H. Roth</p><p>eric@compellingconversations.com</p><p>Contents</p><p>SEcTion 1 YouR life</p><p>1. Getting Started ................................................. 1</p><p>2. Going Beyond Hello ......................................... 4</p><p>3. Being Home ..................................................... 7</p><p>4. Describing Family Ties .................................. 10</p><p>5. Eating and Drinking ...................................... 13</p><p>6. Exploring Daily Habits .................................. 16</p><p>7. Being Yourself ............................................... 19</p><p>8. Staying Healthy ............................................. 22</p><p>9. Parenting ........................................................ 26</p><p>10. Making and Keeping Friends ...................... 29</p><p>11. Loving Dogs and Pets .................................. 32</p><p>12. Cats and More Cats .................................... 35</p><p>13. Pet Peeves ..................................................... 38</p><p>SEcTion 2 fRee time</p><p>14. Traveling ...................................................... 42</p><p>15. California Calling ........................................ 45</p><p>16. Reading Pleasures and Tastes ..................... 48</p><p>17. Moving to Music ......................................... 51</p><p>18. Talking about Television ............................. 54</p><p>19. Talking about Movies .................................. 57</p><p>20. Talking about Movies: The Sequel ............. 60</p><p>21. Playing and Watching Sports ...................... 63</p><p>22. Gardening .................................................... 67</p><p>23. Enjoying the Beach ...................................... 70</p><p>24. Holidays and Celebrations .......................... 73</p><p>SEcTion 3 moDeRn times</p><p>25. What Do You Think? .................................. 78</p><p>26. Change ......................................................... 82</p><p>27. Clothes and Fashion .................................... 85</p><p>28. Appreciating Physical Beauty ...................... 89</p><p>29. Dating .......................................................... 93</p><p>30. Enjoying Money .......................................... 96</p><p>31. Eating Out ................................................... 99</p><p>32. Gambling and Spending Money ............... 102</p><p>33. Do You Match? ......................................... 105</p><p>34. Handling Stress .......................................... 109</p><p>SEcTion 4 CiviC life</p><p>35. Practicing Job Interviews ........................... 114</p><p>36. Work Relationships .................................... 117</p><p>37. Learning in School .................................... 120</p><p>38. Studying English ........................................ 124</p><p>39. Coming to America .................................... 127</p><p>40. Exploring American Culture ..................... 130</p><p>41. Exploring Cities ......................................... 133</p><p>42. Driving Cars .............................................. 136</p><p>43. Crime and Punishment ............................. 139</p><p>44. Voting and Choosing Leaders ................... 142</p><p>45. Searching for Heroes ................................. 145</p><p>APPenDiX</p><p>Tips & Gentle Advice for ESL/EFL Teachers ... 150</p><p>Bibliography .................................................... 151</p><p>“in america, nobody says you</p><p>have to keep circumstances</p><p>somebody else gives you.”</p><p>amy tan</p><p>(1952–), chinese-American novelist</p><p>your life</p><p>LAuriE SELik PHoTo</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1</p><p>Proverbs and quotations appear frequently throughout this text. Reading</p><p>the ideas of other people and other cultures helps you look at many ways</p><p>of thinking and introduces you to some famous people.</p><p>Also, throughout these lessons, you will be asked to work with others.</p><p>You will be asking questions about their experiences, and you will be</p><p>answering questions which they ask you. In this way, you will be practic-</p><p>ing English, learning about other cultures, and practicing ways to make</p><p>conversation pleasant and interesting. Our goal is to create compelling</p><p>conversations.</p><p>A c t i v i t y o n e</p><p>Divide into groups of four. In conversation, it is often helpful to show</p><p>other people that we understand what they are trying to communicate.</p><p>A smile, a nod of the head, and eye contact are encouraging to others</p><p>and invite them to continue. Frowning, shaking one’s head no, or looking</p><p>away while others are speaking will discourage others from trying.</p><p>In this class, we want to encourage others. In your groups, practice smil-</p><p>ing at others and encouraging them. Take turns telling why you want to</p><p>learn more English. Where do you speak English now? Where would you</p><p>like to speak English more? Why?</p><p>A c t i v i t y t w o</p><p>Words can also show that we want others to feel comfortable speaking.</p><p>In your group, take turns saying each of the following statements. Give</p><p>eye contact to others as you speak. This practice will make it easier to use</p><p>these encouraging statements in your conversations with others.</p><p>• That is interesting. • What happened next?</p><p>• You are right! • Can you explain more?</p><p>• I enjoy listening to what you have to say. • Please continue.</p><p>• I like that! • Cool</p><p>1</p><p>GETTING STA RTED</p><p>“Well begun is half done.”</p><p>greek proverb</p><p>2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>A c t i v i t y t h r e e</p><p>In your group, read aloud each of the following quotations. Decide</p><p>among yourselves what you think</p><p>American artist</p><p>6. “We need families to start taking more responsibility in</p><p>understanding which movie is good for their children and which</p><p>movie is not.”</p><p>—Jet Li (1963–), Chinese actor and martial artist</p><p>7. “Movies are fun, but they’re not a cure for cancer.”</p><p>—Warren Beatty (1937–), American actor, director, and producer</p><p>8. “I did a women’s movie, and I’m not a woman. I did a gay movie,</p><p>and I’m not gay. I learned as I went along.”</p><p>—Ang Lee (1954–), film director born in Taiwan</p><p>9. “My movies were the kind they show in prisons and airplanes because</p><p>nobody can leave.”</p><p>—Burt Reynolds (1936–), American actor</p><p>10. “Acting is not an important job in the scheme of things.</p><p>Plumbing is.”</p><p>—Spencer Tracy (1900–1967), actor</p><p>11. “Maybe every other American movie shouldn’t be based on a</p><p>comic book.”</p><p>—Bill Maher (1956–), American comedian</p><p>12. “Life is like a movie, write your own ending. Keep believing, keep</p><p>pretending.”</p><p>—Jim Henson (1936–1990), American creator of the Muppets</p><p>13. “The difference between life and the movies is that a script has to</p><p>make sense, and life doesn’t.”</p><p>—Joseph L. Mankiewicz (1909–1993), American screenwriter</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Tell your classmates which</p><p>movie you think should get a</p><p>special Oscar for being the best</p><p>movie ever made.</p><p>6 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>r e v i e w i n g m o v i e s</p><p>Once is not always enough. But can lightning strike a second time?</p><p>Discuss movie remakes and sequels with your partner.</p><p>1. Can you think of any hit movies that led to a sequel?</p><p>2. Can you think of any remakes of classic films?</p><p>3. What’s the difference between a remake and a sequel?</p><p>4. Can you think of a series of movies besides Star Wars and Batman?</p><p>5. Are you a fan of the Spiderman series? Planet of the Apes? Why?</p><p>6. Why do some films have two different versions?</p><p>7. What are some good movies based on good novels?</p><p>8. What are some bad movies based on good novels? What went</p><p>wrong?</p><p>9. Do you enjoy movie previews? Why? Are any misleading? Exciting?</p><p>10. Do you like reading movie reviews? Why? Have you been misled?</p><p>11. Do you have any memories of seeing movies outdoors or at drive-</p><p>in theatres? Where?</p><p>12. Have you ever walked out during previews? During a movie?</p><p>13. What are some job titles in the film industry?</p><p>14. Would you like to be an actor? Set designer? Extra? Make-up</p><p>artist? Cinematographer? Stunt person? Costume designer?</p><p>15. What are some perks of working the film industry? Disadvantages?</p><p>16. Do you know any film snobs? What makes them film snobs?</p><p>17. What movie “wowed” you with special effects? Why?</p><p>18. Can you name some “chick flicks”? What makes a movie a “chick</p><p>flick”? Do you like them?</p><p>19. What’s the most exciting, or thrilling, movie you’ve seen? Why?</p><p>20. Can you name a Charlie Chaplin or Buster Keaton movie?</p><p>“go see that turkey for yourself, and</p><p>see for yourself why you shouldn’t</p><p>see it.”</p><p>Samuel goldwyn (1879–1974),</p><p>legendary film producer</p><p>20</p><p>tAlking ABout movies:tHe seQuel</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 6 1</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Read these words aloud.</p><p>sequel ........................................................................................................</p><p>remake ......................................................................................................</p><p>mislead ......................................................................................................</p><p>preview ......................................................................................................</p><p>review ........................................................................................................</p><p>wow ...........................................................................................................</p><p>chick flick ..................................................................................................</p><p>thrill ...........................................................................................................</p><p>soundtrack ................................................................................................</p><p>shriek .........................................................................................................</p><p>snob ...........................................................................................................</p><p>perk ...........................................................................................................</p><p>Write four questions with using some of these words.</p><p>1. ...............................................................................................................</p><p>2. ..............................................................................................................</p><p>3. ...............................................................................................................</p><p>4. ...............................................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Which silent movies have you seen? What was your take?</p><p>2. What are some movies with terrific costumes or set designs?</p><p>3. Have you ever cried in a movie? Why?</p><p>4. Do you laugh out loud during movies? Do you laugh easily?</p><p>5. What movies featured wonderful music or a great soundtrack?</p><p>6. What are some of the funniest films you’ve seen?</p><p>7. Why do you think scary movies, or horror films, remain popular?</p><p>8. Have you seen people hide their face during scary scenes? Jump?</p><p>Scream? Do you do any of these actions?</p><p>9. What’s the most disturbing scene you’ve seen in a movie? Why was</p><p>it so memorable?</p><p>10. Do you watch the Academy Awards show? Why?</p><p>11. What’s your partner’s favorite film? Your children’s favorite film?</p><p>12. Do you and your relatives have the same taste in movies?</p><p>13. What five movies would you take on a desert island?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>ask questions that</p><p>seem natural</p><p>Be honest</p><p>take risks</p><p>6 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>Q u o t e s f r o m f A m o u s m o v i e s</p><p>Pick your favorite. Explain your choice.</p><p>1. “Wait a minute, wait a minute. You ain’t heard nothing yet.”</p><p>—Al Jolson in The Jazz Singer (1927)</p><p>2. “Toto, I’ve got a feeling we’re not in Kansas any more.”</p><p>—Judy Garland in The Wizard of Oz (1939)</p><p>3. “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.”</p><p>—Clark Gable in Gone With the Wind (1939)</p><p>4. “Play it, Sam. Play ‘As Time Goes By’.”</p><p>—Humphrey Bogart in Casablanca (1942)</p><p>5. “You don’t understand! I coulda had class. I coulda been a</p><p>contender. I could’ve been somebody, instead of a bum, which is</p><p>what I am.”</p><p>—Marlon Brando in On the Waterfront (1954)</p><p>6. “Gentleman, you can’t fight in here! This is the War Room!”</p><p>—Peter Sellers in Dr. Strangelove (1964)</p><p>7. “Mrs. Robinson, you’re trying to seduce me. Aren’t you?”</p><p>—Dustin Hoffman in The Graduate (1967)</p><p>8. “I’m going to make him an offer he can’t refuse.”</p><p>—Marlon Brando in The Godfather (1972)</p><p>9. “May the force be with you.”</p><p>—Alec Guinness in Star Wars (1977)</p><p>10. “Listen to me, mister. You’re my knight in shining armor.</p><p>Don’t you forget it.”</p><p>—Katharine Hepburn in On Golden Pond (1981)</p><p>11. “Go ahead, make my day.”</p><p>—Clint Eastwood in Sudden Impact (1983)</p><p>12. “I’ll be back.”</p><p>—Arnold Schwarzenegger in The Terminator (1984)</p><p>13. “Carpe Diem. Seize the day, boys. Make your lives extraordinary.”</p><p>—Robin Williams in Dead Poets Society (1989)</p><p>14. “Show me the money!”</p><p>—Tom Cruise in Jerry Maguire (1996)</p><p>15. “I’m king of the world!”</p><p>—Leonardo DiCaprio in Titanic (1997)</p><p>16. “Let’s have some new clichés.”</p><p>—Samuel Goldwyn (1879–1974), producer</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Tell your classmates which</p><p>actor should receive a</p><p>special Oscar for being</p><p>the best movie actor of all</p><p>time. For which role should</p><p>he win this Oscar?</p><p>Tell your classmates which</p><p>actress should receive a</p><p>special Oscar for being the</p><p>best movie</p><p>actress of all</p><p>time. For which role should</p><p>she win this Oscar?</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 6 3</p><p>c h At t i n g</p><p>Talking about sports can be a great ice-breaker. Just do it!</p><p>1. Did you play any sports as a child? Which ones? Which was your</p><p>favorite?</p><p>2. Do you play any sports? Which ones? Which sport is your favorite?</p><p>Why?</p><p>3. Do girls and women play sports in your native country? If so, which</p><p>sports are popular with females?</p><p>4. What is the most popular sport in your native country?</p><p>5. What equipment or uniform is needed for this sport?</p><p>6. How is the game scored? How is a tie decided? What is considered a</p><p>high score?</p><p>7. How long is a game? Are there referees? How do fans usually</p><p>behave? Are there cheerleaders?</p><p>8. Which athlete is best known in your homeland? Which sport does</p><p>he or she play? What do people admire about this athlete?</p><p>9. Does your native country participate in the Olympics? In which</p><p>sports are your countrymen most competitive?</p><p>10. What are some team sports? Which do you play?</p><p>11. What are some individual sports that you know? Which do you</p><p>play?</p><p>12. Do you prefer to play team sports or individual sports? Why?</p><p>13. Which is your favorite sport to watch? Do watch any annual</p><p>televised sporting event?</p><p>14. Have you ever gone to a sporting event? How did the fans behave?</p><p>15. Are you a fan of any special team? What do you like about them?</p><p>16. What is their nickname, e.g., Chicago Bulls, New England Patriots?</p><p>17. What does their nickname hope to convey about the team?</p><p>“the game is my wife. it demands</p><p>loyalty and responsibility.”</p><p>Michael Jordan (1963–),</p><p>nbA superstar</p><p>21</p><p>PlAYing AnD wAtCHing sPoRts</p><p>6 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Do you know all these words? Can you add four more words to this list?</p><p>athlete .......................................................................................................</p><p>score ..........................................................................................................</p><p>mascot .......................................................................................................</p><p>equipment .................................................................................................</p><p>competition ...............................................................................................</p><p>referee .......................................................................................................</p><p>nickname ..................................................................................................</p><p>rival ...........................................................................................................</p><p>endorse ......................................................................................................</p><p>endorsement .............................................................................................</p><p>fan .............................................................................................................</p><p>brand .........................................................................................................</p><p>1. ...............................................................................................................</p><p>2. ...............................................................................................................</p><p>3. ...............................................................................................................</p><p>4. ...............................................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Does your favorite team have a main rival? Why?</p><p>2. Is there a team mascot?</p><p>3. Which American athletes are well known in your native land?</p><p>4. What are some of the ways that athletes train for competition?</p><p>5. What do you think is the difference between a game and a sport?</p><p>Is chess a sport? Is weight lifting a sport? Is auto racing a sport? Is</p><p>politics a sport?</p><p>6. Do you consider poker a game or a sport? Why?</p><p>7. Who is your favorite athlete? Why do you especially admire this</p><p>athlete?</p><p>8. Do you buy a certain brand of shoes or clothes because of an</p><p>athlete’s endorsement? If so, which brand? Which athlete?</p><p>9. Can you name some sports that involve animals?</p><p>10. Is there any sport that you don’t play now, but that you’d like to</p><p>learn? Do you think you would do well?</p><p>11. Do you think any sport rules should be changed? Why?</p><p>12. If you could, would you outlaw any sports? Why?</p><p>13. Are there any sports which are legal in your homeland, but illegal</p><p>in the U.S.? Why? Do you think these sports should be legal?</p><p>14. What are the differences between the way athletes are treated in</p><p>your native country and the way athletes are treated in the U.S.?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be active</p><p>Just do it</p><p>make good mistakes</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 6 5</p><p>15. Are there any disadvantages to playing sports? Examples?</p><p>16. What are some advantages to playing sports? How do you feel</p><p>while playing?</p><p>17. If you could play against any athlete in any sport, what sport</p><p>would you choose?</p><p>18. If you could go back in time and attend any sporting event, which</p><p>would you pick? Why?</p><p>19. What makes a great athlete? Who do you think is the greatest</p><p>athlete of our time? Why?</p><p>20. Do you think sports builds character? How?</p><p>21. Or do you believe sports reveals character?</p><p>i d i o m s</p><p>Try to guess the meanings of these idioms with your partner.</p><p>She’s a team player. She knows the game plan.</p><p>The biology test was a slam dunk.</p><p>The price you’re asking is in the ballpark.</p><p>When I caught Bob’s finger in the car door, he was a good sport about it.</p><p>You dropped the ball.</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Which quotations do you like? Can you add one more?</p><p>1. “Sports do not build character. They reveal it.”</p><p>—Heywood Hale Broun (1888–1939), American sports journalist</p><p>2. “If you don’t try to win, you might as well hold the Olympics in</p><p>somebody’s backyard.”</p><p>—Jesse Owens (1913–1980), American with four Olympic gold</p><p>medals</p><p>3. “Sports is the toy department of human life.”</p><p>—Howard Cosell (1918–1995), sportscaster</p><p>4. “Sports is like a war without the killing.”</p><p>—Ted Turner (1938–), founder of CNN</p><p>5. “It ain’t over till it’s over.”</p><p>—Yogi Berra (1925–), American baseball coach</p><p>6. “Whoever wants to know the heart and mind of America had better</p><p>learn baseball.”</p><p>—Jacques Barzun (1907–), American historian</p><p>7. “The less effort, the faster and more powerful you will be.”</p><p>—Bruce Lee (1940–1973), film star</p><p>8. “Golf is a good walk spoiled.”</p><p>—Mark Twain (1835–1910), humorist</p><p>9. “Aggressive fighting for the right is the noblest sport in the world.”</p><p>—Theodore Roosevelt (1859–1919), 26th U.S. President, sportsman</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>6 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>10. “…no boy from a rich family ever made the big leagues.”</p><p>—Joe DiMaggio (1914–), American baseball player</p><p>11. “Friendships born on the field of athletic strife are the real gold of</p><p>competition. Awards become corroded, friends gather no dust.”</p><p>—Jesse Owens (1913–1980), four-time Gold medalist in 1936</p><p>Olympic Games</p><p>12. “If you’re not cheating, you’re not trying.”</p><p>—American</p><p>sports proverb</p><p>13. “Good teams become great ones when the members trust each</p><p>other enough to surrender the ‘me’ for the ‘we.’”</p><p>—Phil Jackson (1945–), L.A. Lakers’ coach</p><p>14. “How can you think and hit at the same time?”</p><p>—Yogi Berra (1925–), baseball player and coach</p><p>15. “There is no ‘I’ in team, but there is in ‘win’.”</p><p>—Michael Jordan (1963–) NBA superstar</p><p>16. “Just do it.”</p><p>—Nike advertising slogan</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Find a picture of an athlete,</p><p>professional or amateur,</p><p>playing your favorite sport.</p><p>Cut it out, bring it to class, and</p><p>describe the picture and its</p><p>context.</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 6 7</p><p>s m A l l tA l k</p><p>You can always start a friendly conversation by complimenting neighbors</p><p>on their gardens. Let’s practice chatting about flowers, plants, and</p><p>gardening now.</p><p>1. Do you like flowers? Which ones?</p><p>2. What is your favorite flower? Why? Can you describe it?</p><p>3. Which flowers have you ever given, or received, as a gift?</p><p>4. Can you describe a beautiful garden that you’ve seen?</p><p>5. Have you ever visited a famous or special garden? Where? When?</p><p>6. Have you ever nurtured a flower garden? Pruned a bush? Where?</p><p>7. What kinds of flowers were in your garden? Your home?</p><p>8. Do you grow flowers, herbs, fruits, or vegetables now? Which ones?</p><p>9. Are there others you would like to grow? Which ones?</p><p>10. What tasks do you enjoy doing in a garden?</p><p>11. What do you dislike about working in a garden?</p><p>12. What is a weed? Do gardeners need to weed a lot? Why?</p><p>13. Are there flowers that grow readily where you live now which are</p><p>rare in your native country? Which ones? Why?</p><p>14. Are certain flowers associated with special occasions, like weddings,</p><p>holidays, or funerals in your country of origin?</p><p>15. Have you ever visited a scent garden? Where? When?</p><p>16. What flowers and herbs might be found in a scent garden?</p><p>17. Do you usually use herbs when preparing traditional dishes? Which?</p><p>18. Have you ever heard of a plant being used to help cure an illness?</p><p>Which plants? What were they used for?</p><p>19. Have you ever heard of plants being used to help one’s love life?</p><p>Which plants? Are there flowers traditionally given to lovers?</p><p>“i must always have flowers.”</p><p>claude Monet (1840–1926),</p><p>french artist and gardener</p><p>22</p><p>gARDening</p><p>6 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle four words that you know, and create a question for each.</p><p>rare ............................................................................................................</p><p>herb ...........................................................................................................</p><p>tasks ...........................................................................................................</p><p>plant ..........................................................................................................</p><p>weed ..........................................................................................................</p><p>scarce ........................................................................................................</p><p>scent ..........................................................................................................</p><p>widespread ................................................................................................</p><p>export ........................................................................................................</p><p>hobby ........................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Read the common sayings and proverbs below. Can you add two more?</p><p>He who plants a garden, plants happiness.—Chinese</p><p>As is the gardener, so is the garden.—Hebrew</p><p>The lotus springs from the mud.—Chinese</p><p>A garden is a thing of beauty and a job forever.—English</p><p>Sow soy beans, and you will reap soy beans;</p><p>sow red beans and you will reap red beans.—Korean</p><p>To plant a garden is to believe in tomorrow.</p><p>(Add your own) .........................................................................................</p><p>(Add your own) .........................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Have you ever grown vegetables or fruits for your own use? When?</p><p>Where?</p><p>2. Which vegetables or fruits did you have in your garden? Where did</p><p>you get them?</p><p>3. What did you like about growing your own produce?</p><p>4. What did you dislike about cultivating vegetables and fruits?</p><p>5. What were “victory gardens” in World War II? How did they help</p><p>win the war?</p><p>6. Does your native country export flowers, herbs, vegetables or fruits?</p><p>Which?</p><p>7. What are some differences in climate between your native country</p><p>and here?</p><p>8. Is water scarce in your native country? Is water expensive?</p><p>9. What are some drought resistant plants?</p><p>10. What are some famous gardens in the world today?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 6 9</p><p>11. What are some of the differences in tools and work practices in</p><p>gardens between what are commonly used in your country of</p><p>origin and here?</p><p>12. What are some famous gardens from religion, history, and myth?</p><p>Which would you most like to visit?</p><p>13. If you had unlimited money and were able to have the garden of</p><p>your dreams, would you garden yourself or would you hire others</p><p>to do it? Why?</p><p>14. What makes a good gardener? Which character traits might help?</p><p>15. How does gardening as a hobby help people develop a positive</p><p>outlook?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Circle a quotation that you like and memorize it.</p><p>1. “As you sow, so shall you reap.”—Bible, Galatians</p><p>2. “We must cultivate our own garden.”</p><p>—Francois Voltaire (1694–1778), French writer</p><p>3. “People who think they can run the earth should begin with a small</p><p>garden.”—Evan Esar (1899–1995), humorist and columnist</p><p>4. “No occupation is so delightful to me as the culture of the earth and</p><p>no culture comparable to that of the garden.”</p><p>—Thomas Jefferson (1743–1826), statesman, architect</p><p>5. “You can pick all the flowers, but you can not stop the spring.”</p><p>—Pablo Neruda (1904–1973), Chilean poet</p><p>6. “A weed is no more than a flower in disguise, Which is seen through</p><p>at once, if love give a man eyes.”</p><p>—James Russell Lowell (1819–1891), American poet, diplomat</p><p>7. “I don’t accept flowers. I take nothing perishable.”</p><p>—Paulette Goddard (1910–1990), actress</p><p>8. “A fool sees not the same tree that a wise man sees.”</p><p>—William Blake (1757–1827), English poet and painter</p><p>9. “If a tree dies, plant another in its place.”</p><p>—Carl Linnaeus (1707–1778), Swedish botanist</p><p>10. “The best place to find God is in a garden. You can dig for him</p><p>there.”—George Bernard Shaw (1856–1950), Irish playwright</p><p>11. “Life is not a puzzle to be solved, but a garden to be nurtured and</p><p>enjoyed.” —Toni Aberson (1937–) teacher and gardener</p><p>12. “When I go into my garden with a spade, and dig a bed, I feel</p><p>such an exhilaration and health, that I discover that I have been</p><p>defrauding myself all this time in letting others do for me what I</p><p>should have done with my own hands.”</p><p>—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882), author and essayist</p><p>13. “If we could be understand a single flower we might know who we</p><p>are and what the</p><p>world is.”</p><p>—Jorge Luis Borges (1899–1986), Argentinian writer</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Learn the English name for</p><p>three flowers that you find</p><p>pretty.</p><p>1. ...............................................</p><p>2. ...............................................</p><p>3. ...............................................</p><p>7 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>s h A r i n g s t o r i e s</p><p>Many people find a beach to be restful—a place for fun, relaxation,</p><p>and renewal. Chat with your conversation partner about your beach</p><p>experiences. Remember to be patient, cheerful, helpful, and encouraging.</p><p>1. How old were you when you first saw an ocean? Which ocean?</p><p>2. Have you ever taken a beach vacation? Where did you go?</p><p>3. Did you sunbath, jog, or read on the beach? Did you swim or wade</p><p>in the waves?</p><p>4. When is your favorite time to be on the beach? Dawn, noon, or</p><p>dusk? Why? What makes this time special at the beach?</p><p>5. What activities do you like to do at the beach?</p><p>6. Do you have any photographs of the beach?</p><p>Can you describe a favorite one?</p><p>7. What are some beach souvenirs that tourists can buy?</p><p>8. Which seas and oceans have you seen?</p><p>9. Which was most stormy? Which was most calm? Most beautiful?</p><p>10. Which ocean or sea was coldest? Which was most warm?</p><p>11. What sports can be played on the beach or in the water?</p><p>12. What kind of bathing suit do you usually wear?</p><p>Do you have a favorite bathing suit?</p><p>13. What do you usually bring to the beach?</p><p>14. What precautions do you take to avoid being sunburned?</p><p>15. Do you like to swim? Do you prefer swimming in a pool or an</p><p>ocean? Why?</p><p>16. What movies have you seen that celebrate the beach or surfing?</p><p>17. Have you ever tried to bodysurf ? What happened?</p><p>18. Have you ever tried to use a boogie board?</p><p>A surfboard? What happened?</p><p>“We protect what we love,</p><p>and i love the ocean.”</p><p>Jacques cousteau (1910–1997),</p><p>oceanographer</p><p>23</p><p>enJoYing tHe BeACH</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 7 1</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Read the vocabulary list aloud. Then, with the help of your conversation</p><p>partner, write five sentences about the beach.</p><p>souvenir .....................................................................................................</p><p>stormy .......................................................................................................</p><p>calm ..........................................................................................................</p><p>surfboard ...................................................................................................</p><p>dolphin ......................................................................................................</p><p>shark ..........................................................................................................</p><p>jellyfish sting ..............................................................................................</p><p>lotion .........................................................................................................</p><p>umbrella ....................................................................................................</p><p>hurricane ..................................................................................................</p><p>tsunami .....................................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Have you ever gone snorkeling? Scuba-diving? Did you enjoy it?</p><p>2. Have you ever gone swimming in the ocean at night?</p><p>3. Have you ever seen dolphins in the water? What were they doing?</p><p>4. Have you ever seen sharks in the water? How did you feel?</p><p>5. Have you ever been stung by a jellyfish? How did you treat the sting?</p><p>6. Have you ever gone saltwater fishing? Did you catch anything?</p><p>7. What birds have you seen at the beach? Pelicans? Seagulls? Other?</p><p>8. Can you describe a memorable day at the beach? What happened?</p><p>9. Why do so many children love going to the beach?</p><p>10. What activities have you done with children on a beach?</p><p>11. Have you ever built a sand castle? How big was it?</p><p>12. Have you ever collected shells? What is your favorite type of shell?</p><p>13. Have you ever kept something you found at the beach? What is a</p><p>beachcomber?</p><p>14. On the beach, what is the difference between high tide and low tide?</p><p>15. What are some threats to clean beaches? How can we help protect</p><p>them?</p><p>16. Have you ever seen a beach after a hurricane or tsunami? What</p><p>did you see?</p><p>17. Do you prefer going to the beach alone, with your partner, your</p><p>family, or with a group of friends? Why?</p><p>18. What islands or beaches would you like to visit? Why?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>explore</p><p>Have fun</p><p>Be active</p><p>7 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>s Ay i n g s</p><p>Write the meaning of three of the following sayings and proverbs.</p><p>He has buried his head in the sand.</p><p>She’s in deep water.</p><p>It’s hard to swim against the current.</p><p>Sink or swim.</p><p>He’s riding a wave of popularity at the moment.</p><p>The ocean does not choose its trash.—Japanese</p><p>1. ...............................................................................................................</p><p>2. ...............................................................................................................</p><p>3. ...............................................................................................................</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read aloud all the quotations. Pick your favorite and explain to your</p><p>partner why it is your favorite.</p><p>1. “In every curving beach, in every grain of sand, there is the story of</p><p>the earth.”</p><p>—Rachel Carson (1907–1964), biologist and environmentalist</p><p>2. “The sea does not reward those who are too anxious, too greedy, or</p><p>too impatient. One should lie empty, open, choiceless as a beach–</p><p>waiting for a gift from the sea.”</p><p>—Anne Morrow Lindberg (1906–2001), writer</p><p>3. “Time and tide wait for no man.”</p><p>—Geoffrey Chaucer (1343–1400), English author</p><p>4. “On vacations: We hit the sunny beaches where we occupy</p><p>ourselves keeping the sun off our skin, the saltwater off our bodies,</p><p>and the sand out of our belongings.”</p><p>—Erma Bombeck (1927–1996), America humorist</p><p>5. “When one tugs at a single thing in nature, he finds it attached to</p><p>the rest of the world.”</p><p>—John Muir (1838–1914), environmentalist</p><p>6. “I hate vacations. If you can build buildings, why sit on a beach?”</p><p>—Phillip Johnson (1906–2005), American architect</p><p>7. “A beach not only permits inertia, but enforces it, thus neatly</p><p>eliminating all problems of guilt. It is now the only place in our</p><p>overly active world that does.”</p><p>—John Kenneth Galbraith (1908–), American diplomat, economist</p><p>8. “You can tell all you need to about a society from how it treats</p><p>animals and beaches.”</p><p>—Frank Deford (1938–), sports commentator</p><p>9. “The sea never changes and its works, for all the talk of men,</p><p>are wrapped in mystery.”</p><p>— Joseph Conrad (1857–1924), novelist</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Find a picture in a</p><p>magazine or pamphlet</p><p>which shows a beach you</p><p>would like to visit</p><p>Bring the picture to class</p><p>to share with others.</p><p>Describe the scene to</p><p>others in your small group.</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 7 3</p><p>s h A r i n g m e m o r i e s</p><p>Holidays bring people together. Talk with your partner about the</p><p>holidays of your lives.</p><p>1. When you were a child, what was your favorite holiday or festival?</p><p>Why? What did you enjoy?</p><p>2. What inspired this holiday? What usually happens on this holiday?</p><p>3. What are some holy days in your religious tradition?</p><p>4. When is the New Year observed in your homeland? How is the New</p><p>Year celebrated? Which calendar do you use?</p><p>5. In your native land, is there a special day to honor mothers?</p><p>Fathers? Children?</p><p>6. Is there a special day to honor all ancestors? How is it celebrated?</p><p>7. Can you think of any fantasy figure,</p><p>such as Santa Claus, connected</p><p>to holiday celebrations? What is the fantasy figure like? What does</p><p>this fantasy figure do?</p><p>8. Do any holidays in your native country celebrate the end of a war?</p><p>Which war? How do you mark the occasion?</p><p>9. Do any holidays honor war veterans? How are they honored?</p><p>10. Can you think of some national holidays to honor the birthdays of</p><p>famous leaders? Who are the leaders? What did they do?</p><p>11. What are the official legal holidays in your native country?</p><p>12. Can you tell me about other special days, perhaps social holidays</p><p>or days of personal significance, that most individuals celebrate in</p><p>your country?</p><p>13. Which holidays have special foods which accompany the celebration?</p><p>14. What are the 10 official, legal holidays in the United States?</p><p>15. What are some popular social holidays, sometimes called</p><p>“Hallmark holidays,” here?</p><p>“thanksgiving Day…is the one</p><p>day that is truly american.”</p><p>o. Henry (1862–1910),</p><p>American short story writer</p><p>24</p><p>HoliDAYs AnD CeleBRAtions</p><p>7 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Use them to write three questions.</p><p>celebrate ....................................................................................................</p><p>honor ........................................................................................................</p><p>festival .......................................................................................................</p><p>parade .......................................................................................................</p><p>fireworks ....................................................................................................</p><p>carol ..........................................................................................................</p><p>accompany ................................................................................................</p><p>celebration ................................................................................................</p><p>costumes....................................................................................................</p><p>veteran ......................................................................................................</p><p>ancestor .....................................................................................................</p><p>homesick ...................................................................................................</p><p>fantasy .......................................................................................................</p><p>ritual ..........................................................................................................</p><p>procession .................................................................................................</p><p>s Ay i n g s</p><p>Read the common sayings and proverbs below. Can you add two more?</p><p>The more the merrier.</p><p>When the boss is away, work becomes a holiday.—Portuguese</p><p>Time spent laughing is time spent with the gods.—Japanese</p><p>Enjoy yourself. It’s later than you think.—Chinese</p><p>Shared joys are doubled; shared sorrows are halved.</p><p>(Add your own) .........................................................................................</p><p>(Add your own) .........................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. What are some traditional gifts for Valentine’s Day? How do you</p><p>celebrate it?</p><p>2. Do you know what happens in the comic movie Groundhog Day?</p><p>3. Which holidays include special songs, dances, or costumes?</p><p>4. Do you have a favorite song or dance linked to a holiday? Which?</p><p>Do you own any collection of holiday songs?</p><p>5. Which holidays often include fireworks? Parades? Caroling?</p><p>6. What are three special holiday activities for children?</p><p>7. On what holidays, do people traditionally put on costumes? Did you</p><p>celebrate a holiday similar to Halloween in your native country?</p><p>8. What are some holidays that occur in the Spring?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Celebrate</p><p>Be curious</p><p>Be yourself</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 7 5</p><p>9. Do you have a favorite Spring holiday? What is the holiday? How is</p><p>it celebrated?</p><p>10. In your native land, is there a winter holiday which uses lots of lights</p><p>near the winter solstice? What is the holiday? How is it celebrated?</p><p>11. Now that you are in the United States, do you still celebrate the</p><p>same holidays?</p><p>12. Can you think of some movies centered around a holiday? Do you</p><p>have a favorite movie to watch during the holidays? Why?</p><p>13. What is your favorite holiday? How do you celebrate it?</p><p>14. Did you celebrate July 4 last year? Thanksgiving? What did you do?</p><p>15. Have you seen any new holidays created, or dropped, in your</p><p>lifetime? Which ones?</p><p>16. Do you feel more homesick near holiday time? What do you</p><p>especially miss?</p><p>17. Why do you think so many people find the holiday season stressful?</p><p>18. What are your best tips to make holidays a positive experience?</p><p>19. Would you like to add, or create, a new holiday? What? Why?</p><p>How would you like to celebrate this new holiday?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read aloud all the quotations. Pick your favorites and discuss.</p><p>1. “A feast is made for laughter.”</p><p>—Ecclesiastes 10:19.</p><p>2. “You can’t have Thanksgiving without turkey. That’s like Fourth of</p><p>July without apple pie, or Friday without two pizzas.”</p><p>—Joey (Matt LeBlanc) on Friends, an American situation comedy</p><p>(sitcom) series</p><p>3. “Happy, happy Christmas, that win us back to the delusions of our</p><p>childhood days, recall to the old man the pleasures of his youth, and</p><p>transport the traveler back to his own fireside and quiet home.”</p><p>—Charles Dickens (1812–1870) English novelist</p><p>4. “I was an atheist for a while, but I gave it up. No holidays!”</p><p>—Henry Youngman (1906–1998) American comedian</p><p>5. “In the old days, it was not called the Holiday Season; the</p><p>Christians called it ‘Christmas’ and went to church; the Jews called</p><p>it ‘Hanukkah’ and went to synagogue; the atheists went to parties</p><p>and drank.”</p><p>—Dave Barry (1947–) American comedian</p><p>6. “Christmas is the season when gifts are gladly given, happily</p><p>received, and cheerfully refunded.”</p><p>—Evan Esar (1899–1995), American humorist</p><p>7. “April 1: This is the day upon which we are reminded of what we</p><p>are on the other three hundred and sixty-four.”</p><p>—Mark Twain (1835–1910) humorist</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>7 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>8. “Live your life while you have it. Life is a splendid gift—there’s</p><p>nothing small about it.”</p><p>—Florence Nightingale (1820–1910), Founder of the Red Cross</p><p>9. “Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. He exists as certainly as love</p><p>and generosity and devotion exist.”</p><p>—Francis B. Church (1839–1906), publisher and editor</p><p>10. “Today is Valentine’s Day, or, as men like to call it, Extortion Day!”</p><p>—Jay Leno (1950–), late night American television comedian</p><p>11. “To many people holidays are not voyages of discovery, but a ritual</p><p>of reassurance.”</p><p>—Phillip Andrew Adams (1939–), Australian broadcaster</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Using the grid at right, create a</p><p>calendar for the month of your</p><p>birth, showing your birthday</p><p>and other holidays.</p><p>On separate sheets of paper,</p><p>create a 12-month</p><p>calendar</p><p>showing the days you celebrate</p><p>and official American holidays.</p><p>m tu W th F sa su</p><p>MonTH ..........................................</p><p>“in the 21st century, you will:</p><p>• Do more</p><p>• Know more</p><p>• Have more</p><p>• Travel more</p><p>• See more</p><p>• Be more</p><p>than people in any previous</p><p>generation in any human</p><p>civilization.”</p><p>allan neuHartH</p><p>(1924–), publisher of uSA Today</p><p>m</p><p>odern tim</p><p>es</p><p>LAuriE SELik PHoTo</p><p>7 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>“the only way to make sure people you</p><p>agree with can speak is to support the</p><p>rights of people you don’t agree with.”</p><p>Eleanor Holmes norton (1937–),</p><p>congresswoman</p><p>A g r e e i n g t o d i s A g r e e</p><p>Life would be boring if we all agreed all the time. The following phrases</p><p>let you state your position clearly while keeping the conversation friendly.</p><p>Read all phrases aloud.</p><p>Expressing agreement …or disagreement</p><p>I agree. I don’t agree.</p><p>That’s right. Sorry, I disagree.</p><p>Absolutely. I can’t go along with that.</p><p>That’s true. That’s not completely true.</p><p>I believe that. I don’t believe that.</p><p>That’s a good idea. That’s wrong. What about x, y, or z ?</p><p>That’s right on target. That’s way off base.</p><p>That’s quite a stretch.</p><p>I concur. I can’t agree.</p><p>On the contrary/ I dissent.</p><p>That’s valid. That’s invalid.</p><p>That’s not always true.</p><p>I accept that. I reject that.</p><p>I can’t accept that.</p><p>I partly agree.</p><p>I support that. I can’t support that.</p><p>I reject that idea.</p><p>That idea has my vote. I have a different idea./I have a better idea.</p><p>I definitely agree. I beg to differ.</p><p>I see things differently.</p><p>I strongly agree. That doesn’t make sense. Is that logical?</p><p>I couldn’t agree more. That seems simplistic.</p><p>I think you are wrong here.</p><p>You go, girl! I can’t go there!</p><p>25</p><p>wHAt Do You tHink?</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 7 9</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle the words that you already know. Look up the other words.</p><p>agree .........................................................................................................</p><p>disagree .....................................................................................................</p><p>concur .......................................................................................................</p><p>assume .......................................................................................................</p><p>solution......................................................................................................</p><p>valid ...........................................................................................................</p><p>invalid .......................................................................................................</p><p>support ......................................................................................................</p><p>assumption ................................................................................................</p><p>response ....................................................................................................</p><p>accept ........................................................................................................</p><p>reject .........................................................................................................</p><p>deny ..........................................................................................................</p><p>results ........................................................................................................</p><p>consequences ............................................................................................</p><p>A g r e e ? o r d i s A g r e e ? P A r t i</p><p>Do you agree or disagree with the following proverbs? Why? Discuss with</p><p>your partner.</p><p>1. The best things in life are free.</p><p>2. Children should be seen and not heard.</p><p>3. Spare the rod and spoil the child.</p><p>4. Money is the root of all evil.</p><p>5. Honesty is the best policy.</p><p>6. It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.</p><p>7. Behind every successful man there’s a woman.</p><p>8. The end justifies the means.</p><p>9. Winning is everything.</p><p>10. Better to be a live dog than a dead lion.</p><p>11. Persistence pays.</p><p>12. There is no good war and no bad peace.</p><p>13. Your best friend is yourself.</p><p>14. Never judge a movie by its preview.</p><p>15. You can’t keep a good man down.</p><p>16. A closed mouth catches no flies.</p><p>17. The best defense is a good offense.</p><p>18. Money makes the world go round.</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>8 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>A c t i v i t y</p><p>Choose a topic about which you and your conversation partner disagree.</p><p>Spend five minutes discussing your opinions in a friendly, respectful way.</p><p>Use some of the phrases at the beginning of this chapter to keep the</p><p>conversation flowing.</p><p>s e e k i n g c l A r i f i c At i o n</p><p>Sometimes we need more information. Read each of these phrases aloud</p><p>to your partner.</p><p>So? What do you mean?</p><p>Can you rephrase that? Why do you say that?</p><p>Can you give another example? Have you considered…?</p><p>What if the situation were a bit different? What if…?</p><p>Do you think that is the only reason/cause/explanation? How far</p><p>would you go?</p><p>Are you sure? Why are you so sure?</p><p>What’s your source for that bit of information? How do you know?</p><p>Can you imagine some alternatives? Is there another possibility?</p><p>A g r e e ? o r d i s A g r e e ? P A r t i i</p><p>Consider each of the following common statements, attitudes, or proverbs.</p><p>Which statement of agreement or disagreement best expresses your</p><p>reaction?</p><p>1. Seeing is believing.</p><p>2. Appearances are deceiving.</p><p>3. Beauty promises happiness.</p><p>4. Be good and you will be happy.</p><p>5. No pain, no gain.</p><p>6. No pain, no pain.</p><p>7. The bigger, the better.</p><p>8. Less is more.</p><p>9. Cream rises to the top.</p><p>10. The unexpected always happens.</p><p>11. You get what you pay for.</p><p>12. A penny saved is a penny earned.</p><p>13. Two can live as cheaply as one.</p><p>14. Bad news travels fast.</p><p>15. Liars should have good memories.</p><p>16. Life is not a popularity contest.</p><p>17. Counting your money is how you keep score.</p><p>18. You can’t take it with you.</p><p>19. Time heals all wounds.</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 8 1</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Scan the editorial page of a</p><p>publication. Pick a letter to the</p><p>editor, editorial, or op-ed that</p><p>“sounds right” to you. Bring</p><p>it to class and explain your</p><p>choice.</p><p>OR</p><p>What are some controversial</p><p>issues in your country? Make</p><p>a list of five topics that people</p><p>are debating. Which one do</p><p>you think is most important?</p><p>Why?</p><p>20. Never forget; never forgive.</p><p>21. Don’t throw your pearls before swine.</p><p>22. A donkey prefers hay to gold.</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Here are some strong statements from a variety of prominent individu-</p><p>als. What do you think? Do you completely agree? Mostly disagree? Feel</p><p>neutral? Strongly disagree? Is the statement an exaggeration? How?</p><p>Please give examples and reasons to support your point of view as you</p><p>discuss these statements with your partner.</p><p>1. “True love is like ghosts, which everybody talks about and few</p><p>have seen.”</p><p>—Francois Duc De La Rochefoucauld (1613–1680), French writer</p><p>2. “A man will fight harder for his interest than for his rights.”</p><p>—Napoleon (1769–1821), French leader and military genius</p><p>3. “Today’s audience knows more about what’s on television than</p><p>what’s in life.”</p><p>—Larry Gilbert (1928–) actor, writer, and producer</p><p>4. “Art is the proper task of life.”</p><p>—Friedrich Nietzsche (1844–1900) German philosopher</p><p>5. “Nobody minds having what is too good for them.”</p><p>—Jane Austen (1775–1821), English novelist</p><p>6. “Nothing is so dangerous as an ignorant friend; a wise enemy is</p><p>much better.”</p><p>—Jean de La Fontaine (1621–1695), French poet</p><p>7. “Permissiveness is the principle of treating children as if they were</p><p>adults; and the tactic of making sure they will never reach that</p><p>stage.”</p><p>—Dr. Thomas Szasz (1921–) psychiatrist</p><p>8. “Nationalism: An infantile disease. It is the measles of mankind.”</p><p>—Albert Einstein (1879–1955), Time Magazine’s Man of the 20th</p><p>Century</p><p>9. “Christmas is the time when kids tell Santa what they want and</p><p>adults pay for it. Deficits are when adults tell government what they</p><p>want and their kids pay for it.”</p><p>—Richard Lamm (1935–), former Governor of Colorado</p><p>10. “If two ride on a horse, one must ride behind.”</p><p>—William Shakespeare (1564–1616), great English playwright</p><p>11. “Experience is the name everyone gives their mistakes.”</p><p>—Oscar Wilde (1854–1900), Irish playwright</p><p>12. “We make war so we may live in peace.”</p><p>—Aristotle (384–322 B.C.E.), Greek philosopher</p><p>“i never learned from a man who</p><p>agreed with me.”</p><p>robert Heinlein (1907–1988),</p><p>American writer</p><p>8 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>26</p><p>CHAnge</p><p>s h A r i n g n o t e s</p><p>All of us have to deal with change. Sometimes it’s fun; sometimes it’s</p><p>hard. Share some of your experiences with your class partner.</p><p>1. How has your neighborhood changed in the last five years?</p><p>2. How have clothing fashions changed during your lifetime?</p><p>3. Do you dress differently than you did five years ago? How?</p><p>4. How have your looks changed in the last ten years?</p><p>5. What’s your reaction to a woman changing her looks with make-up?</p><p>Hair dye? Plastic surgery?</p><p>6. What about men? Is it okay if men use make-up? Hair dye? Plastic</p><p>surgery?</p><p>7. If you could have a free makeover, what physical changes would you</p><p>seek? Why?</p><p>8. Can you name three changes important technological changes in</p><p>your life?</p><p>9. What type of technology has helped the most people? Why?</p><p>10. Do you try and keep up with technological changes? What skills</p><p>have you added in the last five years?</p><p>11. What social changes have happened in your native country in your</p><p>lifetime?</p><p>12. What political changes have happened in your native country in</p><p>your lifetime?</p><p>13. What is a custom or tradition that you would like to change in your</p><p>native country? Why?</p><p>14. What social changes you would like to see in America?</p><p>15. What three political changes would you like to happen in the world?</p><p>16. Has nature changed in the last 100 years? How?</p><p>17. Has human nature changed in the last 100 years? If so, how?</p><p>“nothing is constant except change.”</p><p>Heraclitus (ca. 513 b.c.E.),</p><p>greek philosopher</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 8 3</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle three words. Does your class partner know their meanings?</p><p>fashion .......................................................................................................</p><p>makeover...................................................................................................</p><p>inevitable ...................................................................................................</p><p>adjust .........................................................................................................</p><p>resist ..........................................................................................................</p><p>resistance ...................................................................................................</p><p>rehabilitation .............................................................................................</p><p>optimistic ..................................................................................................</p><p>pessimistic .................................................................................................</p><p>resilient ......................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Have you heard any of these? Circle the ones with which you agree.</p><p>Don’t change horses in midstream.</p><p>A leopard can’t change its spots.</p><p>Change is in the air.</p><p>It’s time for a change.</p><p>A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.</p><p>The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.</p><p>Old habits die hard.</p><p>Change for change’s sake.</p><p>You can’t make an omelette without breaking eggs.</p><p>Out with the old and in with the new.</p><p>You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.</p><p>It’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind.</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Can you name anything which is the same as it was 100 years ago?</p><p>What?</p><p>2. What personal changes would you welcome?</p><p>3. Are there personal changes that you fear? What?</p><p>4. If you could stop time and keep everything the same, would you?</p><p>Why?</p><p>5. What change in your life did you easily adjust to?</p><p>6. What change did you resist? Did it work? Was resistance helpful?</p><p>7. Have any of your basic ideas changed in the last five years? What?</p><p>8. Do you believe that rehabilitation is possible for violent criminals?</p><p>9. What changes do you think will happen in the next five years? Why?</p><p>10. What changes do you hope for in the next decade? 100 years?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be encouraging</p><p>Be honest</p><p>Be kind</p><p>8 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>11. Have your ideas about family changed as you have grown older?</p><p>How?</p><p>12. Have your ideas about God changed as you have grown older?</p><p>How?</p><p>13. Have your ideas about happiness changed as you have grown</p><p>older? How?</p><p>14. Are you more optimistic or more pessimistic than you used to be?</p><p>Why? Can you give an example?</p><p>15. Can you share some tips for becoming more resilient amidst</p><p>change?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Which quotation is your favorite? Do you disagree with any quotation?</p><p>1. “The universe is change.”</p><p>—Marcus Aurelius (121–180), Roman Emperor</p><p>2. “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens</p><p>can change the world. Indeed it is the only thing that ever has.”</p><p>—Margaret Mead (1907–1978), anthropologist</p><p>3. “Change your thoughts and you change the world.”</p><p>—Norman Vincent Peale (1898–1993), clergyman</p><p>4. “There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged</p><p>to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.”</p><p>—Nelson Mandela (1918–), African Leader</p><p>5. “Things do not change; we change.”</p><p>—Henry David Thoreau (1817–1862), essayist</p><p>6. “Time may change me, but I can’t change time.”</p><p>—David Bowie (1947–), English musician/actor</p><p>7. “We did not change as we grew older; we just became more clearly</p><p>ourselves.”</p><p>—Lynn Hall (1937–), prolific author of children’s books</p><p>8. “A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds.”</p><p>—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882), writer</p><p>9. “To modernize is to adopt and to adapt, but it is also to re-create.”</p><p>—Octavio Paz (1914–1998), Mexican writer and diplomat</p><p>10. “It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most</p><p>intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”</p><p>—Charles Darwin (1809–1882), naturalist</p><p>11. “Make change your friend.”</p><p>—Bill Clinton</p><p>(1946–), 42nd U.S. President</p><p>12. “A man needs a little madness, or else he never dares cut the rope</p><p>and be free.”</p><p>—Nikos Kazantzakis (1883–1957), Greek writer, Nobel Prize winner</p><p>13. “We must be the change we want to see in the world.”</p><p>—Gandhi (1869–1948), Indian statesman</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Before next class, choose a</p><p>place which is special to you</p><p>and write a few sentences</p><p>about how it has changed since</p><p>you were a child.</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>“indecision may or may not be my</p><p>problem.”</p><p>—Jimmy buffett (1946–), singer/</p><p>songwriter</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 8 5</p><p>27</p><p>ClotHes AnD fAsHion</p><p>s h A r i n g v i e w s</p><p>Styles and fashions change, but the desire to surround ourselves with</p><p>beauty remains. Discuss clothing options with your conversation partner.</p><p>1. What are you wearing today? Where did you get your favorite piece</p><p>of clothing?</p><p>2. Do you usually dress casually or formally?</p><p>3. Do you prefer conservative, shabby, or trendy clothes? Why?</p><p>4. Do you find dressing for work a chore, a choice, or a pleasure? Why?</p><p>5. When picking clothes, are you drawn to certain colors? Which?</p><p>6. How often do you shop for clothes? Do you have a favorite day or</p><p>time?</p><p>7. Do you like to window shop for clothes? Where do you go?</p><p>8. Can you suggest stores that sell quality clothes at reasonable prices?</p><p>9. Are clothing styles, or stores, different in your native country than</p><p>here? How?</p><p>10. Do you have a favorite outfit? Where do you go in it?</p><p>11. How do you accessorize? Do you have a favorite accessory?</p><p>12. Is there a traditional dress in your native country? Can you</p><p>describe it?</p><p>13. How often do you get dressed up? For what occasions?</p><p>14. Do you dress differently in the U.S. than you did in your native</p><p>country?</p><p>15. Do people in your native country tend to dress more conservatively</p><p>or more showy?</p><p>16. Have you ever worn a uniform for work or school? Can you</p><p>describe it?</p><p>17. What is an example of something you would never wear? Why?</p><p>18. Whom do you think of as being fashionable or chic? Why?</p><p>“Fashion: a despot whom the</p><p>wise ridicule and obey.”</p><p>Ambrose bierce (1842–1914),</p><p>American satirist, journalist</p><p>8 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Use them to write three questions.</p><p>fashion .......................................................................................................</p><p>chic ............................................................................................................</p><p>elegant .......................................................................................................</p><p>shabby .......................................................................................................</p><p>trend ..........................................................................................................</p><p>trendy ........................................................................................................</p><p>despot ........................................................................................................</p><p>icon ...........................................................................................................</p><p>designer .....................................................................................................</p><p>accessory ...................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Read the common sayings and proverbs below. Can you add two more?</p><p>Clothes make the man.—Talmud</p><p>Clothes hide the blemish.—Yiddish</p><p>Dress up a monkey like a bishop, it’s still a monkey.—Japanese</p><p>Style is substance.—American</p><p>When it’s torn, it can’t be worn.—Persian</p><p>As for clothes, the newer the better;</p><p>as for friends, the older the better.—Korean</p><p>You get what you pay for.—Greek</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Which materials do you prefer to wear?</p><p>2. Are you allergic to any materials?</p><p>3. Do you sew? Have you patched jeans or other clothes?</p><p>4. What do you do with old clothes? Do you give them away? Sell</p><p>them at a garage sale?</p><p>5. Can you describe some clothes that would clash?</p><p>What is a fashion faux pas?</p><p>6. What type of clothes, jewelry, or furniture do you find tacky?</p><p>Shabby? Ugly?</p><p>7. If you were the “fashion police,” what would you get rid of ? Why?</p><p>8. Who are some fashion icons? Can you think of some “fashion</p><p>forward” people?</p><p>9. Do you have a favorite fashion designer? Why?</p><p>10. What is the difference between style and fashion?</p><p>11. Have you ever felt that fashion was a despot or tyrant? How?</p><p>12. Who taught you how to dress? Who was your role model? Why?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 8 7</p><p>13. Do you dress differently from your parents? How?</p><p>14. Do your children dress differently from you? How?</p><p>15. What do you usually notice about clothes? What catches your eye?</p><p>16. Is there anything you don’t allow your children to wear? What?</p><p>Why?</p><p>17. Who do you consider the best-dressed celebrity? The worst? Why?</p><p>18. Should people be allowed to wear whatever they want whenever</p><p>they want? Why or why not?</p><p>19. Can you share your five best fashion tips with me?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Circle the quotations you like, and connect the expression to your life.</p><p>1. “Be not the first by whom the new are tried</p><p>Nor yet the last to lay the old aside.”</p><p>—Alexander Pope (1688–1744), English poet</p><p>2. “The fashion wears out more apparel than the man.”</p><p>—William Shakespeare (1564–1616), English playwright, poet</p><p>3. “Now I can wear high heels again.”</p><p>—Nicole Kidman, (1967–) actress, after her divorce.</p><p>4. “I dress for women, and undress for men.”</p><p>—Angie Dickinson (1931–) actress</p><p>5. “I only put clothes on so that I’m not naked when I go out</p><p>shopping.”</p><p>—Julia Roberts (1967–) actress and movie star</p><p>6. “Naked people have little or no influence in society.”</p><p>—Mark Twain (1835–1910)</p><p>7. “He is ill clothed that is bare of virtue.”</p><p>—Benjamin Franklin (1706–1790) statesman</p><p>8. “In your community, your reputation matters. In a strange place,</p><p>your clothing counts.”</p><p>—Talmud</p><p>9. “We are all Adam’s children, but silk makes the difference.”</p><p>—Thomas Fuller (1608–1661), English historian and religious leader</p><p>10. “Beware of all enterprises that require new clothes.”</p><p>—Henry David Thoreau (1817–1860) American philosopher</p><p>11. “The man who inspects the saddle blanket instead</p><p>of the horse is stupid; most stupid is the man who</p><p>judges another man by his clothes or circumstances.”</p><p>—Seneca the Younger (4 B.C.E.–65 A.D.), Roman statesmen and</p><p>writer</p><p>12. “If most of us are ashamed of shabby clothes and shoddy</p><p>furniture, let us be more ashamed of shabby ideas and shoddy</p><p>philosophies.”</p><p>—Albert Einstein (1879–1955), scientist and philosopher</p><p>8 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>13. “A thing of beauty is a joy–until the fashion changes.”</p><p>—Evan Esar (1899–1995), writer</p><p>14. “I base most of my fashion taste on what doesn’t itch.”</p><p>—Gilda Radner (1946–1989), television comedian</p><p>15. “Fashion: That,</p><p>not necessarily beautiful, which makes what</p><p>preceded it look stodgy, foolish, or inexpensive.”</p><p>—Leo Rosten (1908–1997), author</p><p>16. “You may judge a flower or a butterfly by its looks, but not a</p><p>human being…Only fools judge men by their outside.”</p><p>—Radindranath Tagore (1861–1941), Indian poet, Nobel Prize</p><p>winner</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Pick a favorite outfit or</p><p>piece of clothing. At</p><p>right, write about the</p><p>outfit: where it was made,</p><p>how you got it, and</p><p>why you like it. Share</p><p>your short essay with</p><p>classmates.</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>......................................................................................................................</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 8 9</p><p>28</p><p>APPReCiAting PHYsiCAl BeAutY</p><p>s h A r i n g v i e w s</p><p>Most people hope they are attractive to others. What is beautiful to you?</p><p>Share your thoughts with your class partner. Feel free to skip questions or</p><p>add questions. Have fun!</p><p>1. Who are some women that you find beautiful?</p><p>2. Whom do you consider elegant? Whom do you consider stylish?</p><p>3. Which woman is the closest to your ideal?</p><p>4. What three characteristics about her do you find most attractive?</p><p>5. Who are some men that you find handsome? Which is the closest to</p><p>your ideal?</p><p>6. What three characteristics about him do you find most attractive?</p><p>7. Who are, or were, some “sex symbols” in your country? Why?</p><p>8. Can you name ugly celebrities or people? What makes them ugly?</p><p>9. Where can you go to watch people and “feast your eyes”?</p><p>10. Do you use cosmetics? If so, when did you start? Who taught you</p><p>to use lipstick, mascara, etc?</p><p>11. Where do you shop when you want to buy something to make you</p><p>look better? Why do you shop there?</p><p>12. What kinds of cosmetics are common for young women in your</p><p>country?</p><p>13. Do you think women are more attractive when they wear makeup?</p><p>How?</p><p>14. Do you read fashion or style magazines? Which ones? How have</p><p>clothing fashions changed recently?</p><p>15. On a scale of 1-10, how important is physical attractiveness to you</p><p>in a lover?</p><p>15. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why?</p><p>“Beauty is the promise of happiness.”</p><p>Henri beyle Stendhal</p><p>(1783–1842) french writer</p><p>9 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle three words you know. Use each of the three in sentences which</p><p>you tell your partner.</p><p>balance ......................................................................................................</p><p>athletic.......................................................................................................</p><p>pierced ......................................................................................................</p><p>muscular ...................................................................................................</p><p>enhance .....................................................................................................</p><p>cosmetics ...................................................................................................</p><p>beard .........................................................................................................</p><p>irresistible ..................................................................................................</p><p>trim ...........................................................................................................</p><p>plastic surgery ...........................................................................................</p><p>mustache ...................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Read aloud each of the following proverbs. Then, choose one and</p><p>explain it to your class partner.</p><p>Beauty attracts. Personality keeps.</p><p>Love is blind.—English</p><p>Even pockmarks may look like dimples.—Japanese</p><p>The eyes are the window of the soul.—English</p><p>In love, beauty counts for more than good advice.—Latin</p><p>Beauty is as Beauty does.—American</p><p>Inside every fat person is a thin person trying to get out.—American</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Do you notice women’s hairstyles? What does long hair say? Short</p><p>hair? What styles do you prefer?</p><p>2. Do you pay attention to men’s hair? What does baldness convey to</p><p>you? Long hair? What styles do you prefer?</p><p>3. Do you usually think beards look good? What about mustaches?</p><p>Long sideburns?</p><p>4. Is it common in your homeland for women to have pierced ears?</p><p>At what age?</p><p>5. Do you find permanent piercings or markings attractive?</p><p>Do they enhance attractiveness?</p><p>6. How have notions of beauty changed in your native country in the</p><p>last 50 years?</p><p>7. How are notions of beauty and fashion different from the U.S.?</p><p>8. How widespread is plastic surgery in your homeland? Is Botox</p><p>popular? Why?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 9 1</p><p>9. Do you know anyone who has ever been to a plastic surgeon? What</p><p>operation was performed? Was the person more attractive to you?</p><p>10. In literature, who are some of the women of great physical beauty</p><p>who were considered irresistible by men? Can you describe one</p><p>from your native country?</p><p>11. Who are some men, in literature or myth, of great physical</p><p>attractiveness whom women found irresistible? Can you describe</p><p>one?</p><p>12. What physical features do you appreciate,</p><p>and find attractive, in a women?</p><p>13. What makes a man attractive to you?</p><p>What physical features do you appreciate?</p><p>14. What do you find beautiful in nature?</p><p>What animals do you find beautiful?</p><p>15. What makes an object beautiful? Is it balance?</p><p>Is it harmony? Is it color?</p><p>16. What makes someone beautiful? What is beauty?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>With the help of your partner, decide what is meant by #7 and #12. Do</p><p>you agree with these ideas?</p><p>1. “Beauty’s but skin deep.”</p><p>—John Davies (1565–1618), English Dramatist</p><p>2. “If eyes were made for seeing, Then Beauty is its own excuse for</p><p>being.”</p><p>—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882), American essayist</p><p>3. “Beauty is truth, truth beauty,—that is all ye know on earth, and all</p><p>ye need to know.”</p><p>—John Keats (1795–1821), English poet</p><p>4. “Why should beauty be suspect?”</p><p>—Auguste Renoir (1841–1919), French artist</p><p>5. “If the nose of Cleopatra had been shorter, the whole face of the</p><p>earth would have been changed.”</p><p>—Blaise Pascal (1623–1662), French philosopher</p><p>6. “There is no excellent beauty that hath not some strangeness in</p><p>proportion.”</p><p>—Francis Bacon (1561–1626), English philosopher</p><p>7. “To men a man is but a mind. Who cares what face he carries or</p><p>what form he wears? But woman’s body is the woman.”</p><p>—Ambrose Bierce (1842–1914), American writer</p><p>8. “There’s so much to say, but your eyes keep interrupting me.”</p><p>—Christopher Morley (1890–1957), American writer</p><p>9. “Beauty and folly are generally companions.”</p><p>—Baltasar Gracian (1601–1658) Spanish philosopher</p><p>9 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>10. “I’m a very physical person. People don’t credit me with much of a</p><p>brain, so why should I disillusion them?”</p><p>—Sylvester Stallone (1946–), film star and director</p><p>11. “I require only three things of a man. He must be handsome, ruthless,</p><p>and stupid.”</p><p>—Dorothy Parker (1893–1967), American writer</p><p>12. “Beautiful bodies and beautiful personalities rarely go together.”</p><p>—Carl Gustav Jung (1875–1961), psychologist</p><p>13. “Just standing around looking beautiful is so boring, really boring,</p><p>so boring.”</p><p>—Michelle Pfeiffer (1957–), actress</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Cut out and bring to class a</p><p>picture from a magazine of a</p><p>female or male whom you find</p><p>attractive.</p><p>Write four sentences which</p><p>express your opinions on what</p><p>makes that person beautiful or</p><p>handsome.</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 9 3</p><p>29</p><p>DAting</p><p>s h A r i n g v i e w s</p><p>Everyone has questions about dating. Share some of your dating advice</p><p>with your class partner.</p><p>1. How old were you when you went on your first date?</p><p>2. Where did you go? Were you alone or was there a chaperone?</p><p>3. Were any gifts exchanged? Flowers?</p><p>4. How is dating different in your country than in the U.S.?</p><p>5. When do people start dating? Is it different for males and females?</p><p>Why?</p><p>6. Are there any courtship traditions in your country?</p><p>7. What are some advantages of your country’s courtship tradition?</p><p>8. What are some advantages of the dating style in the United States?</p><p>9. Who should pay for the date? Should the date be “a Dutch treat”?</p><p>10. What should you wear on a date? How do you prepare for a date?</p><p>11. Are you currently seeing anyone?</p><p>12. Do you date? How often do you date?</p><p>13. What places do you recommend for a romantic date in our city?</p><p>14. What do you like to do on a date? Dinner? Movie? Dancing?</p><p>15. Are there any “rules” to dating? What are they?</p><p>16. What questions are you likely to ask on a first date?</p><p>17. What is the best date you have ever been on?</p><p>18. What is the worst date you have ever been on? Did you have “mad</p><p>money?”</p><p>19. What are some good date movies? Why?</p><p>20. Have you ever been on a blind date? Who set you up?</p><p>Did you enjoy yourself ?</p><p>21. Do you think blind dates are a good idea?</p><p>22. Where have your friends met their lovers?</p><p>“When a woman is talking to you,</p><p>listen to what she says with her eyes.”</p><p>victor Hugo (1802–1885),</p><p>french novelist</p><p>9 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle the words that you know. Write definitions for at least five words.</p><p>courtship ...................................................................................................</p><p>fate ............................................................................................................</p><p>chaperone .................................................................................................</p><p>double date ...............................................................................................</p><p>blind ..........................................................................................................</p><p>blind date ..................................................................................................</p><p>Dutch treat ................................................................................................</p><p>rain check ..................................................................................................</p><p>walk out.....................................................................................................</p><p>personal ad ...............................................................................................</p><p>stood up ....................................................................................................</p><p>matchmaker ..............................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Circle the ones you think are true.</p><p>A kiss tells more than a whole book.—Ukrainian</p><p>If you want to be loved, be lovable.—Roman</p><p>Beauty is but one layer.—Japanese</p><p>Those that can’t love, flatter.</p><p>If you have money, you are wise</p><p>and good-looking and can sing well too.—Yiddish</p><p>You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince.</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. What qualities do you look for in a person on a date?</p><p>2. How can you tell if a couple is compatible?</p><p>3. How would you ask for a rain check?</p><p>4. Why do people enjoy looking at personal ads in a newspaper?</p><p>5. Have you ever been on computer dating sites? What did you notice?</p><p>Have you met anyone?</p><p>6. If you could go on a date with anyone in the world, who would it be?</p><p>7. Have you ever gone on a double date? Was it fun?</p><p>8. Have you ever walked out on a date? Why?</p><p>Have you ever stood anyone up?</p><p>9. What is your idea of a great date?</p><p>10. Have you ever played matchmaker for a friend?</p><p>Were you successful?</p><p>11. Would you rather be the flame or the moth? Why?</p><p>12. Do you believe a date can change your fate?</p><p>13. Do you have any dating tips you would like to share?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be yourself</p><p>Have fun</p><p>make good mistakes</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o</p><p>the quotation means. Then, talk about</p><p>how the meaning of the quotation will help you work well with the other</p><p>students in this class. Remember to practice using encouraging gestures</p><p>and words with each other.</p><p>1. “Courtesy costs nothing.”</p><p>—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882), American writer, philosopher</p><p>2. “Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and health to</p><p>the bones.”</p><p>—Bible</p><p>3. “You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.”</p><p>—Proverb</p><p>4. “I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand.”</p><p>—Chinese proverb</p><p>5. “We learn by doing.”</p><p>—English proverb</p><p>6. “The secret of education is respecting the pupil.”</p><p>—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882), American poet, philosopher</p><p>7. “It is not best that we should all think alike; it is a difference of</p><p>opinion which makes horse races.”</p><p>—Mark Twain (1835–1910), American writer, humorist</p><p>8. “I am tomorrow, or some future day, what I establish today. I am</p><p>today what I established yesterday or some previous day.”</p><p>—James Joyce (1882–1941) Irish novelist</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Ask your partner or teacher for the</p><p>meanings of the other words.</p><p>quotation ...................................................................................................</p><p>proverb .....................................................................................................</p><p>conversation .............................................................................................</p><p>pleasant .....................................................................................................</p><p>gesture .......................................................................................................</p><p>nod ............................................................................................................</p><p>communicate ............................................................................................</p><p>courage .....................................................................................................</p><p>discourage .................................................................................................</p><p>encourage ................................................................................................</p><p>argue .........................................................................................................</p><p>disagree .....................................................................................................</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>“an acquaintance that begins with a</p><p>compliment is sure to develop into a</p><p>real friendship.”</p><p>oscar Wilde (1856–1900),</p><p>british playwright</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 3</p><p>A c t i v i t y f o u r</p><p>With the other members in your group, make a list of five or more</p><p>important rules to follow which will help you have pleasant conversations</p><p>in this class.</p><p>1. ...............................................................................................................</p><p>2. ..............................................................................................................</p><p>3. ..............................................................................................................</p><p>4. ..............................................................................................................</p><p>5. ..............................................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s</p><p>Take turns reading the following quotations out loud. Pick a favorite.</p><p>1. “Conversation means being able to disagree and still continue the</p><p>conversation.”</p><p>—Dwight MacDonald (1906–1982), American editor</p><p>2. “Speech is civilization itself...It is silence which isolates.”</p><p>—Thomas Mann (1875–1955), German writer</p><p>3. “If it is language that makes us human, one half of language is to</p><p>listen.”</p><p>—Jacob Trapp (1899–1992) American religious leader</p><p>4. “Argument is the worst form of conversation.”</p><p>—Jonathon Swift (1667–1745), English writer, satirist</p><p>5. “People have one thing in common: they are all different.”</p><p>—Robert Zend (1929–1985), American writer</p><p>6. “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”</p><p>—Theodore Roosevelt (1858–1919), 26th U.S. President</p><p>7. “Talk low, talk slow, and don’t say too much.”</p><p>—John Wayne (1907–1979), American actor</p><p>8. “Keep it light, bright and polite.”</p><p>—English proverb</p><p>9. “Man’s main task in life is to give birth to himself.”</p><p>—Erich Fromm (1900–1980), psychologist</p><p>10. “There is only one beautiful child in the world, and each mother</p><p>has that one.”</p><p>—Latin American proverb</p><p>11. “Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”</p><p>—Anaïs Nin (1903–1977), French-American author</p><p>12. “Man does not speak because he thinks; he thinks because he</p><p>speaks. Or rather, speaking is no different than thinking: to speak is</p><p>to think.”</p><p>—Octavio Paz, (1914–1998), Mexican writer, Nobel Prize winner</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>People communicate with</p><p>words 24 hours a day, seven</p><p>days a week. During the next</p><p>24 hours, please carefully</p><p>observe people talking to each</p><p>other .</p><p>Note their communication</p><p>style, gestures, and word</p><p>choices. You can watch people</p><p>in stores, on buses, at school</p><p>and even on TV. Go head, be</p><p>a spy!</p><p>Prepare to share three</p><p>observations with the class.</p><p>1. ...............................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>2. ...............................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>3. ...............................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>“accept me as i am—only then</p><p>will we discover each other.”</p><p>federico fellini (1920–1993),</p><p>italian director/screenwriter</p><p>t e l l i n g y o u r s t o r y</p><p>Please interview the person sitting next to you. Feel free to add or skip</p><p>any questions that you want. Take turns talking, jot down some notes,</p><p>and prepare to introduce your partner to our class. Let’s begin!</p><p>1. What’s your full name? How do you spell that?</p><p>2. Who chose your name? Why?</p><p>3. Where were you born? Were you the first child? Second? Fifth?</p><p>4. Do you have any older brothers? Sisters? Younger siblings?</p><p>5. Where did you grow up? Is that a city, village, or suburb?</p><p>6. How would you describe yourself as a child? Why?</p><p>7. When did you decide to move to the U.S.? Why?</p><p>8. How long have you been in the United States?</p><p>9. Did you move here by yourself ? How was the trip?</p><p>10. What possessions did you bring with you?</p><p>Why did you choose these objects?</p><p>11. Can you share some of your first impressions of U.S.?</p><p>12. Do you have a favorite color? Number? Season? Why?</p><p>13. What kind of music do you listen to?</p><p>Do you have a favorite singer? Group?</p><p>14. What’s your favorite radio station or television channel? Why?</p><p>15. Can you recommend any movies to rent or see?</p><p>Why do you like those films?</p><p>2</p><p>going BeYonD Hel lo</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 5</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Ask your partner or teacher for the</p><p>meanings of the other words.</p><p>interview ...................................................................................................</p><p>n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 9 5</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Do any of these make you smile? Which ones? Circle your favorite.</p><p>1. “A man’s kiss is his signature.”</p><p>—Mae West (1893–1980), American actress/movie star</p><p>2. “The perjured oaths of lovers carry no penalty.”</p><p>—Syrus (85–43 B.C.E.), Roman philosopher</p><p>3. “Anyone who says he can see through women is missing a lot.”</p><p>—Groucho Marx (1895–1977), movie star</p><p>4. “A woman has got to love a bad man once or twice in her life, to be</p><p>thankful for a good one.”</p><p>—Marjorie Kinnan Rawlings (1896–1953), novelist</p><p>5. “I was born when you kissed me. I died when you left me. I lived a</p><p>few weeks while you loved me.”</p><p>—Humphrey Bogart to Ingrid Bergman in Casablanca</p><p>6. “Sex without love is merely healthy exercise.”</p><p>—Robert A. Heinlein (1907–1988), science fiction writer</p><p>7. “I’ve only slept with the men I’ve been married to. How many</p><p>women can make that claim?”</p><p>—Elizabeth Taylor (1932–), movie star married eight times</p><p>8. “My success has allowed me to strike out with a higher class of</p><p>women.”</p><p>—Woody Allen (1935–), American comedian, actor, and director</p><p>9. “You’re not too smart, are you? I like that in a man.”</p><p>—Kathleen Turner, actress, to William Hurt, actor, in Body Heat</p><p>10. “Listen, I appreciate this whole seduction thing you’ve got going,</p><p>but let me give you a tip. I’m a sure thing.”</p><p>—Julia Roberts to Richard Gere in Pretty Woman (1990)</p><p>11. “To fall in love is to create a religion that has a fallible god.”</p><p>—Jorge Luis Borges (1899–1986), Nobel Prize winner, writer</p><p>12. “Take away love, and our earth is a tomb.”</p><p>—Robert Browning (1812–1889), English romantic poet</p><p>13. “Love is so short and forgetting is so long.”</p><p>—Pablo Neruda (1904–1973), Chilean poet</p><p>14. “Love is not just looking at each other; it’s looking in the same</p><p>direction.”</p><p>—Antoine de Saint-Exupery (1900–1944), French writer</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Write a personal ad for</p><p>yourself or a friend.</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>9 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>30</p><p>enJoYing moneY</p><p>s h A r i n g e x P e r i e n c e s</p><p>We all deal with money. What experiences have you had? Share your</p><p>knowledge about money with your class partner.</p><p>1. What is the name of money in your native country?</p><p>What does it look like?</p><p>2. How much is a dollar in your native country’s currency?</p><p>3. How much does seeing a movie cost? A gallon of gas? Lunch?</p><p>4. Can you compare shopping in the United States with your native</p><p>country?</p><p>5. What are some bargains in your native country? Why?</p><p>6. Are you a thrifty shopper? Can you give an example?</p><p>7. Do you know someone who collects loose change? What do you do</p><p>with the coins?</p><p>8. Do you know anybody who collects coins as a hobby?</p><p>9. Do you have any shopping tips for bargain hunting?</p><p>10. Are you an impulsive shopper or do you shop with a list?</p><p>11. When do you like to splurge? On what?</p><p>12. Do you prefer to go shopping by yourself or with someone else?</p><p>Why?</p><p>13. Do you have a favorite mall, shopping center, or market?</p><p>14. Have you ever wasted money? How?</p><p>15. How often do you go out to restaurants?</p><p>What do you look for in restaurants?</p><p>16. Are you a tipper? What percentage do you usually leave for good</p><p>service?</p><p>17. Can you think of some extravagant ways to spend money?</p><p>18. Have you ever felt “buyer’s remorse”? When? What did you do?</p><p>“money is better than poverty,</p><p>if only for financial reasons.”</p><p>Woody Allen (1935–),</p><p>American comedian and film director</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 9 7</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle five words you know. Use each in a sentence for your partner.</p><p>currency ....................................................................................................</p><p>coin ...........................................................................................................</p><p>thrifty ........................................................................................................</p><p>frugal .........................................................................................................</p><p>impulsive ...................................................................................................</p><p>extravagant ...............................................................................................</p><p>remorse .....................................................................................................</p><p>buyer’s remorse .........................................................................................</p><p>tip ..............................................................................................................</p><p>tipper .........................................................................................................</p><p>budget .......................................................................................................</p><p>credit .........................................................................................................</p><p>pile up .......................................................................................................</p><p>debt ...........................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Do you agree with all these proverbs? Circle your favorite.</p><p>Time is money.—Greek</p><p>No one spits on money.—Korean</p><p>Without money; without hands.—Ukrainian</p><p>Money can bribe the gods.—Chinese</p><p>When money talks, truth keeps silent.—Russian</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. How do you like to spend money? What are you glad to buy?</p><p>2. Do you have a favorite store? Why?</p><p>3. Have you ever bought several identical items? Why?</p><p>4. Do you have a budget for yourself ? Does your family have a budget?</p><p>5. How do you keep track of what you spend?</p><p>Do you keep a money diary?</p><p>6. Do you have a favorite paper currency or bill? Why do you like it?</p><p>7. Do you have a favorite coin? Why do you like it?</p><p>8. Do you usually pay bills by check, by credit card, or by computer?</p><p>9. Do you usually pay by cash, check, or credit card at stores?</p><p>10. If you got a sudden gift of $10,000, what would you buy? Why?</p><p>11. When did open your first bank account?</p><p>When did you get your first credit card?</p><p>12. Do young people tend to live within their means or above their</p><p>means? Why?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>9 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>13. Have your spending habits changed since moving to the United</p><p>States? How?</p><p>14. What are some common reasons that people go into debt?</p><p>15. Can you think of five good uses of credit?</p><p>16. What are five bad reasons to pile up debt? Why?</p><p>17. Do you and your relatives have similar spending habits?</p><p>18. What would you buy if you won the lottery for $50 million? Why?</p><p>19. What is your personal spending philosophy?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read aloud all the quotations. Explain your favorite to your partner.</p><p>1. “When it’s a question of money, everybody is of the</p><p>same</p><p>religion.”—Voltaire (1694–1778)</p><p>2.. “He that is of the opinion that money will do everything may well</p><p>be suspected of doing everything for money.”—Benjamin Franklin</p><p>(1706–1790), American statesmen and face on the U.S. $100 bill</p><p>3. “Money often costs too much.”</p><p>—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882), American philosopher</p><p>4. “The golden age only comes to men when they have forgotten</p><p>gold.”—G.K. Chesterton (1874–1936), English writer</p><p>5. “When I was young I thought that money was the most important</p><p>thing in life; now that I’m old I know that it is.”</p><p>—Oscar Wilde (1854–1900), Anglo-Irish playwright</p><p>6. “Money: A blessing that is of no advantage to us excepting when we</p><p>part with it.”</p><p>—Ambrose Bierce (1842–1914), American writer</p><p>7. “The lack of money is the root of all evil.”</p><p>—George Bernard Shaw (1856–1950), Irish writer</p><p>8. “Why is there so much month left at the end of the money?”</p><p>—John Barrymore (1882–1942), acting legend</p><p>9. “Money cannot buy health, but I’d settle for a diamond-studded</p><p>wheel chair.”—Dorothy Parker (1893–1967), American writer</p><p>10. “I don’t like money, actually, but it quiets my nerves.”</p><p>—Joe Louis (1914–1981), world heavyweight champion</p><p>11. “I’m living so far beyond my income that we may almost be said to</p><p>be living apart.”—William Cowper (1721–1800), English poet</p><p>12. “It’s a kind of spiritual snobbery that makes people believe they</p><p>can be happy without money.”</p><p>—Albert Camus (1913–1960), French novelist and Nobel winner</p><p>13. “I’d like to live like a poor man with lots of money.”</p><p>—Pablo Picasso (1881–1993), Spanish painter</p><p>14. “I have enough money to last me the rest of my life, unless I buy</p><p>something.”</p><p>—Jackie Mason (1931–) American stand-up comedian</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Write four sentences which</p><p>reflect your attitudes about</p><p>money.</p><p>1. ...............................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>2. ..............................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>3. ...............................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>4. ...............................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 9 9</p><p>31</p><p>eAting out</p><p>s h A r i n g e x P e r i e n c e s</p><p>Do you know some good restaurants? Share with others in your class</p><p>what you have learned about eating out.</p><p>1. Do you look forward to eating out? Why?</p><p>2. Where are some places to eat out in your neighborhood?</p><p>3. What kinds of ethnic food do you enjoy? Do you have a favorite dish?</p><p>4. Do you prefer eating out with a single person or with a group?</p><p>5. Do you remember eating out as a child? Where did you go?</p><p>6. Do you think eating out is only for special occasions?</p><p>7. Do you drink alcohol when you eat out? Do you have a favorite</p><p>drink?</p><p>8. What kind of appetizers do you like? Do you have a favorite</p><p>appetizer?</p><p>9. Do you regularly eat out with friends? How often do eat out?</p><p>10. Do you eat fast food? What do you usually order?</p><p>11. Why do you think fast food restaurants are so popular?</p><p>12. Do you have a favorite fast food restaurant? Why?</p><p>13. What are some downsides to eating at fast food restaurants?</p><p>14. What is your favorite cuisine? What dishes do you adore?</p><p>15. What do you look for on a menu? What are some signs of a good</p><p>restaurant?</p><p>16. What price range do you usually look for in a restaurant?</p><p>17. Do you have a favorite fine dining restaurant?</p><p>What makes the restaurant special?</p><p>18. What are restaurants like in your country?</p><p>Can you describe the atmosphere?</p><p>19. In your opinion, what qualities make a good waiter? A good valet?</p><p>“nobody eats there anymore.</p><p>it’s too crowded.”</p><p>Yogi berra (1925–),</p><p>legendary baseball manager and catcher</p><p>1 0 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Are any of these words new to you? Circle them. Does your partner</p><p>know their meaning? Can you figure out their meaning?</p><p>menu .........................................................................................................</p><p>fast food chains .........................................................................................</p><p>reservation ................................................................................................</p><p>busboy .......................................................................................................</p><p>waiters .......................................................................................................</p><p>tip ..............................................................................................................</p><p>chef ...........................................................................................................</p><p>host ............................................................................................................</p><p>valet ...........................................................................................................</p><p>split plate ...................................................................................................</p><p>manners ....................................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Have you ever ordered off the menu? Why?</p><p>2. What can go wrong in a restaurant? Have you ever been</p><p>disappointed? Have you ever sent food back? Have you ever gotten</p><p>sick from restaurant food?</p><p>3. Do you usually tip waiters? How much?</p><p>4. Have you ever worked as a host, chef, waiter, or manager in a</p><p>restaurant?</p><p>5. What was the best part of working in the restaurant? The worst?</p><p>6. Do you have a favorite restaurant which serves food from your</p><p>native country?</p><p>7. What language do you use when you order food at that restaurant?</p><p>Why?</p><p>8. How are manners different when dining out in your native country?</p><p>9. Did you go out to eat more in your native country than here or vice</p><p>versa?</p><p>10. What are some advantages of home cooking? Do you find cooking</p><p>a chore or a pleasure?</p><p>11. What are some advantages of eating out?</p><p>12. How do you judge, evaluate, or rate restaurants?</p><p>13. Can you suggest some local restaurants for a romantic dinner?</p><p>14. Can you recall any memorable restaurant scenes in famous</p><p>movies?</p><p>15. What are some of your favorite restaurant memories?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 0 1</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read all the quotations. Circle those with which you agree.</p><p>1. “There’s no sauce in the world like hunger.”</p><p>—Miquel De Cervantes (1547–1616) Spanish writer</p><p>2. “Get to know the Chef and you will start to enjoy dining out even</p><p>more.”</p><p>—John Walters, (1938–2001), British radio producer and musician</p><p>3. “I judge a restaurant by the bread and the coffee.”</p><p>—Burt Lancaster (1915–1994), American actor</p><p>4. “I do adore food. If I have any vice it’s eating. If I was told I could</p><p>only eat one food for the rest of my life, I could put up with sausage</p><p>and mash forever.”</p><p>—Colin Baker (1943–), British actor</p><p>5. “He may live without books–what is knowledge but grieving?</p><p>He may live without hope–what is hope but deceiving?</p><p>He may live without love–what is passion but pining?</p><p>But where is the man who can live</p><p>without dining?”</p><p>—Edward Bulwer-Lytton (1831–1891), poet</p><p>6. “I have never developed indigestion from eating my words.”</p><p>—Winston Churchill (1874–1965), British Prime Minister</p><p>7. “I have dined with kings, I’ve been offered wings. And I’ve never</p><p>been too impressed.”</p><p>—Bob Dylan (1941–), American folksinger</p><p>8. “Gastronomical perfection can be reached in these combinations:</p><p>one person dining alone, usually upon a couch or a hill side; two</p><p>people, of no matter what sex or age, dining in a good restaurant;</p><p>six people…dining in a good home.”</p><p>—M.F.K. Fisher (1908–1992), culinary writer</p><p>9. “I’ve known what it is to be hungry, but I always went right to a</p><p>restaurant.”</p><p>—Ring Lardner (1885–1933) American writer</p><p>10. “The best fame is a writer’s fame. It’s enough to get a table at a good</p><p>restaurant, but not enough to get you interrupted when you eat.”</p><p>—Fran Lebowitz (1950–), writer</p><p>11. “The other night I ate at a real nice family restaurant. Every table</p><p>had an argument going.”</p><p>—George Carlin (1937–) American comedian</p><p>12. “I learned more from the one restaurant that didn’t work than</p><p>from all the others that were successes.”</p><p>—Wolfgang Puck (1949–), chef</p><p>13. “Dining is and always was a great artistic opportunity.”</p><p>—Frank Lloyd Wright (1867–1959), American architect</p><p>14. “One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined</p><p>well.”</p><p>—Virginia Woolf, (1882–1941), English novelist</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>With your partner, role play</p><p>a good waiter and a difficult</p><p>customer.</p><p>Then, role play a pleasant</p><p>customer and a difficult waiter.</p><p>1 0 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>32</p><p>gAmBling AnD sPenDing moneY</p><p>tA k i n g c h A n c e s</p><p>Gambling, or gaming as the popular American industry prefers to call</p><p>games of chance for money, evokes strong emotions. Take some chances</p><p>in your interview.</p><p>1. Where, if anywhere, do you gamble? For chips? For money?</p><p>2. Is gambling legal in your native country?</p><p>3. What is the most popular gambling game in your country?</p><p>4. Are there any gambling restrictions? What are they? Why?</p><p>5. Are there lotteries? Who runs the lotteries?</p><p>6. What are some of the pleasures of gambling? Perils?</p><p>7. Have you been to Las Vegas? Atlantic City?</p><p>8. What were some of your impressions of Las Vegas?</p><p>9. Did you gamble in Las Vegas? Which casinos did you like? Why?</p><p>10. What is your favorite gambling game? Do you like to play poker?</p><p>Blackjack? Slots?</p><p>11. How would you describe your feeling while gambling?</p><p>12. Did your money winnings ever pile up?</p><p>13. If you won a big jackpot, say $50,000, what would you buy?</p><p>14. Do you have a favorite gambling partner? Why?</p><p>15. Do you prefer to gamble during the day or night? Why?</p><p>16. Did you win, lose, or break even in Las Vegas? How much?</p><p>17. Do you ever gamble on sports? Which? Do you usually win, lose,</p><p>or break even?</p><p>18. Do you think gambling has increased or decreased in the last 10</p><p>years?</p><p>19. Do you think gambling will increase in the next year? Why?</p><p>“there are two great pleasures in</p><p>gambling: that of winning and that of</p><p>losing.”</p><p>french proverb</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 0 3</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Read each word aloud. Put a check mark next to the words that have a</p><p>positive meaning, and circle the words that have a negative meaning for</p><p>you.</p><p>thrifty ........................................................................................................</p><p>frugal .........................................................................................................</p><p>impulsive ...................................................................................................</p><p>splurge .......................................................................................................</p><p>bet .............................................................................................................</p><p>jackpot.......................................................................................................</p><p>casino ........................................................................................................</p><p>risk .............................................................................................................</p><p>compulsive ................................................................................................</p><p>addict ........................................................................................................</p><p>remorse .....................................................................................................</p><p>debt ...........................................................................................................</p><p>s Ay i n g s</p><p>Can you think of some other proverbs that apply to gambling?</p><p>Gambling is the son of avarice and the father of despair.—French</p><p>Don’t throw good money after bad.—English</p><p>Where there is money, there is danger.—Japanese</p><p>There is no better gambling than not to gamble.—German</p><p>Put your money where your mouth is.—American</p><p>The best throw with the dice</p><p>is to throw them away.—t-shirt sold in Las Vegas</p><p>The unexpected always happens.—Latin</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. What are some common reasons that people go into debt?</p><p>2. Can you think of three good uses of credit?</p><p>3. What are five bad reasons to pile up debt?</p><p>4. Do you think gambling should be legal? Why?</p><p>5. What do you think is the secret of gambling’s appeal across the</p><p>centuries?</p><p>6. Do you think gambling can be an addiction? How?</p><p>7. Have you ever known anyone with a gambling problem? What</p><p>happened?</p><p>8. What are some signs that someone might have a gambling problem?</p><p>9. What are some signs of a successful gambler?</p><p>10. What are some safe bets in cards? What are some long shots in</p><p>cards?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be active</p><p>Be careful</p><p>Have fun</p><p>1 0 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>11. What are some risks that you’ve taken in your life?</p><p>12. Do you consider moving to America a smart bet?</p><p>13. Do you think life is a gamble? How?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Pick two quotations, memorize them, and use them outside of class.</p><p>1. “Every gain must have a loss.”</p><p>—Francis Bacon (1561–1626), English philosopher</p><p>2. “The gambling known as business looks with austere disfavor upon</p><p>the business known as gambling.”</p><p>—Ambrose Bierce (1842–1914), American writer</p><p>3. “Gambling: the sure way of getting nothing for something.”</p><p>—Wilson Mizner (1876–1933), American dramatist</p><p>4. “No wife can endure a gambling husband–unless he is a steady</p><p>winner.”</p><p>—Lord Thomas Robert Dewar (1864–1930), British whiskey</p><p>distiller</p><p>5. “Women’s total instinct for gambling is satisfied by marriage.”</p><p>—Gloria Steinem (1935–), American feminist and writer</p><p>6. “There is no gambling like politics.”—Benjamin Disraeli</p><p>(1804–1881), British prime minister and novelist</p><p>7. “Luck is not chance, it’s toil. Fortune’s expensive smile is earned.”</p><p>—Emily Dickinson (1830–1886), American poet</p><p>8. “One must have the courage to dare.”—Fedor Dostoevsky</p><p>(1821–1881), Russian novelist and compulsive gambler</p><p>9. “The urge to gamble is so universal and its practice so pleasurable</p><p>that I assume it must be evil.”</p><p>—Heywood Braun (1888–1939), sports journalist</p><p>10. “I love blackjack, but I’m not addicted to gambling. I’m addicted</p><p>to sitting in a semi circle.”</p><p>—Mitch Hedberg (1968–2005), American comedian</p><p>11. “He was subject to a kind of disease, which at that time, they called</p><p>lack of money.”</p><p>—Francois Rabelais (1493–1553), French writer and physician</p><p>12. “Gambling promises the poor what property performs for the</p><p>rich–something for nothing.”</p><p>—George Bernard Shaw (1856–1950), Irish playwright</p><p>13. “Life is a gamble with terrible odds. If it were a bet, you would not</p><p>take it.”</p><p>—Tom Stoppard (1937–), British playwright</p><p>14. “God does not play dice with the universe.”</p><p>—Albert Einstein (1879–1955), physicist</p><p>15. “I’ve got a 15-year-old</p><p>son and a 10-year-old daughter, and if they</p><p>were going to do one of the following things: be an alcoholic; be a</p><p>drug offender; beat their wife or husband; or gamble, I hope they</p><p>would gamble.”</p><p>—Pete Rose (1941–), baseball player</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Imagine that you just won</p><p>$5,000 at a casino. Write a</p><p>short postcard or note to a</p><p>friend or relative describing</p><p>what you will do in the next 24</p><p>hours.</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 0 5</p><p>r e f l e c t i n g</p><p>Who will you choose to share your life with? Are you considering</p><p>marriage? Are you already married? Use these questions as a springboard</p><p>to reflect on your options, choices, and desires.</p><p>1. Why do (did) you want to get married?</p><p>2. Do (did) you have a checklist of qualities for a potential spouse?</p><p>3. What are the three main qualifications on your checklist? Partner?</p><p>Provider? Lover? Friend?</p><p>4. When did you fall in love? Did one person fall first? Who?</p><p>5. How did you know your lover was the one? How did your thinking</p><p>evolve?</p><p>6. Did you ever have moments of doubt? How did your thinking evolve?</p><p>7. Do you think people should live together before they get married?</p><p>Why? Can you share some examples?</p><p>8. Are sex, love and marriage linked in your mind, or is each separate?</p><p>How are they different?</p><p>9. What are some endearing qualities of your companion?</p><p>10. Do you like your partner’s friends? Do you respect them? Why?</p><p>11. What advice have your parents and close friends given you? Your</p><p>extended family? How important is their opinion in your decision?</p><p>Why?</p><p>12. Do you think you are marrying only an individual or are you also</p><p>marrying your spouse’s family? How would you describe your</p><p>potential in-laws?</p><p>13. What does your partner do that annoys you?</p><p>14. Do you expect to be the pilot, co-pilot, or passenger in the</p><p>marriage? Why?</p><p>15. What, if anything, would definitely cause you to divorce? Why?</p><p>“the heart has its reasons which</p><p>reason does not understand.”</p><p>blaise Pascal (1623–1662),</p><p>french philosopher</p><p>33</p><p>Do You mAtCH?</p><p>1 0 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Review these words and expressions. Circle the words that you know.</p><p>potential ....................................................................................................</p><p>neat freak ..................................................................................................</p><p>spouse ........................................................................................................</p><p>nupital .......................................................................................................</p><p>conflicts .....................................................................................................</p><p>checklist .....................................................................................................</p><p>resolve .......................................................................................................</p><p>pre-nuptial ................................................................................................</p><p>compatible ................................................................................................</p><p>pack rat .....................................................................................................</p><p>justify .........................................................................................................</p><p>evolve ........................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>What do these proverbs mean? Can you share some other proverbs?</p><p>The needle is always accompanied by the thread.—Korean</p><p>Strange is the affinity that binds two in marriage.—Japanese</p><p>Whoever marries only for beauty will live in misery.—Russian</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Thinking about personal preferences, do you like to stay up late or</p><p>get up early? Do you have compatible sleeping habits?</p><p>2. Do you have similar media habits? Do you have similar tastes in TV</p><p>shows and movies?</p><p>3. Where do you prefer to live? Country? City? Farm? Apartment?</p><p>House?</p><p>4. Are you a pack rat? Are you a neat freak? Are your styles</p><p>compatible?</p><p>5. Will you still love your partner when he or she is 64? Will your</p><p>partner love you with wrinkles?</p><p>6. Do you know an older couple that might be a model for a good</p><p>partnership? Who are they?</p><p>7. What activities do you enjoy in your leisure time? Will your spouse</p><p>join you?</p><p>8. Do you and your lover share spending philosophies? Do you shop</p><p>together?</p><p>9. Do you expect to live with older generations? Who? Why? Where?</p><p>When?</p><p>10. What is your approach to settling conflicts? How often do you have</p><p>conflicts?</p><p>11. Do you want children? How many?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 0 7</p><p>12. Do you believe in birth control? Why?</p><p>13. What do you think your baby would look like? Why?</p><p>14. What kind of parent do you expect your spouse to become? Why?</p><p>15. Would you want your sons to be like the man you’re marrying?</p><p>Would you want your daughters to be like the woman you’re</p><p>marrying?</p><p>16. Do you expect to follow family or religious traditions? Which ones?</p><p>Why?</p><p>17. If disagreements arise about children, how do you expect to</p><p>resolve them?</p><p>18. Do you think all money should be shared or should each spouse</p><p>have separate bank accounts? Why? How do you expect to</p><p>manage household expenses?</p><p>19. What were the best gifts that you’ve given or received in the</p><p>relationship?</p><p>20. What passions do you share? What unites you as a couple?</p><p>21. Do you have a favorite photograph of you as a couple? Can you</p><p>describe it?</p><p>22. Where do you want to travel together? What do you want to see</p><p>together?</p><p>23. What are you looking forward to doing together as a married</p><p>couple?</p><p>24. How do you expect your life to change once you are married?</p><p>What are some advantages of being married?</p><p>25. Do you have any tips or suggestions on how to create and preserve</p><p>a happy marriage?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Which two quotations come closest to your attitudes?</p><p>1. “By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you’ll become happy;</p><p>if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”</p><p>—Socrates (470–339 B.C.E.), Greek philosopher</p><p>2. “Man’s best possession is a sympathetic wife.”</p><p>—Euripides (480–406 B.C.E.), playwright</p><p>3. “I’m so gullible. I’m so damn gullible. And I am so sick of being</p><p>gullible.”</p><p>—Lana Turner (1921–1995), Hollywood star married seven times</p><p>4. “Marriage is a great institution, but I’m not ready for an</p><p>institution.”</p><p>—Mae West (1892–1980), American actress</p><p>5. “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”</p><p>—Ali McGraw in Love Story (1970)</p><p>6. “Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of</p><p>human existence.”</p><p>—Erich Fromm (1900–1980), psychologist</p><p>“love is the ideal thing, marriage a real</p><p>thing; a confusion of the real with the</p><p>ideal never goes unpunished.”</p><p>goethe (1749–1832),</p><p>german poet, novelist, and scientist</p><p>1 0 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>7. “Marriage: A word that should be pronounced ‘mirage.’”</p><p>—Herbert Spencer (1820–1903), English philosopher</p><p>8. “No matter who you get married to, you wake up married to</p><p>somebody else.”</p><p>—Marlon Brando in Guys and Dolls (1955)</p><p>9. “Second marriage: the triumph of hope over experience.”</p><p>—Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709–1784), English writer</p><p>10. “Marriage is a very good thing, but I think it’s a mistake to make a</p><p>habit of it.”</p><p>—W. Somerset Maugham (1874–1965), English novelist</p><p>11. “A happy marriage is a long conversation that always seems too</p><p>short.”</p><p>—Andre Maurois (1885–1967), French author</p><p>12. “A successful marriage is not a gift; it is an achievement.”</p><p>—Ann Landers (1918–2002), American advice columnist</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>With your class partner, list</p><p>three celebrity marriages that</p><p>have ended in divorce. For</p><p>each couple who divorced, list</p><p>two reasons you think their</p><p>marriage did not last.</p><p>Then, list three marriages of</p><p>well-known people that have</p><p>lasted more than 20 years. For</p><p>each couple, list two reasons</p><p>why you think their marriage</p><p>lasted. Share with the class.</p><p>1. ..................................................................................................................</p><p>• . .............................................................................................................</p><p>• . .............................................................................................................</p><p>2. ...................................................................................................................</p><p>• . .............................................................................................................</p><p>• . .............................................................................................................</p><p>3. ...................................................................................................................</p><p>• . .............................................................................................................</p><p>• . .............................................................................................................</p><p>1. ..................................................................................................................</p><p>• . .............................................................................................................</p><p>• . .............................................................................................................</p><p>2. ...................................................................................................................</p><p>• . .............................................................................................................</p><p>• . .............................................................................................................</p><p>3. ...................................................................................................................</p><p>• . .............................................................................................................</p><p>• . .............................................................................................................</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 0 9</p><p>s h A r i n g t i P s</p><p>Sometimes we all feel stressed. Take turns asking and responding to these</p><p>questions. Feel free to skip any awkward questions. Listen sympathetically.</p><p>1. What are common reasons for stress in people’s personal lives?</p><p>2. Have you felt stress recently? Describe a recent stressful experience.</p><p>3. When is your workplace stressful?</p><p>4. Which school situations make you stressful at times?</p><p>5. Do you eat more or less when you’re stressed? Do you have any</p><p>special comfort foods?</p><p>6. Do you have stomach ulcers or high blood pressure?</p><p>7. Do your hands shake when you’re stressed?</p><p>Any other physical symptoms?</p><p>8. When you’re stressed, are you fearful? Are you sad? Are you angry?</p><p>9. How do others know when you’re stressed?</p><p>Do you yell? Become silent?</p><p>10. Do you remember feeling stressed as a child? Why?</p><p>11. Do you feel more stress as an adult than you did as a child?</p><p>12. Do you know any “stress junkies” who thrive on pressure? What</p><p>professions might attract these people? Why?</p><p>13. How can stress help you? Have you ever been inspired by stress?</p><p>14. Can stress be fun? Do you like horror movies? Do you like roller</p><p>coasters? Are you a sports fan?</p><p>15. In what other situations does stress make you feel more alive?</p><p>16. Have you ever been to a spa or had a massage?</p><p>Did it help you relieve stress?</p><p>17. What kind of music relaxes you and relieves stress?</p><p>18. Do you exercise or play sports to lessen your stress?</p><p>How often? Does it help?</p><p>34</p><p>HAnDling stRess</p><p>“there is more to life than</p><p>increasing its speed.”</p><p>Mahatma gandhi (1869–1948),</p><p>indian statesman</p><p>1 1 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Ask your partner or teacher for the</p><p>meanings of the other words.</p><p>stress ..........................................................................................................</p><p>comfort ......................................................................................................</p><p>spa .............................................................................................................</p><p>symptom ...................................................................................................</p><p>unhealthy ..................................................................................................</p><p>fan .............................................................................................................</p><p>relieve ........................................................................................................</p><p>adventuresome ..........................................................................................</p><p>red-flag ......................................................................................................</p><p>risks ...........................................................................................................</p><p>thrive .........................................................................................................</p><p>strive ..........................................................................................................</p><p>overcome ...................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Pick your favorite and tell your partner when you would use it.</p><p>Go with the flow.—American</p><p>Worry often gives a small thing a big shadow.—Swedish</p><p>Look before you leap.—American</p><p>You can’t catch the cubs without entering the tiger’s den.—Korean</p><p>Time spent laughing is time spent with the gods.—Japanese</p><p>Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors.—English</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Do you want relaxation, adventure, or something else from your</p><p>vacation?</p><p>2. Does shopping reduce stress for you or does it create stress for you?</p><p>3. Can you name three unhealthy ways that people use to reduce</p><p>stress?</p><p>4. Can you name three healthy ways that people use to reduce stress?</p><p>5. In which ways has the technology in your life reduced your stress?</p><p>6. In which ways has the technology in your life increased your stress?</p><p>7. Do you think you are more or less stressed than your parents were</p><p>when they were the age you are now? In what ways? Why?</p><p>8. What are potential risks for people who seem to thrive on stress?</p><p>9. How do you know when you’re stressed? Do you have a red flag</p><p>warning?</p><p>10. How have you overcome stressful situations? How do you handle</p><p>daily stress?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be open</p><p>Keep your perspective</p><p>Be supportive</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 1 1</p><p>11. What stress-busting tips can you suggest for others?</p><p>12. Would you enjoy a stress-free life? Is it a possibility?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Please read the quotations below. Which ones make the most sense to</p><p>you?</p><p>1. “There is no such thing as pure pleasure; some anxiety always goes</p><p>with it.”</p><p>—Ovid (43 B.C.–18A.D.), poet</p><p>2. “A problem is a chance for you to do your best.”</p><p>—Duke Ellington (1890–1974), jazz composer and band leader</p><p>3. “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”</p><p>—Franklin Delano Roosevelt (1882–1945), 32nd U.S. President</p><p>4. “Facing it—always facing it—that’s the way you get through. Face it!”</p><p>—Joseph Conrad (1857–1924), Polish-born British novelist</p><p>5. “Don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff.”</p><p>—Dr. Richard Carlson (1956–), bestselling American author and</p><p>psychologist</p><p>6. “The chief danger in life is that you may take too many</p><p>precautions.”</p><p>—Dr. Alfred Adler (1870–1937), Austrian psychologist</p><p>7. “More than any time in history, mankind faces a crossroad: One</p><p>path leads to despair and utter hopelessness; the other to total</p><p>extinction. Let us pray we have the wisdom to choose correctly.”</p><p>—Woody Allen (1935–), American film director, actor, and comic</p><p>8. “Man needs difficulties; they are necessary for health.”</p><p>—Carl Gustav Jung (1875–1961), Swiss psychiatrist</p><p>9. “It was the best of times; it was the worst of times.”</p><p>—Charles Dickens (1812–1870), English novelist</p><p>10. “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”</p><p>—Theodore Roosevelt (1858–1919), 26th U. S. President</p><p>11. “I don’t think of all the misery, but of the beauty that remains.”</p><p>—Anne Frank (1929–1945), writer</p><p>12. “With me, a change of trouble is as good as a vacation.”</p><p>—David Lloyd George (1863–1945), British prime minister during</p><p>WWI</p><p>13. “In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay</p><p>an invincible summer.”</p><p>—Albert Camus (1913–1960), French novelist</p><p>14. “An early morning walk is a blessing for the whole day.”</p><p>—Henry David Thoreau (1817–1862), writer</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Find an article on deal-</p><p>ing with stress. Prepare</p><p>to share the information</p><p>you found with your</p><p>classmates in a small</p><p>group.</p><p>You might also be asked</p><p>to give a very short re-</p><p>port to the class.</p><p>Civic life</p><p>“if i am not for myself,</p><p>who will be for me?</p><p>But if i am only for myself,</p><p>what am i?</p><p>and if not now, when?”</p><p>Hillel</p><p>(1st century cE), rabbi</p><p>LAuriE SELik PHoTo</p><p>1 1 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>A n t i c i P At i n g Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>Work with your partner and role-play applying for a position in your</p><p>field. Switch roles every ten questions. Use complete sentences.</p><p>1. Have you ever applied for a job with our organization before?</p><p>2. Have you ever worked in the United States before? Where?</p><p>3. Are you eligible to work in the U.S.? Can you provide</p><p>documentation?</p><p>4. Have you ever worked off-the-books?</p><p>5. May we investigate your background? Can we run a credit check?</p><p>6. Have you ever been laid off ? Have you ever been fired?</p><p>7. Have you ever been sued? Have you ever been arrested?</p><p>8. Have you ever been caught stealing? Stolen from your employer?</p><p>9. Have you ever been investigated for misconduct?</p><p>Have you ever had a professional license revoked?</p><p>10. Have you ever taken a psychological test before?</p><p>11. Have you ever hidden problems from your managers?</p><p>12. Have you ever lied on a job application?</p><p>Have you lied on your resume?</p><p>13. Have you ever taken a lie detector test? A drug test?</p><p>A handwriting test? A psychological test?</p><p>14. Have you ever quit without giving two weeks notice?</p><p>15. Have you ever studied computers? Have you worked with</p><p>computers before?</p><p>16. Have you ever used Microsoft Office?</p><p>Other software? Which programs?</p><p>17. Have you ever used a cash register? Fax machine? Xerox machine?</p><p>18. What skills have you learned in your professional life?</p><p>35</p><p>PRACtiCing JoB inteRviews</p><p>“Whenever you are asked if you can do</p><p>a job, tell ‘em, ‘Certainly, i can!’–and</p><p>get busy and find out how to do it.”</p><p>Theodore roosevelt (1858–1919),</p><p>cowboy, police chief, colonel,</p><p>and 26th u.S. President</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 1 5</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Ask your partner or teacher for</p><p>the meanings of the other words.</p><p>apply .........................................................................................................</p><p>applicant ...................................................................................................</p><p>background ...............................................................................................</p><p>resign .........................................................................................................</p><p>bonus .........................................................................................................</p><p>misconduct ................................................................................................</p><p>software .....................................................................................................</p><p>revoke ........................................................................................................</p><p>client ..........................................................................................................</p><p>promoted ..................................................................................................</p><p>s Ay i n g s</p><p>Read the common sayings and proverbs below. Can you add two more?</p><p>The secret of getting ahead is getting started.</p><p>Short answers save trouble.</p><p>What you don’t ask, you don’t get.</p><p>Anything worth having is worth working for.</p><p>(Add your own) .........................................................................................</p><p>(Add your own) .........................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. What did you learn from your last job? Best manager? Worst boss?</p><p>2. Have you ever been certified in a professional field? How did you</p><p>prepare?</p><p>3. Have you ever been evaluated by a supervisor? What did you learn?</p><p>4. What suggestions have you made at work to help the company?</p><p>5. Were your suggestions adopted? Were the suggestions successful?</p><p>6. Have you ever been promoted? What was your new title?</p><p>7. Have you ever received a bonus? Have you ever gotten a raise?</p><p>8. Have you ever worked on commission? Have you ever worked as a</p><p>salesperson?</p><p>9. Have you ever traveled out of town for work? What did you do?</p><p>10. Have you ever volunteered for overtime? Have you ever declined</p><p>overtime?</p><p>11. Have you ever worked on the weekends? Week nights?</p><p>12. Have you ever worked 12-hour shifts? What shift is best for you?</p><p>13. Have you ever spoken English with customers or clients?</p><p>14. Have you ever worked as a mechanic/salesperson/researcher/</p><p>nurse before?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be careful</p><p>Be honest</p><p>Be active</p><p>1 1 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>15. Have you ever taken care of young children? In America?</p><p>16. Do you prefer working alone or with others? Why?</p><p>17. What items have you sold? Did you sell merchandise in English?</p><p>18. Have you ever worked with difficult customers? What was your</p><p>approach? Did it work?</p><p>19. Have you ever hired people? What did you look for in applicants?</p><p>20. Have you ever worked as a supervisor? Foreman? Manager?</p><p>21. What tips do you have for young people entering your profession?</p><p>22. Why should you be hired for this position?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read the quotations aloud to your partner. Which quotes do both of you</p><p>agree with? Which quotation is your favorite? Why?</p><p>1. “The difference between a job and a career is the difference</p><p>between 40 and 60 hours a week.”—Robert Frost (1874–1963), poet</p><p>2. “You have to have</p><p>your heart in the business and the business in</p><p>your heart.”—Thomas J. Watson (1874–1956), founder of IBM</p><p>3. “If you don’t know where you are going, you will probably end up</p><p>somewhere else.”</p><p>—Dr. Laurence J. Peter (1919–1990 ), educator</p><p>4. “In a hierarchy every employee tends to rise to his level of</p><p>incompetence.”</p><p>—Dr. Laurence J. Peter (1919–1990), educator</p><p>5. “You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you</p><p>don’t try.”</p><p>—Beverly Sills (1929–2007), opera singer</p><p>6. “Luck is not something that you can mention in the presence of self-</p><p>made men.”</p><p>—E.B. White (1899–1985), American writer</p><p>7. “In business for yourself, not by yourself.”</p><p>—Ray Kroc (1902–1984), McDonald’s founder</p><p>8. My father taught me to work; he did not teach me to love it.”</p><p>—Abraham Lincoln (1809–1865), 16th U.S. President</p><p>9. “I want to work for a company that contributes to and is part of a</p><p>community. I want not just to invest in; I want to believe in.”</p><p>—Anita Roddick (1943–2007), Body Shop founder</p><p>10. “The only place where success comes before work is in the</p><p>dictionary.”</p><p>—Vidal Sassoon (1928–), hair stylist and salon tycoon</p><p>11. “If you have to support yourself, you had bloody well better find</p><p>some way that is going to be interesting. And you don’t do that by</p><p>sitting around.”</p><p>—Katharine Hepburn (1907–2003), movie icon</p><p>12. “Success is 10 percent inspiration and 90 percent perspiration.”</p><p>—Thomas A. Edison (1847–1931), American inventor</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>You have started a new busi-</p><p>ness. How will you choose your</p><p>employees? List the first seven</p><p>steps you will take.</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 1 7</p><p>s h A r i n g s t o r i e s</p><p>Most people have to work to survive. Some people love their work. What</p><p>are your work experiences? How do others manage? Share your thoughts</p><p>with your class partner. Remember to help each other.</p><p>1. Do you work? Are you retired?</p><p>2. Do you have a regular schedule? Which shift do you work?</p><p>3. Would you like more hours? Fewer hours? Why?</p><p>4. Which department do you work in? Do you have a title?</p><p>5. Do you work alone or with other staff members?</p><p>6. Can you describe a typical day at work?</p><p>7. Do you use a computer at work? What computer software programs</p><p>do you use?</p><p>8. How do you use email or the Internet at work? When? Why?</p><p>9. Have computers changed your work habits in any way? How?</p><p>10. Do you have a high profile position? Are you visible at your job?</p><p>11. Is there a career ladder at your workplace?</p><p>12. How do you get along with your co-workers? Are you a team</p><p>player? Do you enjoy the work atmosphere?</p><p>13. Do you socialize with your co-workers outside of work? Where do</p><p>you go?</p><p>14. How does your company/school encourage networking among</p><p>co-workers?</p><p>15. Does your company use interns or college students? How?</p><p>16. What qualities does your organization look for in new employees?</p><p>17. Have you ever had a mentor? Who? How did this person teach</p><p>you the ropes at work?</p><p>18. Are you a mentor to anyone at work? What do you do to help?</p><p>“Whether our work is art or science</p><p>or the daily work of society, it is only</p><p>the form in which we explore our</p><p>experience which is different.”</p><p>Jacob bronowski</p><p>(1908–1974), scientist</p><p>36</p><p>woRk RelAtionsHiPs</p><p>1 1 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Work with your partner to understand the meaning of each of the</p><p>vocabulary words. Then, circle the ones that you’re sure you know.</p><p>shift ............................................................................................................</p><p>title ............................................................................................................</p><p>retire ..........................................................................................................</p><p>co-worker ..................................................................................................</p><p>profession ..................................................................................................</p><p>hire ............................................................................................................</p><p>fire .............................................................................................................</p><p>supervisor ..................................................................................................</p><p>supervise....................................................................................................</p><p>mentor ......................................................................................................</p><p>ambition ....................................................................................................</p><p>manager ....................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Have you heard any of these before? Circle the ones with which you</p><p>agree.</p><p>Many hands make light work.—Latin</p><p>Cash in hand is better than credit to a rich customer.—Korean</p><p>Too many pilots are bound to sink the ship.—Chinese</p><p>All work and no play makes Jake a dull boy.—English</p><p>Time is money.—Greek</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Have you ever complained about a co-worker? A boss? How did</p><p>they upset you?</p><p>2. How has a co-worker impressed you? What have you learned from</p><p>your co-workers?</p><p>3. How is your profession shown in movies? Can you give an example?</p><p>4. What are some common misperceptions about your field? Example?</p><p>5. What qualities should a manager, director, or boss have in your</p><p>field? Why?</p><p>6. What are some things a rude or obnoxious boss might do?</p><p>7. Have you ever had to deal with a rude, difficult, or crazy boss?</p><p>8. Who is the best manager, director, or boss you’ve ever had? Why?</p><p>9. Have you ever supervised someone? Were you a good manager?</p><p>Why?</p><p>10. How would you describe your management style? Can you give an</p><p>example?</p><p>11. Have you ever hired someone? What did you look for? Why?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 1 9</p><p>12. Have you ever evaluated people at work? Have you had to fire</p><p>someone? Why?</p><p>13. What makes someone a professional in your field? How can people</p><p>stand out?</p><p>14. How do some people neglect their work duties because of family</p><p>responsibilities?</p><p>15. Have you ever known someone to neglect their family because of</p><p>their work?</p><p>16. What is a workaholic?</p><p>17. How would you describe your work habits?</p><p>18. How do you keep track of your tasks, meetings, and relationships</p><p>at work?</p><p>19. Do you have any time management tips to share?</p><p>20. Do you think most Americans work to live or live to work? Why?</p><p>21. Have you recently updated your professional skills? How?</p><p>22. What are your professional ambitions? Why?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>With the help of your partner, read aloud each of the following</p><p>quotations. Circle the ones with which both of you agree.</p><p>1. “Work keeps at bay three great evils:</p><p>boredom, vice, and need.”</p><p>—Voltaire (1694–1778), French philosopher</p><p>2. “I’m a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more</p><p>of it I have.”—Thomas Jefferson (1743–1826), U.S. President and</p><p>the man on the nickel</p><p>3. “I don’t like work–no man does–but I like what is in the work–The</p><p>chance to find yourself.”</p><p>—Joseph Conrad (1857–1924), British novelist</p><p>4. “Competition brings out the best in products and the worst in</p><p>people.”—David Sarnoff (1881–1971), leader of RCA</p><p>5. “I don’t meet competition; I crush it.”</p><p>—Charles Revson (1906–1975), founder of Revlon</p><p>6. “Where work is a pleasure, life is a joy! When work is a duty, life is</p><p>slavery.”</p><p>—Maxim Gorky (1868–1936), Russian/Soviet novelist</p><p>7. “There are an enormous number of managers who have retired on</p><p>the job.”</p><p>—Peter Drucker (1909–2005), American business guru</p><p>8. “There is no such thing as a free lunch.”</p><p>—Milton Friedman (1912–2006), economist</p><p>9. “Without work all life goes rotten.”</p><p>—Albert Camus (1913–1960), French writer</p><p>10. “I’m lazy. But it’s lazy people who invented the wheel and the</p><p>bicycle because they didn’t like walking or carrying things.”</p><p>—Lech Walesa (1943–), Polish President and Labor leader</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Choose a quote that relates to</p><p>the job you have now or one</p><p>you once had. In five sentences,</p><p>tell the class how this quote</p><p>relates to your work experience.</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>1 2 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>s h A r i n g s c h o o l s t o r i e s</p><p>We have spent thousands of hours in schools, learned many skills, and</p><p>collected many stories. Share your school stories with a classmate.</p><p>1. When did you first go to school? Was it an urban, a rural, or a</p><p>suburban school?</p><p>2. How did you usually get to school? Did you walk, take a bus, ride a</p><p>bike or use another method?</p><p>3. How long was your commute to elementary school? High school?</p><p>4. How many students were usually in your class?</p><p>What was the atmosphere like?</p><p>5. Do you remember the name of your elementary school? High</p><p>school?</p><p>6. Did you attend a public or private school? Why?</p><p>7. Was there a school dress code? What were some other rules?</p><p>8. How would you describe your elementary school? Did you enjoy it?</p><p>9. Were your parents involved in your studies? How?</p><p>10. Were you given report cards? How often?</p><p>What kind of grades did you get?</p><p>11. Can you describe the classroom conditions in your high school?</p><p>12. How large was your high school? What was the lunchroom like?</p><p>13. What subjects did you take in high school?</p><p>Did you choose your courses?</p><p>14. What was your favorite course? Why?</p><p>15. Were there any classes that you dreaded or hated? Why?</p><p>16. Did you have to take any exams?</p><p>Which exam was the most difficult? Why?</p><p>17. Was cheating common? Why? Did you ever cheat? How?</p><p>37</p><p>leARning in sCHool</p><p>“education is an ornament in</p><p>prosperity and a refuge in adversity.”</p><p>Aristotle (384–322 b.c.E. ),</p><p>greek philosopher</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 2 1</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle the words that you know. Look up the other words.</p><p>adversity ....................................................................................................</p><p>commute ...................................................................................................</p><p>elementary ................................................................................................</p><p>dress code ..................................................................................................</p><p>report cards ...............................................................................................</p><p>tutor ..........................................................................................................</p><p>role model .................................................................................................</p><p>bully ..........................................................................................................</p><p>field trip .....................................................................................................</p><p>mascot .......................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Circle the ones with which you agree.</p><p>Learning colors a man more than the deepest dye.—Chinese</p><p>The dog near a school will learn</p><p>to recite lessons in three years.—Korean</p><p>He who is afraid to ask is ashamed of learning.—Danish</p><p>We learn to walk by stumbling.—Bulgarian</p><p>In time, even a bear can be taught to dance.—Yiddish</p><p>Don’t step on your teacher’s shadow. —Korean</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Have you ever had a tutor? Why?</p><p>2. Do you like to study alone or in groups? Why?</p><p>3. Do you remember taking field trips? Where did you go?</p><p>4. How many years of formal education have you had?</p><p>5. Do you remember any bullying or violent fights at school? Were</p><p>guns used?</p><p>6. Were you given too much homework? Too little, or just enough?</p><p>7. What was your favorite place to study? Can you describe the area?</p><p>8. What are cram schools?</p><p>9. What after-school activities, clubs, or sports did you participate in?</p><p>10. What sports did the school compete in? Did they have a mascot?</p><p>Cheerleaders?</p><p>11. What are you proud of doing in your academic studies?</p><p>Did you win any awards?</p><p>12. What was your best school year? Or what did you enjoy most</p><p>about school?</p><p>13. What’s your earliest school memory? Favorite memory?</p><p>14. Who was your role model or mentor (teacher, coach) at school?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>explore</p><p>take risks</p><p>Do your best</p><p>1 2 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>15. Have you kept in touch with anyone from your high school? Who?</p><p>How?</p><p>16. Would you want your children to attend the schools that you</p><p>attended? Why?</p><p>17. Can you compare and contrast schools in the United States and</p><p>your native country?</p><p>18. Do you have any ideas on how to reform or improve schools?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Pick your three favorite quotes and circle them. Discuss them.</p><p>1. “The world itself rests upon the breath of the children in our</p><p>schools.”</p><p>—Talmud</p><p>2. “Only the educated are free.”</p><p>—Epictetus (55–135), Stoic philosopher</p><p>3. “The wise are instructed by reason, average minds by experience,</p><p>the stupid by necessity and the brute by instinct.”</p><p>—Marcus Cicero (106–43 B.C.E.) statesman</p><p>4. “Education: The path from cocky ignorance to miserable</p><p>uncertainty.”</p><p>—Mark Twain ( 1835–1910), American writer/humorist</p><p>5. “Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.”</p><p>—Marie Curie (1867–1934), Physicist</p><p>6. “Education is helping the child realize his potentialities.”</p><p>—Erich Fromm (1900–1980), Psychoanalyst</p><p>7. “They know enough who know how to learn.”</p><p>—Henry Adams (1838–1918), historian</p><p>8. “Education is a progressive discovery of our own ignorance.”</p><p>—Will Durant (1885–1981), historian</p><p>9. “The highest result of education is tolerance.”</p><p>—Helen Keller (1880–1968), author</p><p>10. “My education was dismal. I went to a school for mentally</p><p>disturbed teachers.”</p><p>—Woody Allen (1935–), American comedian</p><p>11. “America believes in education: the average professor earns more</p><p>money in a year than a professional athlete earns in a whole week.”</p><p>—Evan Esar (1899–1995), humorist</p><p>12. “Education is a kind of continuing dialogue and a dialogue</p><p>assumes, in the nature of the case, different points of view.”</p><p>—Robert Hutchins (1899–1977), educator</p><p>13.</p><p>“Human history becomes more and more a race between</p><p>education and catastrophe.”</p><p>—H.G. Wells (1866–1946), English novelist</p><p>“teach the tongue to say, ‘i don’t</p><p>know.’”</p><p>Maimonides (1135–1204),</p><p>philosopher</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 2 3</p><p>14. “You know there is a problem with the education system when you</p><p>realize that out of the 3 R’s, only one begins with an R.”</p><p>—Dennis Miller (1953–), American comedian</p><p>15. “A child miseducated is a child lost.”</p><p>—John F. Kennedy (1917–1963), 35th U.S. President</p><p>16. “Perhaps the most valuable result of all education is the ability to</p><p>make yourself do the thing you have to do, when it ought to be</p><p>done, whether you like it or not.”</p><p>—Thomas H. Huxley (1825–1895) scientist</p><p>17. “Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing</p><p>your temper or your self-confidence.”</p><p>—Robert Frost (1874–1963), poet</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>At left, write a paragraph</p><p>about your favorite teacher in</p><p>your homeland.</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>.......................................................................................................................</p><p>1 2 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>s h A r i n g e x P e r i e n c e s</p><p>English has emerged as the global tongue in the early 21st century. Yet,</p><p>English remains a crazy, confusing, and misspelled language. Interview a</p><p>classmate and share your joys and frustrations in learning this important</p><p>language.</p><p>1. Where did you first hear English spoken?</p><p>2. Which English words have been adopted into your native language?</p><p>3. Where is English most commonly used in your native country?</p><p>Why?</p><p>4. Do advertisements sometimes use English words? Why?</p><p>5. When did you first study English? Were you excited, bored, or</p><p>indifferent?</p><p>6. How long have you studied English? What inspired you to study it?</p><p>Where have you studied English?</p><p>7. Have you had any negative experiences learning English?</p><p>8. Are there English classes for adults in your country?</p><p>Are they expensive?</p><p>9. What was the best English class you ever had? Why?</p><p>10. What method of learning seems to work best for you? Why?</p><p>11. Have you found an excellent tool for learning English? What?</p><p>12. Do you have a good bilingual dictionary? Can you bring it to class?</p><p>13. What’s your favorite English word or expression?</p><p>14. Do you listen, speak, read, and write English every day?</p><p>15. Where do you usually speak English? Why?</p><p>16. What materials do you read in English? Why?</p><p>17. Do you speak English with American neighbors? Co-workers?</p><p>Friends? Classmates?</p><p>38</p><p>stuDYing englisH</p><p>“english saved my life.”</p><p>Joseph conrad (1857–1924),</p><p>English novelist born in Poland</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 2 5</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know, and find out the meaning of the</p><p>other words. Use several vocabulary words to write three questions.</p><p>adopt .........................................................................................................</p><p>inspire........................................................................................................</p><p>bilingual ....................................................................................................</p><p>audiobook .................................................................................................</p><p>monolingual ..............................................................................................</p><p>eavesdrop ..................................................................................................</p><p>subtitle .......................................................................................................</p><p>examiner ...................................................................................................</p><p>closed-caption ...........................................................................................</p><p>exclusive ....................................................................................................</p><p>inclusive ....................................................................................................</p><p>offer ...........................................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Have you ever called a 1-800-number just to practice your English?</p><p>What happened?</p><p>2. Have you ever listened to an audio book? Which one? Was it</p><p>enjoyable? Did you learn many new words?</p><p>3. Do you ever eavesdrop, or just listen intently, to conversations</p><p>around you?</p><p>4. Do you listen to the radio? Do you have some favorite shows? Why?</p><p>5. Do you watch American movies with subtitles? Why?</p><p>6. Do you use the closed-captioning feature on many TV programs?</p><p>Why?</p><p>7. Is it easier to spell in English than in your best language? Why?</p><p>8. What are some positive aspects of the English language?</p><p>9. What are some characteristics that make learning English difficult?</p><p>10. Do you have a driver’s license? Did you take the exam in English?</p><p>Why?</p><p>11. Should all government agencies exclusively use English? Why or</p><p>why not?</p><p>12. Are you a U.S. citizen? What questions did the examiner ask you?</p><p>13. If you were designing the citizenship test, would you change</p><p>anything? What?</p><p>14. What would you not feel comfortable doing in English now?</p><p>15. Where would you like to feel more comfortable speaking English?</p><p>16. In your opinion, why has English become more popular in the last</p><p>20 years?</p><p>17. What tips can you offer friends who want to improve their English?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>1 2 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read aloud all the quotations. Pick your favorites and discuss.</p><p>1. “I speak two languages, Body and English.”</p><p>—Mae West (1892–1980), actress</p><p>2. “‘I am’ is reportedly the shortest sentence in the English language.</p><p>Could it be that ‘I do’ is the longest sentence?”</p><p>—George Carlin (1937–), American comedian</p><p>3. “Every immigrant who comes here should be required within five</p><p>years to learn English or leave the country.”</p><p>—Theodore Roosevelt (1858–1919), 26th U.S. President</p><p>4. “Even if you do learn to speak correct English, whom are you going</p><p>to speak it to?”</p><p>—Clarence Darrow (1857–1938), American lawyer</p><p>5. “England and America are two countries divided by a common</p><p>language.”</p><p>—George Bernard Shaw (1856–1950), Irish playwright, Nobel</p><p>Prize winner</p><p>6. “Next to money, English is the leading international language.”</p><p>—Evan Esar (1899–1995), American humorist</p><p>7. “‘Check enclosed’ are the most beautiful words in English.”</p><p>—Dorothy Parker (1893–1967), American writer</p><p>8. “The most beautiful words in the English language are ‘not guilty.’”</p><p>—Maxim Gorky (1868–1936), Russian novelist</p><p>9. “The most terrifying words in the English language are: ‘I’m from</p><p>the government and I’m here to help you.’”</p><p>—Ronald Reagan (1911–2004), 40th U.S. President</p><p>10. “There is no such thing as ‘The Queen’s English.’ The property</p><p>has gone into the hands of a joint stock company and we own the</p><p>bulk of the stock.”—Mark Twain (1835–1910), writer</p><p>11. “Slang is a language that rolls up its sleeves, spits on the its hands,</p><p>and goes to work.”—Carl Sandburg (1878–1967), American poet,</p><p>Folklorist, and historian</p><p>12. “Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.”</p><p>—Rudyard Kipling (1865–1936), British author and Nobel laureate</p><p>13. “In this country, it doesn’t make any difference where you</p><p>were born. It doesn’t make any difference who your parents</p><p>were. It doesn’t make any difference if, like me, you couldn’t</p><p>even speak English until you were in your twenties.”—Arnold</p><p>Schwarzenegger (1947–), California Governor and American actor</p><p>14. “Apparently Arnold was inspired by President Bush, who proved</p><p>you can be a successful politician in this country even if English is</p><p>your second language.”</p><p>—Conan O’Brien (1963–), American talk show host</p><p>15. “Fatherhood is helping your children learn English as a foreign</p><p>language.”</p><p>—Bill Cosby (1937–), American comedian and actor</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Using only English words,</p><p>write a favorite food or dish</p><p>next to each letter. For exam-</p><p>ple: E, Eggs.</p><p>E...............................................</p><p>N...............................................</p><p>G...............................................</p><p>L ...............................................</p><p>I ...............................................</p><p>S ...............................................</p><p>H...............................................</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 2 7</p><p>r e f l e c t i o n s</p><p>How far have you traveled to come to the United States? Share</p><p>your experiences and learn more about your classmates during this</p><p>conversation.</p><p>1. What’s your native country? How long did you live there?</p><p>2. Are there many immigrants from your native country? Why?</p><p>3. Are there certain areas where immigrants from your country often</p><p>live?</p><p>4. What makes your state attractive to new immigrants?</p><p>5. How long have you been in the United States?</p><p>6. Who are some famous refugees who found safety and success in the</p><p>U.S.?</p><p>7. Can you think of prominent Asian immigrants? Russian?</p><p>European? Hispanic?</p><p>8. Can you identify some successful immigrant artists, filmmakers, or</p><p>musicians?</p><p>9. What are some ways that immigrants have contributed to the</p><p>American economy?</p><p>10. How does an immigrant become a citizen in your native country?</p><p>11. What are some legal differences between citizens, guest workers,</p><p>and illegal immigrants in your country of origin?</p><p>12. In your homeland, how old do you have to be to drink alcohol?</p><p>Buy it? In the U.S.?</p><p>13. What differences have you noticed in driving habits or traffic laws?</p><p>14. When do bars/clubs usually close there? Do you think American</p><p>bars close early?</p><p>15. Do many people like to smoke at work in your native country?</p><p>Can children buy cigarettes there?</p><p>39</p><p>Coming to AmeRiCA</p><p>“give me your tired, your poor,</p><p>your huddled masses yearning to breathe</p><p>free</p><p>the wretched refuse of your teeming shore,</p><p>send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed,</p><p>to me:</p><p>i lift my lamp beside the golden door.”</p><p>Emma Lazarus (1849–1887), poet</p><p>This poem is inscribed at the</p><p>foot of the Statue of Liberty</p><p>1 2 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Ask your partner or teacher for the</p><p>meanings of the other words.</p><p>tradition ....................................................................................................</p><p>taboo .........................................................................................................</p><p>refugee ......................................................................................................</p><p>immigrant .................................................................................................</p><p>passport .....................................................................................................</p><p>consent ......................................................................................................</p><p>allegiance ..................................................................................................</p><p>requirement ..............................................................................................</p><p>prominent citizen ......................................................................................</p><p>forbidden ..................................................................................................</p><p>consequence ..............................................................................................</p><p>citizenship .................................................................................................</p><p>melting pot ................................................................................................</p><p>naturalized ................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Read these common sayings and proverbs. Can you add two more?</p><p>Anything can happen.</p><p>Only in America.</p><p>(Add another) ............................................................................................</p><p>(Add another) ............................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Is gambling popular in your native country? Is it legal? Where?</p><p>2. Is spanking your child legal? Can teachers spank or “tap” children?</p><p>3. Do children have to attend school? Do they have to wear uniforms?</p><p>4. At what age may people marry? What’s the age of consent in your</p><p>native country?</p><p>5. Can you compare the laws about marriage, divorce, and raising</p><p>children?</p><p>6. What about guns? Are there any differences? Who can buy guns?</p><p>7. Can you compare the laws for violent criminals? What about capital</p><p>punishment?</p><p>8. What are some common crimes in your native country? The U.S.?</p><p>9. Can you think of any silly or bad laws there? Here?</p><p>10. Can you think of some smart or good laws there? Here?</p><p>11. What are other differences between laws in your country and here?</p><p>12. Have you read or seen any negative consequences of this law? Can</p><p>you give</p><p>sibling ........................................................................................................</p><p>suburb .......................................................................................................</p><p>possession ..................................................................................................</p><p>impression ................................................................................................</p><p>hobby ........................................................................................................</p><p>smile ..........................................................................................................</p><p>frown .........................................................................................................</p><p>enthusiasm ................................................................................................</p><p>goals ..........................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Read the proverbs below. Can you add another saying?</p><p>Strangers are just friends you haven’t met yet.—American</p><p>Beauty is a good letter of recommendation.—German</p><p>You never get a second chance to make a first impression.—American</p><p>You’re never too old to learn.—Latin</p><p>A single conversation across the table with a</p><p>wise person is worth a month’s study of books.—Chinese</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. What do you like to do outside? Why?</p><p>2. Where do you walk, hike, jog, or bike on the weekends?</p><p>3. What’s your favorite sport? Why?</p><p>4. How do you like to spend your free time? What interests you?</p><p>5. Do you have a hobby? How long have you enjoyed it?</p><p>6. How long have you studied English? Where?</p><p>7. Where do you usually speak English? Who do you usually talk with?</p><p>8. What’s your best language? Where do you usually speak it? Why?</p><p>9. What makes you smile? Where do you feel most comfortable?</p><p>10. What are some things that might cause you to frown?</p><p>11. How do you express enthusiasm in a word or sound in your native</p><p>language?</p><p>12. Do you have a favorite English word or expression? Why?</p><p>13. What are your goals for this year? Why? What’s your plan?</p><p>14. How would your friends describe you? What would you add?</p><p>15. What are three things that you appreciate about living in the</p><p>United States?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be encouraging</p><p>Be kind</p><p>Be open</p><p>6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>s h A r i n g v i e w s</p><p>Which quotation is your favorite? Why?</p><p>1. “I never met a man I didn’t like.”</p><p>—Will Rogers (1879–1935), American humorist</p><p>2. “I am free of all prejudices. I hate every one equally.”</p><p>—W. C. Fields (1880–1946), comedian</p><p>3. “There is no such thing as a worthless conversation, provided you</p><p>know what to listen for. And questions are the breath of life for a</p><p>conversation.”</p><p>—James Nathan Miller, contemporary journalist</p><p>4. “He’s the sort of guy if you say, ‘Hi ya, Clark, how are you?’ he’s</p><p>stuck for an answer.”</p><p>—Ava Gardner, film star, describing her ex-lover, the film star Clark</p><p>Gable.</p><p>5. “Conversation is an art in which a man has all mankind for his</p><p>competitors, for it is that which all are practicing every day while</p><p>they live.”</p><p>—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882), American essayist/</p><p>philosopher</p><p>6. “Don’t tell your friends about your indigestion. ‘How are you’ is a</p><p>greeting, not a question.”</p><p>—Arthur Guiterman (1871–1943), American poet</p><p>7. “The true spirit of conversation consists in building on another</p><p>man’s observation, not overturning it.”</p><p>—Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton (1803–1873), British novelist/politician</p><p>8. “Confidence contributes more to conversation than wit.”</p><p>—Francois de La Rochefoucauld (1613–1680), French writer</p><p>9. “It takes two to speak truth—one to speak and another to hear.”</p><p>—Henry David Thoreau (1817–1862), American philosopher</p><p>10. “There is no such thing as conversation. It is an illusion. There are</p><p>interesting monologues, that’s all.”</p><p>—Rebecca West (1892–1983), English writer</p><p>11. “I am simple, complex, generous, selfish, unattractive, beautiful,</p><p>lazy and driven.”</p><p>—Barbara Streisand (1942–), American singer, actress, director,</p><p>producer</p><p>12. “Everything becomes a little different as soon as it is spoken out</p><p>loud.”</p><p>—Hermann Hesse (1877–1962), novelist</p><p>13. “Never let your fear of striking out get in your way.”</p><p>—Babe Ruth (1895–1948), American baseball legend</p><p>14. “It was impossible to get a conversation going; everybody was</p><p>talking too much.”</p><p>—Yogi Berra (1925–) legendary baseball manager/catcher</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Before next class, compliment</p><p>three people. Tell your class</p><p>partner what happened.</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 7</p><p>s h A r i n g e x P e r i e n c e s</p><p>Everybody lives somewhere. Share the story of your home with a</p><p>conversation partner by responding to these questions. Feel free to add</p><p>other questions.</p><p>1. Do you live in a house or an apartment?</p><p>2. How long have you lived there?</p><p>3. Why did you choose your current home?</p><p>What attracted you?</p><p>4. Did you have a checklist when looking for a home?</p><p>What was on it?</p><p>5. What legal documents did you have to sign before moving in?</p><p>Lease? Mortgage? Other? Did you have to pay any fees?</p><p>6. What do you like about it?</p><p>How long did it take you make a decision?</p><p>7. What do you dislike about it?</p><p>What, if anything, annoys you?</p><p>8. Which is your favorite room? Why?</p><p>What does it look like?</p><p>9. Which room is the heart of your current home?</p><p>Kitchen? TV room?</p><p>10. What changes have you made to this residence? Paint? Repairs?</p><p>11. What further changes would you like to make?</p><p>12. What paintings, posters, or other artwork do you have?</p><p>13. Do you have any pets? What’s their favorite spot?</p><p>14. What, if any plants or flowers, do you have? Where are they?</p><p>15. By the way, how did you find your current home?</p><p>Word of mouth? Ad?</p><p>“the strength of the nation derives</p><p>from the integrity of the home.”</p><p>confucius (551–479 b.c.E.),</p><p>great chinese philosopher</p><p>3</p><p>Being Home</p><p>8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Which words do you already know? Working with your partner, use each</p><p>of the vocabulary words in a sentence.</p><p>checklist .....................................................................................................</p><p>lease ...........................................................................................................</p><p>mortgage ...................................................................................................</p><p>fees ............................................................................................................</p><p>repairs .......................................................................................................</p><p>hardware ...................................................................................................</p><p>artwork ......................................................................................................</p><p>neighborhood ...........................................................................................</p><p>neighbors ..................................................................................................</p><p>prefer .........................................................................................................</p><p>residence ...................................................................................................</p><p>current ......................................................................................................</p><p>interior ......................................................................................................</p><p>homesick ...................................................................................................</p><p>suburb .......................................................................................................</p><p>appliances .................................................................................................</p><p>an example?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>explore</p><p>Be curious</p><p>take risks</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 2 9</p><p>13. What are some taboos in your native country? What is socially</p><p>forbidden? Why?</p><p>14. What are traditions do you appreciate from your native country?</p><p>15. What traditions or values do you hope your children will keep? Why?</p><p>16. How do traditions change? Can you give an example?</p><p>17. What American traditions do you like or want to adopt? Why?</p><p>18. Do you see America as more of a melting pot or a salad? Why?</p><p>19. What are some benefits of American citizenship? Disadvantages?</p><p>20. What are the citizenship requirements? What do you think they</p><p>should be? Why?</p><p>21. Are you an American citizen? Do you plan to become one? Why?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read each quotation aloud, pick your favorites, and discuss them with</p><p>your group.</p><p>1. “The bosom of America is open to receive not only the opulent and</p><p>respectable stranger, but the oppressed and persecuted of all nations</p><p>and religions.”—George Washington (1732–1799), First President</p><p>of the United States</p><p>2. “The mission of the United States is one of benevolent</p><p>assimilation.”—William McKinley (1843–1901), 25th U.S. President</p><p>3. “Old or young, healthy as a horse or a person with a disability that</p><p>hasn’t kept you down, man or woman, Native American, native</p><p>born, immigrant, straight or gay–whatever; the test ought to be I</p><p>believe in the Constitution, the Bill of Rights, and the Declaration</p><p>of Independence. I believe in religious liberty. I believe in freedom</p><p>of speech. I believe in working hard and playing by the rules. That</p><p>ought to be the test.”—Bill Clinton (1946–), 42nd U.S. President</p><p>4. “Americanism is a question of principle, of idealism, of character: it</p><p>is not a matter of birthplace or creed or line of descent.”</p><p>—Theodore Roosevelt (1858–1919), 26th U.S. President</p><p>5. “God bless America, Land that I love. Stand beside her, and guide</p><p>her, Through the night with a light from above.”</p><p>—Irving Berlin (1888–1989), composer</p><p>6. “America is God’s Crucible, the great Melting-Pot where all the</p><p>races of Europe are melting and reforming!”—Israel Zangwill</p><p>(1864–1926), playwright who wrote The Melting Pot</p><p>7. “Throw your dreams into space like a kite, and you do not know</p><p>what it will bring back, a new life, a new friend, a new love, or a new</p><p>country.”—Anaïs Nin, (1903–1977), writer</p><p>8. “And so, my fellow Americans: ask not what your country can do for</p><p>you–ask what you can do for your country. ”</p><p>—John F. Kennedy (1917–1963), 35th U.S. President</p><p>9. “I came over here as an immigrant, and what gave me the</p><p>opportunities, what made me, is the open arms of Americans. I</p><p>have been received. I have been adopted by America.”</p><p>—Arnold Schwarzenegger (1947–), California governor</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>What advice would you</p><p>give a new immigrant or</p><p>international student about he</p><p>United States?</p><p>Write a short essay, and share</p><p>your thoughts with your</p><p>classmates.</p><p>“america needs new immigrants</p><p>to love and cherish it.”</p><p>Eric Hoffer (1902–1983), writer</p><p>1 3 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>e x P l o r i n g</p><p>Blue jeans, cars, credit cards, elections, immigrants, juries, and jazz</p><p>have helped create American civilization. Chat with your partner about</p><p>America’s diverse, dynamic culture.</p><p>1. Where were you born? How many miles, approximately, is your</p><p>birthplace from here?</p><p>2. When did you arrive in the United States for the first time? How did</p><p>you feel?</p><p>3. What were some of your first, or early, impressions? Why?</p><p>4. What has surprised you about living in the United States? Why?</p><p>5. Does your native country import anything from the United States?</p><p>What?</p><p>6. Does your native country export to the United States? What?</p><p>7. What products, if any, seem exceptionally “American” to you? Why?</p><p>8. Which companies seem particularly American to you? Why?</p><p>9. Can you compare shopping here and in your native country?</p><p>10. Do any clothes seem “real” American to you? Blue jeans?</p><p>Hawaiian shirts? Other?</p><p>11. Are American movies popular in your native country? Which</p><p>kind? Why?</p><p>12. What types of music first developed in America?</p><p>13. Which Americans are popular in your native country now? Why?</p><p>14. Can you think of some Americans who are unpopular in your</p><p>country? Why?</p><p>15. Has the United States changed its borders since 1776? How?</p><p>16. Has the population in the United States changed in the last 50</p><p>years? How?</p><p>17. How many languages have you heard spoken in the United States?</p><p>40</p><p>eXPloRing AmeRiCAn CultuRe</p><p>“We hold these truths to be self-</p><p>evident, that all men are created equal,</p><p>that they are endowed by their Creator</p><p>with certain inalienable rights, that</p><p>among these are life, liberty, and the</p><p>pursuit of happiness.”</p><p>The declaration of independence</p><p>July 4, 1776</p><p>Written by Thomas Jefferson</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 3 1</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>With your partner, write definitions for the following words.</p><p>pursuit .......................................................................................................</p><p>inalienable .................................................................................................</p><p>import .......................................................................................................</p><p>individualism ............................................................................................</p><p>export ........................................................................................................</p><p>slogan ........................................................................................................</p><p>freedom .....................................................................................................</p><p>conformity ................................................................................................</p><p>hero ...........................................................................................................</p><p>villain.........................................................................................................</p><p>Bill of Rights .............................................................................................</p><p>popularity ..................................................................................................</p><p>s l o g A n s</p><p>Can you think of other state or national slogans? Add them to the list.</p><p>In God we trust.</p><p>Freedom is not free.</p><p>E pluribus unum (From many, one)</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. What are some national symbols of the United States?</p><p>2. Can you think of some beautiful places in the United States?</p><p>3. Do you think America’s geography has helped shaped its culture?</p><p>How?</p><p>4. How many states are there in the United States? How many have</p><p>you seen?</p><p>5. Have you visited Florida? Hawaii? New York? Nevada? Texas?</p><p>Indiana?</p><p>6. What are some tourist attractions in Washington D.C.?</p><p>7. Do you agree that “America is a car culture”? Disagree? Why?</p><p>8. Where else would you like to go in the United States? Why?</p><p>9. Who are some important heroes in the U.S.? Why?</p><p>10. Who are some villains in American history or culture? Why?</p><p>11. What should Americans be proud of ? Why?</p><p>12. What has disappointed you about living in the United States?</p><p>13. What American customs or laws do you appreciate? Which do you</p><p>find strange?</p><p>14. What is the Bill of Rights? What freedoms does it protect?</p><p>15. What are some important phrases or slogans in the United States?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>1 3 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>16. Why do you think so many immigrants move to the United States?</p><p>17. If you could change one thing about the U.S., what would it be?</p><p>18. What do you appreciate about American culture? Why?</p><p>19. What is your American dream? Why?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read aloud all the quotations. Circle three quotes and discuss.</p><p>1. “America is great because America is good, and if America ever</p><p>ceases to be good, America will cease to be great.”</p><p>—Alexis De Tocqueville (1805–1859), historian</p><p>2. “The last hope of human liberty in this world rests on us.”</p><p>—Thomas Jefferson (1743–1826), U.S. President and statesman</p><p>3. “America is best described by one word, freedom.”—Dwight D.</p><p>Eisenhower (1890–1969) 34th U.S. President and General</p><p>4. “America is a place where Jewish merchants sell Zen love beads to</p><p>agnostics for Christmas.”</p><p>—John Burton Brimer, design and garden writer</p><p>5. “America is the country where you buy a lifetime supply of aspirin</p><p>for one dollar, and use it up in two weeks.”</p><p>—John Barrymore (1882–1942) actor</p><p>6. “America, which has the most glorious present still existing in the</p><p>world today, hardly stops to enjoy it, in her insatiable appetite for the</p><p>future.”—Anne Morrow Lindbergh (1906–2001), author</p><p>7. “This is still a very wealthy country. The failure is of spirit and</p><p>insight.”</p><p>—Jerry Brown (1938–) California Governor</p><p>8. “America is a land where a citizen will cross the ocean to fight for</p><p>democracy–and won’t cross the street to vote in a national election.”</p><p>—Bill Vaughan (1915–1977), writer</p><p>9. “My definition of a free society is a society where it is safe to be</p><p>unpopular.”</p><p>—Adlai Stevenson (1900–1965), US ambassador to the UN</p><p>10. “The price of freedom of religion or speech or of the press is that</p><p>we must put up with...a good deal of rubbish.”</p><p>—Robert H. Jackson (1892–1954), Supreme Court Justice</p><p>11. “Double–no triple–our troubles and we’d still be better off than</p><p>any other people on earth.”</p><p>—Ronald Reagan (1911–2004), 40th U.S. President</p><p>12. “In one generation we have moved from denying a black man</p><p>service at a lunch counter to elevating one to the highest military</p><p>office in the country, and to being a serious contender for the</p><p>presidency. This is a magnificent country and I am proud to be</p><p>one of its sons.”</p><p>—Colin Powell (1937–), 65th U.S. Secretary of State</p><p>13. “The function of freedom is to free somebody else.”</p><p>—Toni Morrison (1937–) author, Nobel Prize winner in Literature</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>List five adjectives which</p><p>you think describe American</p><p>culture. Prepare to share your</p><p>choices with your classmates.</p><p>1. ...............................................</p><p>2. ...............................................</p><p>3. ...............................................</p><p>4. ...............................................</p><p>5. ...............................................</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 3 3</p><p>s h A r i n g s t o r i e s</p><p>Cities are exciting. What adventures have you had in cities? Share your</p><p>experiences with your classmate.</p><p>1. What is your native country? Where were you born?</p><p>2. What is the capital of your native country? Have you been there?</p><p>3. What interesting things are there to see or do in the capital city of</p><p>your homeland? Where would you recommend tourists visit? Why?</p><p>4. Does that capital city have a mass transportation system ? Describe it.</p><p>5. Are the buses or subways punctual? Safe? Popular? Do you</p><p>recommend a taxi?</p><p>6. Are there other major cities in your native country? Which do you</p><p>prefer? Why?</p><p>7. What are the streets like in your hometown? Can people hear their</p><p>own footsteps when they walk?</p><p>8. Do people walk more in your hometown than they do in the U.S.?</p><p>9. Are the streets and sidewalks more crowded in your hometown than</p><p>they are here? Is the nightlife different? How?</p><p>10. Which cities have you lived in? How long did you live there?</p><p>11. Which cities have you visited as a tourist? When?</p><p>12. What do you like to do when you visit a new city?</p><p>13. What is the capital of the United States? Have you been there?</p><p>14. What are some famous landmarks in Washington, D.C.?</p><p>15. Which city in the United States has the largest population?</p><p>16. Can you name some famous spots in New York City?</p><p>Neighborhoods?</p><p>17. Have you ever ridden on a subway? Where? What was it like?</p><p>18. Have you ever seen graffiti on city walls or subways?</p><p>Was it attractive?</p><p>“Cities force growth, and make men</p><p>talkative and entertaining, but they</p><p>make them artificial.”</p><p>ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882),</p><p>American essayist and philosopher</p><p>41</p><p>eXPloRing Cities</p><p>1 3 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle three words you know. Write a sentence for each one.</p><p>attraction ...................................................................................................</p><p>hometown .................................................................................................</p><p>skyscraper .................................................................................................</p><p>landmark ...................................................................................................</p><p>subway ......................................................................................................</p><p>graffiti ........................................................................................................</p><p>slum ...........................................................................................................</p><p>capital ........................................................................................................</p><p>ghetto ........................................................................................................</p><p>zoning .......................................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Have you ever ridden in a taxi? Did you have a conversation with</p><p>the driver?</p><p>2. Which American cities would you like to visit that you haven’t seen</p><p>yet? What attracts you?</p><p>3. What makes a good city? A great city? What makes a bad city?</p><p>4. What is a skyscraper? Do you like skyscrapers? Why?</p><p>5. What are some neighborhoods in your city? What makes them</p><p>different?</p><p>6. What are some of the advantages of living near other people from</p><p>your native country?</p><p>7. Are there any disadvantages to living near others from your</p><p>homeland?</p><p>8. What are some dangers of urban living? Which films show those</p><p>risks? Have you ever felt at risk in a city?</p><p>9. Do you feel safer living here or do you feel safer in your hometown?</p><p>Why?</p><p>10. What is a ghetto? Are there many slums in your country? Where?</p><p>11. Do you enjoy museums? What kind? Which is your favorite urban</p><p>museum?</p><p>12. What are some benefits to raising children in a city?</p><p>13. Can you describe your downtown? Is your downtown better in the</p><p>day or night? Why?</p><p>14. What are some advantages to city life?</p><p>What are some disadvantages?</p><p>15. Why do you think so many people are moving to cities?</p><p>16. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you choose</p><p>to live? Why?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be alert</p><p>make good mistakes</p><p>Be tolerant</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 3 5</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>With your class partner, read aloud each of the quotations. Circle the</p><p>three quotations which best express your feelings about cities.</p><p>1. “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”—Popular expression in ancient Rome</p><p>2. “City life: millions of people being lonesome together.”</p><p>—Henry David Thoreau</p><p>(1817–1862), American writer</p><p>3. “I like a lot of things about the city, but I prefer the country because</p><p>I don’t have to wear a tie there.”</p><p>—Alexander Calder (1898–1976), American sculptor and artist</p><p>4. “If you would be known, and not know, vegetate in a village; if you</p><p>would know, and not be known, live in a city.”</p><p>—Charles Colton (1780–1832), English clergyman</p><p>5. “What you want is to have a city which everyone…can admire</p><p>as being something finer and more beautiful than he had ever</p><p>dreamed of before…”</p><p>—James Bryce (1838–1922), American architect</p><p>6. “A hick town is where there is no place to go where you shouldn’t be.”</p><p>—Robert Quillen (1887–1948), Journalist</p><p>7. “Vulgar of manner, overfed, Overdressed and underbred;</p><p>Heartless, Godless, hell’s delight, Rude by day and lewd by night.”</p><p>—Byron Rufus Newton (1861–1938), “Owed to New York”</p><p>8. “Paris is a city of gaieties and pleasures where four-fifths of the</p><p>inhabitants die of grief.”</p><p>—Nicholas Chamfort (1741–1794), French writer and wit</p><p>9. “The larger our great cities grow, the more irresistible becomes the</p><p>attraction which they exert on the children of the country, who are</p><p>fascinated by them, as the birds are fascinated by the lighthouse or</p><p>the moths by the candle.”</p><p>—Havelock Ellis (1859–1939), British psychologist</p><p>10. “Los Angeles: Seventy-two suburbs in search of a city.”</p><p>—Dorothy Parker (1893–1967), American writer</p><p>11. “Los Angeles is a city no worse than others, a city rich and</p><p>vigorous and full of pride, a city lost and beaten and full of</p><p>emptiness.”</p><p>—Raymond Chandler (1888–1959), American author of crime</p><p>stories</p><p>12. “A city is a place where there is no need to wait for next week to get</p><p>the answer to a question, to taste the food of any country, to find</p><p>new voices to listen to and familiar ones to listen to again.”</p><p>—Margaret Mead (1901–1978), anthropologist</p><p>13. “I’d rather wake up in the middle of nowhere than in any city on</p><p>earth.”</p><p>—Steve McQueen (1930–1980), actor</p><p>14. “The city is a human zoo, not a concrete jungle.”</p><p>—Dr. Desmond Morris (1928–), zoologist</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>With a class group, list 10</p><p>American cities which you</p><p>have heard about. Then, list</p><p>10 cities in other countries.</p><p>For each city, write two</p><p>words or phrases which</p><p>describe your association</p><p>with that city. Example:</p><p>New York–noisy, exciting.</p><p>Prepare a two-minute oral</p><p>report on one of your visits</p><p>to another city.</p><p>1 3 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>tA l k i n g</p><p>Pick and choose from the questions, and respond to your partner’s</p><p>comments.</p><p>1. How much time do you spend a week in cars? Why?</p><p>2. Do you have a state drivers’ license? Did you take it in English?</p><p>3. Where do you usually drive? Do you drive during rush hour?</p><p>Off-hours?</p><p>4. How long is your commute to work or school? How is the traffic?</p><p>5. Do you drive a car for your work?</p><p>How many miles do you drive a year?</p><p>6. When did you start driving? Who taught you how to drive?</p><p>7. Where did you learn to drive? How long did it take?</p><p>Was learning hard?</p><p>8. What is the age requirement to legally drive in your native country?</p><p>9. Is driving in the U.S. different from driving in your country? How?</p><p>10. Do your parents drive? When did they get their first car? Do you</p><p>remember it?</p><p>11. When did you get your first car? Can you describe it?</p><p>12. How old do you think one should be to drive? Why?</p><p>13. Have you ever bought a car? How did you choose it?</p><p>14. What suggestions do you have for buying a used car?</p><p>15. Do you enjoy driving? How do you feel when you drive? Relaxed?</p><p>Nervous?</p><p>16. How can you tell if somebody is a good driver? Are you one?</p><p>17. Have you ever gotten a traffic ticket? How did it happen?</p><p>18. Do you prefer driving on side streets, main roads, or the freeways?</p><p>What are your reasons?</p><p>“Cars come in three dimensions:</p><p>height, width, and debt.”</p><p>Evan Esar (1899–1995),</p><p>humorist</p><p>42</p><p>DRiving CARs</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 3 7</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Do you and your partner know these words? Circle the words you know.</p><p>commute ...................................................................................................</p><p>carpool ......................................................................................................</p><p>traffic .........................................................................................................</p><p>rush hour ..................................................................................................</p><p>seat belt .....................................................................................................</p><p>tune-up ......................................................................................................</p><p>MPG .........................................................................................................</p><p>traffic ticket ...............................................................................................</p><p>lane ............................................................................................................</p><p>freeway ......................................................................................................</p><p>mandate ....................................................................................................</p><p>essential .....................................................................................................</p><p>s Ay i n g s</p><p>What do these expressions mean? Work with your partner and take a</p><p>guess. Circle the ones you’ve heard before.</p><p>Better safe than sorry.</p><p>Buckle up.</p><p>Don’t drink and drive.</p><p>Drive like hell and you’ll get there.</p><p>Don’t drive as if you owned the road. Drive as if you owned the car.</p><p>To get back on your feet, miss two car payments.</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Do you prefer to drive in the city or the country? Flat or hills?</p><p>2. Do you like long drives? Where do you like to go? Have you driven</p><p>a scenic highway? Where?</p><p>3. What do you listen to when you drive? Music? News? Audiobooks?</p><p>4. Do you drive alone or in a carpool? What are some advantages of</p><p>your style?</p><p>5. Do you drive an automatic or stick shift? Which do you prefer?</p><p>6. Have you ever driven anything other than a car? Truck?</p><p>Motorcycle?</p><p>7. Do you own a car? Rent? Lease? What’s the difference, anyway?</p><p>8. How can you find out your average miles per gallon? What’s your</p><p>MPG? Why does this matter to many drivers?</p><p>9. What is your biggest pet peeve about driving or other drivers?</p><p>10. When do you drive fast? When do you tend to drive slower? Why?</p><p>11. What is the longest distance you have ever driven? Did you drive</p><p>alone?</p><p>12. What are some safety tips for drivers? Why do some state laws</p><p>mandate wearing seat belts?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>1 3 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>13. How often do you get a tune-up? Where do you usually go? Why?</p><p>14. Do you enjoy working on or repairing cars?</p><p>What can you fix on a car?</p><p>15. Some people consider a car essential. Do you agree? Disagree?</p><p>Why?</p><p>16. Have you ever been in a car accident? What happened? Were you</p><p>injured?</p><p>17. What tips for safe driving can you share?</p><p>18. What are some positive aspects of America’s car culture?</p><p>19. What’s your favorite car? Do you have a fantasy car that you would</p><p>love to own?</p><p>Q u</p><p>o tAt i o n s</p><p>Work in groups of three to read these quotes. Circle your favorite ones.</p><p>1. “Any customer can have a car painted any color that he wants so long</p><p>as it is black.”</p><p>—Henry Ford (1863–1947), founder of Ford Motor Company</p><p>2. “The best car safety device is a rear-view mirror.”</p><p>—Dudley Moore (1935–2002), actor</p><p>3. “If GM had kept up with technology like the computer industry has,</p><p>we would all be driving $25 cars that got 1,000 MPG.”</p><p>—Bill Gates (1955–), Microsoft founder</p><p>4. “Modern man drives a mortgaged car over a bond-financed highway</p><p>on credit card gas.”</p><p>—Earl Wilson (1907–1987), newspaper columnist</p><p>5. “I have a BMW. But only because it stands for Bob Marley and the</p><p>Wailers, and not because I need an expensive car.”</p><p>—Bob Marley (1945–1981), reggae star</p><p>6. “Mass transportation is doomed in North America because a person’s</p><p>car is the only place where he can be alone and think.”</p><p>—Marshall McLuhan (1911–1980), communications scholar</p><p>7. “Never have more children than you have car windows.”</p><p>—Erma Bombeck (1927–1996), humorist</p><p>8. “A car is useless in New York, essential everywhere else. The same</p><p>with good manners.”</p><p>—Mignon McLaughlin (1913–1983), journalist</p><p>9. “I have bad reflexes. I was once run over by a car being pushed by</p><p>two guys.”</p><p>—Woody Allen (1935–), comedian and film director</p><p>10. “Get your kicks on Route 66.”</p><p>—Title of a Nat King Cole hit song</p><p>11. “Thanks to the Interstate Highway System, it is now possible</p><p>to travel across the country from coast to coast without seeing</p><p>anything.”</p><p>—Charles Kuralt (1934–1997), broadcast journalist</p><p>12. “Standing in the middle of the road is very dangerous; you get</p><p>knocked down by the traffic from both sides.”</p><p>—Margaret Thatcher (1925–), British Prime Minister</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Look at ads, articles, or</p><p>websites about a type of</p><p>car, SUV, or truck that</p><p>you might purchase in</p><p>the future.</p><p>You might also want to</p><p>clip a picture. Research</p><p>the vehicle’s features,</p><p>ratings, and cost.</p><p>Give a short presentation</p><p>on your research.</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 3 9</p><p>e x c h A n g i n g v i e w s</p><p>With a class partner, share your experiences and ideas about the</p><p>problems of crime. Remember to be patient and encouraging with each</p><p>other.</p><p>1. What do you consider minor crimes?</p><p>2. What are some terrible crimes?</p><p>3. Can you think of something that was illegal in your native country</p><p>and is legal here?</p><p>4. What is legal in your country of birth that is illegal in the U.S?</p><p>5. Why are some cities using hidden cameras at stoplights? What is</p><p>your reaction?</p><p>6. What crimes are commonly punished by a fine? Are these</p><p>misdemeanors in your state?</p><p>7. In the United States, which crimes lead to jail time? Are these all</p><p>felonies in your state?</p><p>8. What is capital punishment? Does your native country also have a</p><p>death penalty? If so, for which crimes?</p><p>9. Do you feel safer where you live now or in your hometown? Why?</p><p>10. Where is the safest place you ever lived? What made the area so safe?</p><p>11. Have you ever walked in a risky area? What made the area feel</p><p>dangerous?</p><p>12. How can you tell if a neighborhood has a high crime rate? What</p><p>do you look for?</p><p>13. Do you have any friends in law enforcement? What do they do?</p><p>14. What are some situations for which you would call the police?</p><p>15. Have you ever seen, or witnessed, a crime? What happened?</p><p>16. Do you know anybody who has been robbed? Scammed?</p><p>Burglarized?</p><p>43</p><p>CRime AnD PunisHment</p><p>“He who does not prevent a crime</p><p>when he can, encourages it.”</p><p>Seneca (5 b.c.E.–65 A.d.),</p><p>roman statesman</p><p>1 4 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle the words that you know.</p><p>misdemeanor ............................................................................................</p><p>felony .........................................................................................................</p><p>crime .........................................................................................................</p><p>criminal .....................................................................................................</p><p>white collar ...............................................................................................</p><p>street crime ...............................................................................................</p><p>victimless ...................................................................................................</p><p>mugged .....................................................................................................</p><p>scam ..........................................................................................................</p><p>bribe ..........................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Explain the meaning of one of the following proverbs to your partner.</p><p>Avarice goes before destruction.—Korean</p><p>All criminals turn preachers under the gallows.—Italian</p><p>If you are poor, don’t cheat; if you are rich, don’t presume.—Chinese</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Can you think of some situations in which a crime has been</p><p>committed, but you would not call the police?</p><p>2. Are there differences between how the police behave here and in</p><p>your native country?</p><p>3. What are some so-called “victimless” crimes? How can illegal drugs,</p><p>smuggling, and prostitution be reduced?</p><p>4. What are some “white collar” crimes? Are bribery, identity theft,</p><p>and fraud common?</p><p>5. What do you think the punishment for these felonies ought to be?</p><p>6. Have you watched the TV show “Law and Order”? “The</p><p>Sopranos”? “CSI”? “The Wire”? Have you seen any older shows</p><p>like “NYPD Blue”? “Columbo”? “Perry Mason”?</p><p>7. Do you enjoy police or detective shows on TV? Which ones?</p><p>8. Do you agree with critics who say TV creates more crime? Why?</p><p>9. How did your native country try to maintain public safety? Was it</p><p>successful?</p><p>10. Can you list three ideas for improving public security?</p><p>11. Do you have any suggestions for reducing the danger of terrorism?</p><p>12. What is the difference between investigating and snooping?</p><p>13. Which American law, if any, would you change? Why?</p><p>14. Do you think there is more crime and violence today than 50 years</p><p>ago? Why?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Watch your step</p><p>Keep perspective</p><p>Be honest</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 4 1</p><p>15. Can you share five suggestions for personal safety?</p><p>16. Why do you think the U.S. crime rate has dropped in the last decade?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read all the quotations. Then, re-read 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 13, and 14. For each</p><p>of these quotations, write agree or disagree. Share your answers with</p><p>your partner.</p><p>1. “The greater the number of laws and enactments, the more thieves</p><p>and robbers.”</p><p>—Lao-tzu (604–531 B.C.E.), Chinese philosopher</p><p>2. “The more corrupt the state, the more numerous the laws.”</p><p>—Tacitus (55–130), Roman philosopher</p><p>3. “Children are innocent and love justice, while most adults are</p><p>wicked and prefer mercy.”</p><p>—G.K. Chesterton (1874–1936), English novelist and critic</p><p>4. “You can get much farther with a kind word and a gun than you can</p><p>with a kind word alone.”</p><p>—Al Capone (1899–1947), Chicago gangster</p><p>5. “He didn’t know the right people. That’s all a police record means.”</p><p>—Raymond Chandler (1888–1959), American detective novelist</p><p>6. “Poverty may be the mother of crime, but lack of good sense is the</p><p>father.”—Jean de la Bruyere (1645–1696), French satiric writer</p><p>7. “The law, in its majestic equality, forbids the rich as well as the poor</p><p>to sleep under the bridge, to beg in the streets, and to steal bread.”</p><p>—Anatole France (1844–1924), French writer and Nobel Prize</p><p>winner in Literature</p><p>8. “Only crime and the criminal confront us with perplexity of radical</p><p>evil.”—Hannan Arendt (1906–1975), American</p><p>philosopher</p><p>9. “Punishment is not for revenge, but to lessen crime and reform the</p><p>criminal.”—Elizabeth Fry (1780–1845), prison reformer</p><p>10. “There’s a simple way to solve the crime problem: obey the law;</p><p>punish those who do not.”</p><p>—Rush Limbaugh (1951–), American radio show host</p><p>11. “We don’t seem to be able to check crime, so why not legalize it</p><p>and then tax it out of business?”</p><p>—Will Rogers (1879–1935), American folk hero</p><p>12. “Seeing a murder on television can help work off one’s antagonisms.</p><p>And if you haven’t any antagonisms, the commercials will give you</p><p>some.”—Alfred Hitchcock (1899–1980), British film director</p><p>13. “Prisons don’t rehabilitate, they don’t punish, they don’t protect, so</p><p>what the hell do they do?”</p><p>—Jerry Brown (1938–), California Governor and Attorney General</p><p>14. “Too much mercy…often resulted in further crimes which were</p><p>fatal to innocent victims who need not have been victims if justice</p><p>had been put first and mercy second.”</p><p>—Agatha Christie (1890–1976), English detective writer</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>How many English words</p><p>of three or more letters can</p><p>you make from the letters in</p><p>CRIME and PUNISHMENT?</p><p>You may use a letter only</p><p>as often for each word as it</p><p>appears in these two words</p><p>combined. Examples: mine,</p><p>cup.</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>1 4 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>s h A r i n g v i e w s</p><p>Voting and having your vote count remain rare privileges around the</p><p>world. Discuss elections and issues with your partner.</p><p>1. Have you voted in an election? When?</p><p>2. Does your native country have elections? How often?</p><p>3. How many parties usually participate in the elections?</p><p>4. What are the main national parties? What are some differences?</p><p>5. Have you ever been a member of a political party? Which? Why?</p><p>6. Who can vote in your country? Have the voting laws changed in</p><p>your lifetime?</p><p>7. Can women vote? What’s the minimum age?</p><p>Can religious minorities vote?</p><p>8. How does someone become a citizen in your country?</p><p>9. What day of the week are national elections held?</p><p>Can you cast an absentee vote?</p><p>10. Where do people physically vote? How do voters mark their</p><p>ballots?</p><p>11. Do the candidates campaign? How?</p><p>12. Do the candidates hold televised debates? Who asks the questions?</p><p>13. Can you recall any political ads from a campaign?</p><p>14. What were some important issues in the last election?</p><p>15. Who won the last election? Was it a fair election? Why?</p><p>16. Have there ever been debates over the election results? Why?</p><p>17. What are the main political parties in the United States?</p><p>18. Can you compare and contrast elections here with those in your</p><p>native country?</p><p>19. Who is eligible to vote in American elections? Are you eligible?</p><p>44</p><p>voting</p><p>“our elections are free; it’s in the</p><p>results where eventually we pay.”</p><p>bill Stern (1907–1971),</p><p>sports announcer</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 4 3</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Write three questions using these</p><p>words.</p><p>candidate ..................................................................................................</p><p>absentee ....................................................................................................</p><p>campaign ..................................................................................................</p><p>debates ......................................................................................................</p><p>contrast .....................................................................................................</p><p>election ......................................................................................................</p><p>eligible .......................................................................................................</p><p>naturalized ................................................................................................</p><p>recall ..........................................................................................................</p><p>referendum ...............................................................................................</p><p>apathy .......................................................................................................</p><p>polls ...........................................................................................................</p><p>s Ay i n g s</p><p>Read the common sayings and proverbs below. Can you add two more?</p><p>To the victor belong the spoils.</p><p>The squeaky wheel gets the grease.</p><p>Stand up and be counted.</p><p>A week is a long time in politics.</p><p>(Add your own) .........................................................................................</p><p>(Add your own) .........................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Have you ever voted in an American election?</p><p>2. What are some advantages to the American system? Disadvantages?</p><p>3. What are referendums or initiatives? Can citizens in your state vote</p><p>directly on reforms?</p><p>4. What is a public bond? What do government bonds finance?</p><p>5. Do voters have the right to recall public officials in your state?</p><p>6. What makes an effective or strong candidate? Why?</p><p>7. Who is the President? Who is the Vice President?</p><p>To what party do they belong?</p><p>8. Who are your state’s two Senators? Who is your Congressional</p><p>Representative?</p><p>9. Who is the governor of your state? The mayor of your city?</p><p>10. What are some qualities you look for in elected officials? Why?</p><p>11. Who are some significant political leaders in the world today?</p><p>Why did you select those leaders?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be active</p><p>ask good questions</p><p>Be tolerant</p><p>1 4 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>12. What are the advantages of being a naturalized citizen?</p><p>13. What are some important issues in your state right now? Why?</p><p>14. What are some local issues in your neighborhood or city? Why?</p><p>15. What do you think are some important national issues? Why?</p><p>16. What is apathy? Why is apathy so common among voters?</p><p>17. How could the election system be improved?</p><p>18. Do you expect to vote in the next election? Why?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Circle quotes that you like. Which quotation is your favorite?</p><p>1. “Always do the right thing. This will gratify some and astonish the</p><p>rest.”—Mark Twain (1835–1910), American humorist</p><p>2. “…government of the people, by the people, for the people shall not</p><p>perish from the earth.”</p><p>—Abraham Lincoln (1809–1865), 16th U.S. President</p><p>3. “This woman’s place is in the House–the House of</p><p>Representatives.”—Bella Abzug (1920–1998), American</p><p>Congresswomen and feminist</p><p>4. “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to</p><p>do nothing.”—Edmund Burke (1729–1797), English statesman</p><p>5. “Sometimes it is said that man cannot be trusted with the</p><p>government of himself. Can he, then, be trusted with the</p><p>government of others?”</p><p>—Thomas Jefferson (1743–1826), U.S. President</p><p>6. “Where annual elections end, there slavery begins.”</p><p>—John Adams (1735–1826), 2nd U.S. President</p><p>7. “Elections are won by men and women chiefly because most people</p><p>vote against somebody rather than for somebody.”</p><p>—Franklin Pierce Adams (1881–1960), journalist</p><p>8. “If the Republicans will stop telling lies about the Democrats, we</p><p>will stop telling the truth about them.”</p><p>—Adlai Stevenson (1900–1965), American statesman</p><p>9. “I belong to no organized political party–I am a Democrat.”</p><p>—Will Rogers (1879–1935), American humorist and columnist</p><p>10. “I would rather be right than be President.”</p><p>—Henry Clay (1777–1852), U.S. politician</p><p>11. “Democracy is the worst system devised by the wit of man except</p><p>for all the others.”</p><p>—Winston Churchill (1874–1965 ), British Prime Minister</p><p>12. “An election cannot give a country a firm sense of direction if</p><p>it has two or more national parties which merely have different</p><p>names, but are as alike in their principles and aims as two peas in</p><p>the same pod.”—Franklin D. Roosevelt (1882–1945), 32nd U.S.</p><p>President; elected four times</p><p>13. “The happy ending is our national belief.”</p><p>—Mary McCarthy (1912–1989), American novelist and critic</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Create five campaign slogans</p><p>for a candidate or cause of</p><p>your choice.</p><p>1. ...............................................</p><p>2. ...............................................</p><p>3. ...............................................</p><p>4. ...............................................</p><p>5. ...............................................</p><p>“if ever there was a doubt about the</p><p>importance of exercising the most</p><p>fundamental right of citizenship,</p><p>it was clearly answered by the first</p><p>presidential election of the 21st</p><p>century.”</p><p>bill clinton (1946–) 42nd u.S. President</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 4 5</p><p>e x c h A n g i n g i d e A s</p><p>In all countries and all times, people have had heroes. Who are yours?</p><p>Chat with your class partner about heroes.</p><p>1. Who are some heroes in cartoons or movies?</p><p>2. Do you have a favorite film hero? Who? Why?</p><p>3. Who are some classic heroes and heroines in literature?</p><p>4. Who are some traditional heroes in your native country? What did</p><p>they do?</p><p>5. What is the difference between a hero and a role model?</p><p>6. What’s the difference between a hero and a star?</p><p>7. Can you name someone who is a star and not a hero? Who?</p><p>8. What is the difference between a hero and an idol?</p><p>9. Can you name someone who has been idolized, but is not a hero?</p><p>10. What is the difference between a celebrity and a hero?</p><p>11. Must one be brave to be a hero? Can you think of an exception?</p><p>12. Are all brave people heroes? Why do you say that?</p><p>13. Do heroes have to be virtuous? Can you think of an exception?</p><p>14. Who are some heroes with flaws? Do all heroes have flaws?</p><p>15. Do heroes always sacrifice for others? If so, can you think of an</p><p>exception?</p><p>16. Must one do something physical to be a hero? Can you think of an</p><p>exception?</p><p>17. Is everyone who performs an outstanding physical feat a hero?</p><p>18. Who are some contemporary sports heroes? Is Kobe Bryant a</p><p>hero? Why?</p><p>19. Who were some of the 20th century’s sports heroes? Babe Ruth?</p><p>Jesse Owens? Muhammad Ali? Michael Jordan? Pelé?</p><p>45</p><p>seARCHing foR HeRoes</p><p>“time makes heroes</p><p>but dissolves celebrities.”</p><p>daniel J. boorstin, (1914–2004),</p><p>American historian and bestselling author</p><p>1 4 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Working with your partner, try to define each of these words.</p><p>brave .........................................................................................................</p><p>virtuous .....................................................................................................</p><p>flaw ............................................................................................................</p><p>tragic .........................................................................................................</p><p>idol ............................................................................................................</p><p>idolized ......................................................................................................</p><p>celebrity ....................................................................................................</p><p>tragedy ......................................................................................................</p><p>exception ...................................................................................................</p><p>unsung hero ..............................................................................................</p><p>role model .................................................................................................</p><p>heroic ........................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Circle the two proverbs which you like the best.</p><p>Actions speak louder than words.</p><p>A hero is a man who is afraid to run away.—English</p><p>Heroism consists in hanging on one minute longer.—Norwegian</p><p>Death before dishonor.—Roman</p><p>Words are mere bubbles of water,</p><p>but deeds are drops of gold.—Chinese</p><p>The soldiers fight, and the kings are heroes.—Yiddish</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Who are some heroes of science or medicine?</p><p>2. Who are some heroes of aviation? Business?</p><p>3. Who are some people who are considered war heroes?</p><p>4. Were the fire fighters and police officers at the Twin Towers heroes?</p><p>Why?</p><p>5. Who are some civil rights heroes? What did they do?</p><p>6. Can you think of some other political or historical heroes?</p><p>7. Whose faces are on American coins? Why is each person considered</p><p>an American hero?</p><p>8. Who are some people on American dollar bills? Why are they</p><p>considered heroes?</p><p>9. Why do you think Abraham Lincoln is considered a tragic hero?</p><p>10. What are some of the dangers of being a hero? Are there</p><p>disadvantages to having heroes?</p><p>11. How can heroes inspire us? What are some heroic qualities?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 4 7</p><p>12. Can you think of somebody who was once considered a hero and</p><p>then lost his status?</p><p>13. What is an unsung hero? Have you ever personally known an</p><p>unsung hero? Who? Why do you regard that person as a hero?</p><p>14. Did you ever regard anyone in your family as a hero? Why? How</p><p>old were you?</p><p>15. Have you ever looked up to a friend as a hero? Do you still feel that</p><p>way? Why?</p><p>16. Do you have a personal hero? Who? Why?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Read all the quotations. Then, select your favorite and explain it to your</p><p>class partner.</p><p>1. “One cannot always be a hero, but one can always be a human.”</p><p>—Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749–1832), German playwright</p><p>and novelist</p><p>2. “You must do things you think you cannot do.”</p><p>—Eleanor Roosevelt (1884–1962), former First Lady, diplomat</p><p>3. “Self-trust is the essence of heroism.”</p><p>—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882), philosopher</p><p>4. “Who is a hero? He who conquers his urges.”—The Talmud</p><p>5. “No sadder proof can be given by a man of his own littleness than</p><p>disbelief in great men.”</p><p>—Thomas Carlyle (1795–1881), British historian</p><p>6. “Cowards die many times before their deaths; The valiant never taste</p><p>of death but once.”</p><p>—William Shakespeare (1564–1616), English playwright</p><p>7. “Every owner is a Napoleon to their dog, hence the popularity of</p><p>dogs.”—Aldous Huxley (1894–1963), British novelist</p><p>8. “We can’t all be heroes because somebody has to sit on the curb and</p><p>clap as they go by.”—Will Rogers (1879–1935), American humorist</p><p>9. “In me, it’s caution. In someone else, it’s cowardice.”</p><p>—Henny Youngman (1906–1998), American comedian</p><p>10. “My life is my message.”</p><p>—Mahatma Gandhi (1869–1948), Leader</p><p>of India</p><p>11. “Show me a hero, and I’ll write you a tragedy.”</p><p>—F. Scott Fitzgerald (1896–1940), writer</p><p>12. “How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes</p><p>and she-ores!”</p><p>—Maya Angelou (1928–), American poet</p><p>13. “ Those who say that we’re in a time when there are no heroes just</p><p>don’t know where to look.”</p><p>—Ronald Reagan (1911–2004), 40th U.S. President</p><p>14. “A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to preserve</p><p>and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.”</p><p>—Christopher Reeve (1952–2004), American actor</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>If you were a Superhero,</p><p>what power would you</p><p>want the most? To fly? To</p><p>see through walls? Super</p><p>strength like The Hulk?</p><p>Write a short paragraph</p><p>explaining why you chose</p><p>that power and read it to</p><p>the class.</p><p>appendix“all’s well that ends well.”</p><p>William SHaKeSpeare</p><p>(1564–1616), playwright and poet</p><p>LAuriE SELik PHoTo</p><p>1 5 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>ESL conversation teachers</p><p>stimulate conversation in Eng-</p><p>lish among their students, help</p><p>students with English usage, and</p><p>evaluate student participation,</p><p>comprehension and pronuncia-</p><p>tion. These tasks are your main</p><p>responsibilities. Students learn by</p><p>doing, and your classroom pro-</p><p>vides a safe place for them to ex-</p><p>pand their verbal skills in English.</p><p>In order to accomplish these</p><p>goals, you may use a variety of</p><p>structures within a class period,</p><p>depending upon the skill and</p><p>comfort of your students in</p><p>using Compelling Conversations. For</p><p>example, you might introduce a</p><p>lesson topic by discussing one or</p><p>more of the quotations. Or, you</p><p>might choose to introduce a topic</p><p>by examining the vocabulary.</p><p>We’ve often found it helpful, espe-</p><p>cially in the beginning of the se-</p><p>mester, for you to role play for the</p><p>class a question/answer session</p><p>with a student. At this time, you</p><p>could demonstrate how to pass on</p><p>a question if it makes one uncom-</p><p>fortable. Setting a time limit for</p><p>the question/answer activity also</p><p>helps and meets students’ desires</p><p>for structure. In general, each class</p><p>should begin and end with the</p><p>class as a single unit even if you</p><p>have used small groups or conver-</p><p>sation partners during the period</p><p>to build greater class cohesion.</p><p>Also, many students stay more on</p><p>task if they are required to report</p><p>back to the class or hand in an</p><p>assignment as a result of the small</p><p>group or question/answer seg-</p><p>ment. While students are engaged</p><p>in small groups or conversation,</p><p>you may go from group to group</p><p>to maintain their focus and en-</p><p>courage or evaluate participation,</p><p>or you may use this time for one</p><p>on one practice with individual</p><p>students. In all these situations,</p><p>you will be modeling appropriate,</p><p>authentic conversation for your</p><p>listeners.</p><p>Teachers can use the materials</p><p>in Compelling Conversations in many</p><p>ways. We’ve written no direction</p><p>or suggestion in stone. We hope</p><p>the materials stimulate interest</p><p>and creativity in teachers as well</p><p>in students.</p><p>Here are some suggestions for</p><p>additional activities which have</p><p>been successfully used in ESL</p><p>classrooms:</p><p>• Start a lesson by selecting a</p><p>question (e.g. What’s your native</p><p>country? How long did you live</p><p>there?) and having each student</p><p>tell his response to the class.</p><p>• Ask each student to tell the class</p><p>a proverb from his country and</p><p>explain it.</p><p>• Select a word with multiple pur-</p><p>poses in English (e.g. play) and</p><p>identify with them the differing</p><p>definitions of the word. Students</p><p>can write a sentence for each of</p><p>the meanings.</p><p>• Select a common English word</p><p>(e.g. play) and help students cre-</p><p>ate a list of rhyming words (e.g.</p><p>play, say, stay, day, bay etc.) and</p><p>use the words in sentences.</p><p>• Identify a common prefix and</p><p>help students create a list of</p><p>words with this prefix.</p><p>• Identify a common suffix and</p><p>help students create a list of</p><p>words with this suffix.</p><p>• Have students create a word</p><p>search using at least seven of the</p><p>vocabulary words from a lesson.</p><p>Students may then exchange</p><p>these word searches with others</p><p>in the class.</p><p>• Divide the class into groups</p><p>of three or four and assign a</p><p>quotation to each group. The</p><p>group discusses the meaning of</p><p>the quotation for 10 minutes</p><p>and then a representative of the</p><p>group reports back to the class as</p><p>a whole.</p><p>• Pick two quotations with oppos-</p><p>ing points of view. With the help</p><p>of students identify the meaning</p><p>of each quote. Ask students their</p><p>responses to each quote. Then</p><p>take a class vote to determine</p><p>which quotation seems most apt</p><p>to students.</p><p>• Ask students to identify a situa-</p><p>tion in which they might use a</p><p>proverb or quotation.</p><p>• Have students role play a situa-</p><p>tion in which they might use a</p><p>proverb or quotation.</p><p>The possibilities remain endless.</p><p>Build on your successes. Relax</p><p>and have fun. Remember, the</p><p>greatest motivators in your class-</p><p>room remain your encourage-</p><p>ment, enthusiasm, and example.</p><p>tiPs & gentle ADviCe foR esl/efl teACHeRs</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 5 1</p><p>21st Century Dictionary of Quotations. Dell</p><p>Publishing, 1993.</p><p>Ackerman, Mary Alice. Conversations on the</p><p>Go. Search Institute, 2004.</p><p>Akbar, Fatollah. The Eye of an Ant: Persian</p><p>Proverbs and Poems. Iranbooks, 1995.</p><p>Ben Shea, Noah. Great Jewish Quotes: Five</p><p>Thousand Years of Truth and Humor from the</p><p>Bible to George Burns. Ballantine Books, 1993.</p><p>Berman, Louis A. Proverb Wit and Wisdom:</p><p>A Treasury of Proverbs, Parodies, Quips, Quotes,</p><p>Cliches, Catchwords, Epigrams, and Aphorisms.</p><p>Perigee Book, 1997.</p><p>Bierce, Ambrose. The Devil’s Dictionary.</p><p>Dover Publications, 1993.</p><p>Bullivant, Alison. The Little Book of Humorous</p><p>Quotations. Barnes & Noble Books, 2002.</p><p>Byrne, Robert. 1,911 Best Things Anybody</p><p>Ever Said. Ballantine Books, 1988.</p><p>Cohen, M. J. The Penguin Dictionary of</p><p>Epigrams. Penguin, 2001.</p><p>Esar, Evan. 20,000 Quips and Quotes. Barnes</p><p>& Noble Books. 1995.</p><p>Frank, Leonard Roy. Freedom: Quotes and</p><p>Passages from the World’s Greatest Freethinkers.</p><p>Random House, 2003.</p><p>Galef, David. Even Monkeys Fall From Trees:</p><p>The Wit and Wisdom of Japanese Proverbs.</p><p>Tuttle Publishing, 1987.</p><p>Galef, David. Even a Stone Buddha Can Talk:</p><p>More Wit and Wisdom of Japanese Proverbs.</p><p>Tuttle Publishing, 2000.</p><p>Gross, David C. and Gross, Esther R..</p><p>Jewish Wisdom: A Treasury of Proverbs, Maxims,</p><p>Aphorisms, Wise Sayings, and Memorable</p><p>Quotations. Walker and Company, 1992.</p><p>Gross, John. The Oxford Book of Aphorisms.</p><p>Oxford University Press, 1987.</p><p>Habibian, Simin K. 1001 Persian-English</p><p>Proverbs: Learning Language and Culture Through</p><p>Commonly Used Sayings. Third Edition. Ibex</p><p>Publishers, 2002.</p><p>Jacobs, Ben and Hjalmarsson, Helena. The</p><p>Quotable Book Lover. Barnes & Noble, 2002.</p><p>Jarski, Rosemarie. Wisecracks: Great Lines from</p><p>the Classic Hollywood Era. Contemporary</p><p>Books, 1999.</p><p>Lewis, Edward and Myers, Robert. A</p><p>Treasury of Mark Twain: The Greatest Humor</p><p>of the Greatest American Humorist. Hallmark</p><p>Cards, 1967.</p><p>McLellan, Vern. Quips, Quotes, and Quests.</p><p>Harvest Books, 1982.</p><p>MacHale, Des. Wit. Andrews McMeel</p><p>Publishing, 2003.</p><p>McWilliams, Peter. Life 101: Everything We</p><p>Wish We Had Learned About Life In School</p><p>– But Didn’t. Prelude Press, 1991.</p><p>The Oxford Dictionary of Quotations, 5th</p><p>Edition.. Oxford University Press, 1999.</p><p>Peter, Dr. Laurence J. Peter’s Quotations: Ideas</p><p>for Our Time. William Morrow, 1977.</p><p>Pickney, Maggie. Pocket Positives For Our</p><p>Times. The Five Mile Press, 2002.</p><p>Pickney, Maggie. The Devil’s Collection: A</p><p>Cynic’s Dictionary. The Five Mile Press, 2003.</p><p>Platt, Suzy. Respectfully Quoted: A Dictionary of</p><p>Quotations. Barnes & Noble Books, 1993.</p><p>Poole, Garry. The Complete Book of Questions.</p><p>Willow-Creek Association, 2003.</p><p>Rado, Adam. Conversation Pieces. Aethron</p><p>Press. 2001.</p><p>Reader’s Digest Quotable Quotes: Wit and</p><p>Wisdom for All Occasions From America’s Most</p><p>Popular Magazine. Reader’s Digest, 1997</p><p>Rosten, Leo. Rome Wasn’t Burned in a Day;</p><p>The Mischief of Language. Doubleday, 1972.</p><p>Rosten, Leo. Leo Rosten’s Carnival of Wit.</p><p>Penguin Books USA, 1994.</p><p>Shalit, Gene. Great Hollywood Wit: A Glorious</p><p>Cavalcade of Hollywood Wisecracks, Zingers,</p><p>Japes, Quips, Slings, Jests, Snappers, and Sass</p><p>from the Stars. St. Martin’s Griffin, 2002</p><p>Simpson, James Beasley. Best Quotes of ’54,</p><p>’55, ’56. Thomas Y. Crowell Company,</p><p>1957.</p><p>Stavropoulos, Steven. The Wisdom of the</p><p>Ancient Greeks: Timeless Advice on the Senses,</p><p>Society, and the Soul. Barnes & Noble Books,</p><p>2003.</p><p>Sullivan, George. Quotable Hollywood. Barnes</p><p>and Noble, 2001.</p><p>Webster’s Dictionary of Quotations. Merriam-</p><p>Webster, 1992.</p><p>Williams, Rose. Latin Quips at Your Fingertips:</p><p>Witty Latin Sayings by Wise Romans. Barnes</p><p>and Noble, 2000.</p><p>Winokur, Jon. The Portable Curmudgeon. Jon.</p><p>New American Library, 1987.</p><p>Winkour, Jon. Zen to Go. New American</p><p>Library, 1989.</p><p>Winkour, Jon. The Traveling Curmudgeon.</p><p>Sasquatch Books, 2003.</p><p>Yong-chol, Kim. Proverbs East and West:</p><p>An Anthology of Chinese, Korean, and Japanese</p><p>Saying with Western Equivalents. Hollym, 1991.</p><p>Zubko, Andy. Treasury of Spiritual Wisdom:</p><p>A Collection of 10,000 Inspirational Quotations.</p><p>Blue Dove Press.1996.</p><p>The internet has dramatically expanded</p><p>our access to quotations. Five websites</p><p>deserve to be mentioned here as</p><p>outstanding sources.</p><p>• www.bartleby.com/quotations</p><p>• www.qotd.org</p><p>• www.quotationspage.com</p><p>• www.thinkexist.com</p><p>• http://en.wikiquote.org</p><p>BiBliogRAPHY</p><p>1 5 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>e r i c h . r o t h</p><p>Born in New York City and raised</p><p>in Indiana, Eric Roth has taught</p><p>English and writing in California</p><p>for the last dozen years.</p><p>Roth currently teaches under-</p><p>graduate engineering students</p><p>and graduate science students the</p><p>pleasures of writing and public</p><p>speaking in English at the Univer-</p><p>sity of Southern California.</p><p>A freelance writer and former</p><p>Congressional aide, he has also</p><p>taught numerous courses at Santa</p><p>Monica College, UCLA Exten-</p><p>sion, and Cal State, Long Beach’s</p><p>American Language Institute.</p><p>In 1995, Roth taught the first citi-</p><p>zenship class in the Santa Monica-</p><p>Malibu Unified School District</p><p>and served as the first director of</p><p>the Community Enhancement</p><p>Services Adult Education Center</p><p>in 1996. Several hundred gradu-</p><p>ates of these courses passed their</p><p>citizenship exams and became</p><p>naturalized American citizens.</p><p>Roth received his M.A. in Media</p><p>Studies in 1988 from the New</p><p>School for Social Research. He is</p><p>a member of numerous profes-</p><p>sional organizations, including</p><p>the International Communication</p><p>Association, Teaching English to</p><p>Speakers of Other Languages, and</p><p>California Association of Teach-</p><p>ing English to Speakers of Other</p><p>Languages. Roth has given several</p><p>teacher workshops.</p><p>As you might guess, he enjoys talk-</p><p>ing with friends, relatives, students</p><p>and fellow teachers.</p><p>t o n i A b e r s o n</p><p>After 35 years of teaching English</p><p>and supervising English teachers,</p><p>Toni Aberson (M.A. English; M.A.</p><p>Psychology and Religion) believes</p><p>that a lively classroom is the opti-</p><p>mal learning environment.</p><p>“If people are thinking, sharing,</p><p>and laughing, then they’re learn-</p><p>ing,” notes Aberson. “The mere</p><p>fact that those adults are in an ESL</p><p>classroom attests to their courage</p><p>and their determination to learn.”</p><p>“Adult ESL students bring a wealth</p><p>of interesting experiences with</p><p>them,” continues Aberson. “They</p><p>bring the world into the classroom.</p><p>The challenge for ESL teachers is</p><p>to put students at ease and encour-</p><p>age them to practice English. What</p><p>better way than to ask students</p><p>about their lives? I love teaching</p><p>ESL.”</p><p>P.S. Eric Roth calls Toni “mom.”</p><p>ABout tHe AutHoRs</p><p>★</p><p>o n l i n e</p><p>Compelling Conversations is</p><p>the first book by Aberson</p><p>or Roth. Visit www.</p><p>compellingconversations.com</p><p>to offer feedback, suggest</p><p>conversation topics, or</p><p>contribute questions,</p><p>proverbs, or quotations.</p><p>“A wonderful source of materials</p><p>triggering authentic (not stilted)</p><p>communication.”</p><p>Dr. Sharon MyerS</p><p>american Language Institute.</p><p>University of Southern California</p><p>“Immigrants need to feel</p><p>comfortable speaking English,</p><p>but too often students learn</p><p>everything except conversation</p><p>in ESL classrooms. Compelling</p><p>Conversations allows students</p><p>to learn by speaking. It’s a</p><p>wonderful addition to our</p><p>curriculum.”</p><p>ZIgMUnD VayS</p><p>Founder/President, Community</p><p>enhancement Services College</p><p>“This book is excellent! Both</p><p>teachers and students love it. “</p><p>MarIna goLDShteyn</p><p>Director, CeS College</p><p>“Compelling Conversations is</p><p>tremendously useful and</p><p>interesting. I use it almost</p><p>everyday in my ESL class. I prefer</p><p>to use Compelling Conversations</p><p>because my advanced students</p><p>enjoy the variety of choices</p><p>they have with the number of</p><p>questions in each chapter.”</p><p>ronIt FarZaM, M.a.</p><p>in Linguistics/teSL. eSL instructor</p><p>“I wish I had written this book! It</p><p>will provide students with hours</p><p>of conversation practice.”</p><p>nIna Ito</p><p>Coordinator, american Language</p><p>Institute, California State University,</p><p>Long Beach and co-author of The Great</p><p>Big BINGO Book: Bingo Games for ESL</p><p>Learner</p><p>“I just wanted you to know</p><p>that I loved using your book,</p><p>Compelling Conversations for my adult</p><p>ESL student. The proverbs and</p><p>quotations were a wonderful</p><p>source of additional conversation,</p><p>and writing.”</p><p>regIna PaBo</p><p>eSL teacher with more than 20 years</p><p>of experience teaching students from</p><p>kindergarten to college</p><p>ErIc H. roTH teaches undergraduate engineering students and graduate</p><p>science students the pleasures of writing and public speaking in English at the</p><p>University of Southern California. He has also taught various ESL courses at Santa</p><p>Monica College, UCLA Extension, and Cal State, Long Beach’s American Language</p><p>Institute.</p><p>TonI ABErSon taught English and supervised English teachers for 35 years,</p><p>and believes that a lively classroom is the optimal learning environment.</p><p>Visit www.compellingconversations.com</p><p>to offer feedback, suggest conversation topics,</p><p>or contribute questions, proverbs, or quotations.</p><p>LET’S TALk! Chimayo press</p><p>perfect for conversation clubs, private tutors, and conversation courses!</p><p>s Ay i n g s</p><p>What do these proverbs and sayings mean? Discuss them with your</p><p>partner. Circle your favorite.</p><p>Home is where the heart is.</p><p>You can’t go home again.</p><p>Home is where we grumble the most and are treated the best.</p><p>Birds return to old nests.—Japanese</p><p>A house is not a home.</p><p>Mi casa es su casa.—Spanish</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. When you were a child, did you live in a house or an apartment?</p><p>2. How long did you live in one residence?</p><p>3. What did you like about it? What did you dislike?</p><p>4. With whom did you live as a child?</p><p>5. Which was your favorite room? Why?</p><p>6. Which room was the heart of your childhood home?</p><p>7. Have you ever felt homesick? What did you miss the most?</p><p>8. What is your favorite childhood memory at home?</p><p>9. Is your old neighborhood the same today as it was when you were a</p><p>child?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 9</p><p>10. Would you like to live there now? Why or why not?</p><p>11. Would you rather live in an apartment or a house? Why?</p><p>12. Would you rather live in a city, a suburb, a small town, or the</p><p>country? Why?</p><p>13. Can you suggest some places to find interior design ideas?</p><p>14. What would your dream residence be like?</p><p>Can you describe it in detail?</p><p>15. What modern appliances would your dream house have?</p><p>16. What makes a house or an apartment a home?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Please read and review these quotations in a small group. Discuss what</p><p>each one means. Then label a quote you like and one you dislike.</p><p>1. “He is happiest, be he king or peasant, who finds peace in his</p><p>home.”—Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749–1832), German</p><p>playwright</p><p>2. “Anger in a home is like rottenness in a fruit.”—Talmud</p><p>3. “A man’s house is his castle.”</p><p>—Sir Edward Coke (1552–1634), English lord</p><p>4. Home: “The place where when you have to go there, they have to</p><p>take you in.”—Robert Frost (1875–1963), American poet</p><p>5. “Be it ever so humble, there’s no place like home.”</p><p>—John Howard Payne (1791–1852), American lyricist</p><p>6. “A man builds a fine house; and now he has a master, and a task for</p><p>life: he is to furnish, watch, show it, and keep it in repair, the rest of</p><p>his days.”—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882), American writer</p><p>7. “A man travels the world over in search of what he needs, and</p><p>returns home to find it.”</p><p>—George Moore (1852–1933), Irish playwright</p><p>8. “No matter under what circumstances you leave it, home does not</p><p>cease to be home. No matter how you lived there—well or poorly.”</p><p>—Joseph Brodsky (1940–1996), Russian-American Nobel winner</p><p>9. “Home is the girl’s prison and the woman’s workhouse.”—George</p><p>Bernard Shaw (1856–1950), Irish playwright and Nobel winner</p><p>10. “A woman should be home with the children, building that home</p><p>and making sure there’s a secure family atmosphere.”</p><p>—Mel Gibson (1956–), film director, actor</p><p>11. “The best way to keep children at home is make the home</p><p>atmosphere pleasant, and let the air out of the tires.”</p><p>—Dorothy Parker (1893–1967), American writer</p><p>12. “Modern apartments are built on the principle that half as much</p><p>room should cost twice as much money.”</p><p>—Evan Esar (1899–1995), American humorist</p><p>13. “Peace and rest at length have come, All the day’s long toil is past,</p><p>And each heart is whispering, Home, Home at last!”</p><p>—Thomas Hood (1798–1845), English poet</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Select five adjectives (spacious,</p><p>cozy) for your dream home:</p><p>1. ...............................................</p><p>2. ...............................................</p><p>3. ...............................................</p><p>4. ...............................................</p><p>5. ...............................................</p><p>Before the next class, find a</p><p>home or apartment building</p><p>that you would like to live in.</p><p>Bring a specific address to class.</p><p>Describe the building to your</p><p>group.</p><p>1 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>s h A r i n g e x P e r i e n c e s</p><p>Family remains the center of society. Share your experiences and</p><p>discover your partner’s diverse experiences as a family member.</p><p>1. Do you have a large, medium, or small family?</p><p>How many people are in your family?</p><p>2. What are your parents’ names? How do you spell their names?</p><p>3. Where were your parents born? Were they born in a hospital?</p><p>Elsewhere?</p><p>4. How did your parents meet? What attracted them to each other?</p><p>5. How long did they know each other before they got married?</p><p>6. Do you know how old your parents were when they got married?</p><p>7. How many siblings do you have? Are you the oldest? Youngest?</p><p>8. What do you enjoy doing with your siblings?</p><p>9. While living in your homeland, did you live with your nuclear family</p><p>or your extended family? With whom do you live now?</p><p>10. Does your extended family have a leader or dominant figure?</p><p>Is there a patriarch or a matriarch?</p><p>11. How many aunts and uncles do you have?</p><p>12. Which aunt or uncle is your favorite? Why?</p><p>13. What language or languages did you hear in your childhood</p><p>home? Which languages are spoken now?</p><p>14. Do you exchange gifts on holidays? Which holidays?</p><p>15. Who gives the best gifts in your family? Why?</p><p>16. What do you appreciate about your family?</p><p>17. How can families provide comfort?</p><p>“am i my brother’s keeper?”</p><p>genesis 4:9</p><p>4</p><p>DesCRiBing fAmilY ties</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 1</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Ask your partner or teacher for the</p><p>meanings of the other words.</p><p>sibling ........................................................................................................</p><p>spouse ........................................................................................................</p><p>nuclear family ...........................................................................................</p><p>blended family ..........................................................................................</p><p>extended family ........................................................................................</p><p>reunion ......................................................................................................</p><p>matriarch ..................................................................................................</p><p>patriarch ....................................................................................................</p><p>stepsister ....................................................................................................</p><p>ancestor .....................................................................................................</p><p>half-brother ...............................................................................................</p><p>in-laws .......................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Read the common sayings and proverbs below. Can you add one more?</p><p>Half of your fortune lies in your family line.—Korean</p><p>Of all the virtues, family duty is the first.—Chinese</p><p>A brother helped by a brother is like a fortified city.—Book of Proverbs</p><p>Like father, like son.—Latin</p><p>Like mother, like daughter.—Persian</p><p>Whoever marries for money will have unworthy children.—Talmud</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. What days were special for your family when you were a child?</p><p>2. Which</p><p>relative do you feel closest to?</p><p>3. What makes that relationship special?</p><p>4. Whom do you respect the most in your family? Why?</p><p>5. Does your family hold reunions? Can you describe a recent one?</p><p>6. How do you keep in touch with distant relatives? Do you use email?</p><p>7. How many times has your family moved? Why?</p><p>8. Could you describe some of your favorite family photographs?</p><p>9. Is divorce legal in your homeland? Are there particular conditions</p><p>required for divorce? What are they? Any other restrictions?</p><p>10. Why are “blended families” more common today?</p><p>11. What might cause someone to become a “black sheep” in a family?</p><p>12. What things might parents keep secret from their children?</p><p>13. What things might children keep secret from their parents?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be yourself</p><p>skip awkward questions</p><p>add natural questions</p><p>1 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>14. Do you have any step or half brothers or sisters? Do you think</p><p>these relationships are harder? Why?</p><p>15. What rivalries has your family had?</p><p>Have you felt any rivalry with relatives?</p><p>16. How can families create stress?</p><p>17. What were some important events in your family history?</p><p>18. Which ancestor would you most like to meet? Why?</p><p>19. How are family habits and traditions different in the United States</p><p>than in your native land?</p><p>20. What are your suggestions for stronger and healthier relationships?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Which quotation is your favorite? Why?</p><p>1. “All happy families resemble one another; every unhappy family is</p><p>unhappy in its own fashion.”</p><p>—Leo Tolstoy in Anna Karenina (1828–1910), Russian novelist</p><p>2. “All that I am or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.”</p><p>—Abraham Lincoln (1809–1865), 16th U.S. President</p><p>3. “We never know the love of a parent until we become parents</p><p>ourselves.”</p><p>—Henry Ward Beecher (1813–1887), clergyman/abolitionist</p><p>4. “Rearing a family is probably the most difficult job in the world.”</p><p>—Virginia Satir (1916–1988), family therapist</p><p>5. “Heredity is what sets the parents of a teenager wondering about</p><p>each other.”—Laurence J. Peter (1919–1990) educator and author</p><p>6. “Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do.</p><p>Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little</p><p>children.”</p><p>—Alex Haley (1921–1992), American novelist and biographer</p><p>7. “The greatest thing in family life is to take a hint when a hint is</p><p>intended–and not to take a hint when a hint isn’t intended.”</p><p>—Robert Frost (1874–1963), American poet</p><p>8. “We must learn to live together as brothers or perish as fools.”</p><p>—Dr. Martin Luther King (1929–1968), Nobel Peace Prize recipient</p><p>9. “The family that prays together stays together.”</p><p>—Slogan of Father Patrick Peyton’s Family Rosary Radio Crusade</p><p>10. “When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your</p><p>thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and</p><p>once for her child.”</p><p>—Sophia Loren (1934–), Italian actress</p><p>11. “Is solace anywhere more comforting than that in the arms of a</p><p>sister?”—Alice Walker (1944–), American novelist and poet</p><p>12. “The first duty of love is to listen.”</p><p>—Paul Tillich (1886–1965), theologian</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Make a Family</p><p>Tree back to your</p><p>grandparents and, if you</p><p>have children, including</p><p>your children.</p><p>Give birth dates if they</p><p>are known and death</p><p>dates if a person has</p><p>deceased.</p><p>Prepare to share with</p><p>your class partner.</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 3</p><p>5</p><p>eAting AnD DRinking</p><p>s h A r i n g tA s t e s</p><p>Everybody eats. Food is both a necessity and a pleasure, and remains</p><p>a safe and interesting way to learn more about people. Interview your</p><p>partner and share your eating and drinking experiences.</p><p>1. Do you consider eating a chore, a duty, or a pleasure? Why?</p><p>2. What did you eat yesterday? Was it a typical day?</p><p>3. Do you drink juice/tea/coffee in the morning?</p><p>Regular or decaffeinated?</p><p>4. Do you eat at the same time each day?</p><p>Or do you eat when you have time?</p><p>5. Do you prefer salty snacks or sweet snacks?</p><p>How often do you have snacks?</p><p>6. Where do you usually shop for food?</p><p>What shopping tips can you share?</p><p>7. What drinks do you often have with your evening meal?</p><p>8. What kind of meat do you enjoy eating? Beef ? Pork? Poultry? Fish?</p><p>9. What is your favorite vegetable? Are you a vegetarian?</p><p>10. What is your favorite fruit? Which fruits do you find delicious?</p><p>11. Can you name three American dishes that you really enjoy or</p><p>savor?</p><p>12. Has your diet changed since moving to the United States? How?</p><p>13. Which dishes from your country would you recommend to a</p><p>tourist?</p><p>14. Is there any food you enjoyed in your homeland that you haven’t</p><p>found here?</p><p>15. Are you a chef ?</p><p>16. What’s your favorite recipe? Where did you get it?</p><p>What dishes do you cook?</p><p>“gluttony is not a secret vice.”</p><p>orson Welles (1915–1985),</p><p>great director/actor</p><p>1 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Write three questions using them.</p><p>decaffeinated .............................................................................................</p><p>chef ...........................................................................................................</p><p>fast .............................................................................................................</p><p>famished ....................................................................................................</p><p>feast ...........................................................................................................</p><p>gluttony .....................................................................................................</p><p>famine .......................................................................................................</p><p>vegetarian .................................................................................................</p><p>culinary .....................................................................................................</p><p>savor ..........................................................................................................</p><p>edible .........................................................................................................</p><p>i d i o m s , P u n s , A n d e x P r e s s i o n s</p><p>Which is your favorite?</p><p>I’m on a seafood diet. I see food and I eat it.</p><p>She loves candy, ice cream, and cookies. She has a sweet tooth.</p><p>A boiled egg in the morning is hard to beat.</p><p>Eat, drink, and be merry.</p><p>The most sincere love is the love of food.</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. What is your favorite restaurant? In what language do you order?</p><p>2. How often do you eat at a fast food restaurant? Why?</p><p>3. Are American fast food chains popular in your homeland? Why?</p><p>4. In your native land, did all members of your family eat the evening</p><p>meal together? Who cooked the food? Who served the food?</p><p>5. In your native country, what foods or drinks are associated with</p><p>weddings? Birthdays? Funerals?</p><p>6. What foods or drinks are associated with holy days or national</p><p>holidays?</p><p>7. Have you ever eaten at a feast? When? What meals remind you of</p><p>happy times?</p><p>8. Have you ever fasted? Why? Were you famished after skipping two</p><p>meals?</p><p>9. Does your religion have dietary rules or restrictions? What are they?</p><p>10. Has there ever been a famine in your native country?</p><p>What caused it?</p><p>11. Have you ever tried to diet to lose weight? What did you do?</p><p>12. Can you name several types of diets?</p><p>13. Is your diet restricted in any way by health considerations? How?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 5</p><p>14. Do you ever read food labels? Do you have any food allergies?</p><p>15. What meals does your family share? Who cooks? Who serves?</p><p>16. Does your family share recipes? Which recipe would you like?</p><p>17. Would you like to share a favorite recipe?</p><p>18. Are you adventurous in seeking out new culinary delights?</p><p>19. What is your ideal dinner? Please describe the dishes, the guests,</p><p>and the location.</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Circle the quotations that you like.</p><p>1. “Better beans and bacon in peace than cakes and ale in fear.”</p><p>—Aesop (ca. 550 B.C.)</p><p>2. “The proof of the pudding is in the eating. By a small sample, we</p><p>may judge the whole of a piece”</p><p>—Miguel De Cervantes (1547–1616), Spanish writer</p><p>3. “The satiated man and the hungry one do not see the same thing</p><p>when they look upon a loaf of bread.”</p><p>—Rumi (1207–1273), Persian poet and mystic</p><p>4. “More die in the United States of too much food than of too</p><p>little.”—John Kenneth Galbraith (1908–) ambassador, economist</p><p>5. “Live. Love. Eat.”—Wolfgang Puck (1949–), chef</p><p>6. “When I drink, I think; and when I think, I drink.”</p><p>—Francois Rabelais (1495–1553), satirist</p><p>7. “Edible (adj). Good to eat and wholesome to digest, as a worm to a</p><p>toad, a toad to a snake, a snake to a pig, a pig to a man, and a man</p><p>to a worm.”—Ambrose Bierce (1842–1916), American writer</p><p>8. “I have taken more out of alcohol than alcohol has taken out of</p><p>me.”—Winston Churchill (1874–1965), British Prime Minister,</p><p>Nobel Prize winner</p><p>9. “The secret of staying young is to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie</p><p>about your age.”</p><p>—Lucille Desiree Ball (1911–1984), American TV star and actress</p><p>10. “People who drink to drown their sorrow should be told that</p><p>sorrow knows how to swim.”</p><p>—Ann Landers (1918–2002), American advice columnist</p><p>11. “I went on a diet, swore off drinking and heavy eating, and in</p><p>fourteen days I lost two weeks.”</p><p>—Joe E. Louis (1914–1981), world boxing champion</p><p>12. “I thought, I called, I planned, I shopped, I schlepped, I cleaned,</p><p>I chopped, I soaked, I peeled, I rinsed, I grated, I minced, I</p><p>simmered, I larded, I mixed, I fried, I boiled, I baked, I sauted,</p><p>I souffleed, I flame boiled, and I sweated. So, tell me it’s great!”</p><p>—Slogan on a novelty kitchen apron in the United States</p><p>13. “If it’s beautifully arranged on the plate, you know someone’s</p><p>fingers have been all over it.”—Julia Child (1912–2004), American</p><p>chef/author</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Write menu descriptions for</p><p>your perfect meal. Include the</p><p>major ingredients of dishes as</p><p>one finds on a menu.</p><p>Be sure to include appetizers,</p><p>beverages and desserts. Indulge</p><p>yourself.</p><p>Now describe your delicious</p><p>choices to your group.</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>...................................................</p><p>1 6 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>“Curious things, habits. people</p><p>themselves never knew they had</p><p>them.”</p><p>Agatha christie (1890–1976),</p><p>british crime fiction writer</p><p>6</p><p>eXPloRing DAilY HABits</p><p>s h A r i n g s t o r i e s</p><p>Do you know your own habits? Share stories about your habits and find</p><p>out more about your partner’s habits in a friendly exchange.</p><p>1. How many hours of sleep do you usually get?</p><p>Is that enough sleep for you?</p><p>2. Do you usually use an alarm clock to wake up?</p><p>How often do you oversleep?</p><p>3. What time do you usually get up in the morning?</p><p>Do you get up with the sun?</p><p>4. Do you jump out of bed? Are you a morning monster?</p><p>5. Can you describe your morning habits? Are you in a hurry?</p><p>6. What do you eat for breakfast? What do you prefer to drink in the</p><p>morning?</p><p>7. Can you describe a typical summer afternoon for you?</p><p>A winter afternoon?</p><p>8. How did you come to school today?</p><p>Did you arrive by foot, by bus, or by car?</p><p>9. How long is your daily commute to work or school?</p><p>10. What’s your daily schedule like? Busy? Slow? Loose? Full?</p><p>11. What was your daily schedule like five years ago?</p><p>How is different now?</p><p>12. Do you do many things at the last minute? Why?</p><p>13. In your daily life, what modern appliances or machines do you use?</p><p>14. What task or chore have you put off or postponed?</p><p>15. In what kind of stores do you prefer to shop for clothes? Thrift?</p><p>Upscale? Modern? Department? Mall? Mom and Pop? Why?</p><p>16. Where do you like buying your groceries? Why?</p><p>What do you usually buy?</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 7</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Use them to write four sentences.</p><p>curious.......................................................................................................</p><p>habits .........................................................................................................</p><p>oversleep ...................................................................................................</p><p>routine .......................................................................................................</p><p>schedule ....................................................................................................</p><p>tend to .......................................................................................................</p><p>disciplined .................................................................................................</p><p>addict ........................................................................................................</p><p>lifestyle ......................................................................................................</p><p>impulsive ...................................................................................................</p><p>consumer ..................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>Read the common sayings and proverbs below. Can you add two more?</p><p>The more you chew your meat, the better it tastes;</p><p>The more you speak, the lighter your heart becomes.—Korean</p><p>An old cat will never learn to dance.—Moroccan</p><p>Habits are first cobwebs, then cables.—Spanish</p><p>Love makes marriage possible,</p><p>and habit makes it endurable.—American</p><p>The fool in a hurry drinks his tea with chopsticks.—Chinese</p><p>(Add yours) ...............................................................................................</p><p>(Add yours) ...............................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. What kind of consumer are you? A bargain hunter? Impulsive buyer?</p><p>2. What are your TV viewing habits? Do you always watch certain</p><p>shows? Which ones?</p><p>3. How often do you use a computer? When do you send email?</p><p>4. Do you find the daily lifestyle in the United States hectic?</p><p>Can you give some examples?</p><p>5. What are some dangerous or unhealthy addictions?</p><p>6. Why do you think so many people are addicted to alcohol and</p><p>illegal drugs?</p><p>7. Do you consider smoking a bad habit? Why?</p><p>8. In what ways are you self-disciplined?</p><p>9. Are you lazy in any ways? How?</p><p>10. Do you tend to see the glass as half-full or half-empty?</p><p>Are you more of an optimist or a pessimist? Why?</p><p>11. What is your favorite time of day?</p><p>Why?</p><p>12. How do your weekends differ from your Monday-Friday routine?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be curious</p><p>Be open</p><p>Be tolerant</p><p>1 8 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>13. What are some of your healthier habits?</p><p>14. What are some of your less healthy habits?</p><p>15. How do your habits compare to your parents’ habits at your age?</p><p>16. Have your daily habits changed since moving to the United States?</p><p>17. Given a choice, would you prefer to live now or 100 years ago?</p><p>Why?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Which quotation is your favorite? Why?</p><p>1. “Nothing is in reality either pleasant or unpleasant by nature; but all</p><p>things become so through habit.”</p><p>—Epictetus (55–135), Greek stoic philosopher</p><p>2. “Men’s natures are alike; it is their habits that separate them.”</p><p>—Confucius (551–479 B.C.E.) great Chinese philosopher</p><p>3. “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but</p><p>a habit.”—Aristotle (384–322 B.C.E.), Ancient Greek philosopher</p><p>4. “Habit and character are closely interwoven, habit becoming like a</p><p>second nature.”</p><p>—Moses Maimonides (1135–1204), Jewish philosopher</p><p>5. “Don’t let your sins turn into bad habits.”</p><p>—Saint Theresa (1873–1897), French nun and author</p><p>6. “Nothing so needs reforming as other people’s habits.”</p><p>—Mark Twain (1835–1910), American humorist and novelist</p><p>7. “Habit for him was all the test of truth; ‘It must be right: I’ve done it</p><p>from my youth.”—George Crabbe (1754–1832), English poet</p><p>8. “The perpetual obstacle to human advancement is custom.”</p><p>—John Stuart Mill (1806–1873), English political philosopher</p><p>9. “The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong</p><p>to be broken.”</p><p>—Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709–1784), English author</p><p>10. “Habit is habit, and not to be flung out of the window by any</p><p>man, but coaxed downstairs a step at a time.”</p><p>—Mark Twain (1835–1910), American humorist</p><p>11. “Habit will reconcile us to everything but change.”</p><p>—Charles Caleb Colton (1780–1832), English writer and collector</p><p>12. “Any man who reads too much and uses his own brain too little</p><p>falls into lazy habits of thinking.”</p><p>—Albert Einstein (1879–1955), scientist and Time magazine’s Man</p><p>of the 20th Century</p><p>13. “For many, negative thinking is a habit, which over time, becomes</p><p>an addiction.”</p><p>—Peter McWilliams (1949–2000) American self-help author</p><p>14. “The unfortunate thing about this world is that good habits are so</p><p>much easier to give up than bad ones.”</p><p>—Somerset Maugham (1874–1965), English novelist</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>Keep an activity log for</p><p>a day. Share it with your</p><p>conversation partner.</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 1 9</p><p>“i want freedom for the full expression</p><p>of my personality.”</p><p>Mahatma gandhi (1869–1948)</p><p>indian political leader and philosopher</p><p>7</p><p>Being YouRself</p><p>s h A r i n g P e r s P e c t i v e s</p><p>From consulting charts and reading palms to taking personality tests and</p><p>reading self-help books, people love to describe themselves.</p><p>1. Which three adjectives would you use to describe your personality?</p><p>2. Are you shy or outgoing? When are you most outgoing?</p><p>3. Are you daring or cautious? In what ways?</p><p>4. Are you usually patient or impatient? Can you give an example?</p><p>5. Are you quiet or talkative? When are you most talkative? Least?</p><p>6. Would you call yourself a leader or a follower? Why?</p><p>7. Are you generous or selfish? Are you too selfish or over generous?</p><p>8. In what ways are you rigid? In what ways are you flexible?</p><p>9. In what ways are you traditional? In what ways are you modern?</p><p>10. If pessimistic is 1 and optimistic is 10, what would your number be</p><p>on the scale? Why did you decide on that number?</p><p>11. On a scale of 1-10, how assertive are you?</p><p>12. Is your personality more like your mother or your father?</p><p>In what ways?</p><p>13. Which color would you use to describe your personality?</p><p>14. Which animal would you use to describe yourself ?</p><p>Tiger? Mouse? Why?</p><p>15. Do you believe in astrology? Which sign are you in the zodiac?</p><p>Does the pattern of this sign match your personality?</p><p>16. Which animal year are you according to Chinese astrology?</p><p>Does this fit?</p><p>17. Have you ever taken a personality test from a magazine or online?</p><p>Was it helpful? Was it fun? Was it accurate?</p><p>18. Which season of the year best describes your personality?</p><p>In what ways?</p><p>2 0 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Please circle the words that you know. Ask your partner or teacher for the</p><p>meanings of the other words.</p><p>character ...................................................................................................</p><p>patient .......................................................................................................</p><p>talkative .....................................................................................................</p><p>generous ....................................................................................................</p><p>rigid ...........................................................................................................</p><p>flexible .......................................................................................................</p><p>autumn ......................................................................................................</p><p>zodiac .......................................................................................................</p><p>accurate .....................................................................................................</p><p>optimist .....................................................................................................</p><p>pessimist ....................................................................................................</p><p>nurture ......................................................................................................</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Do you think our personalities are set when we are born?</p><p>2. Can we change our personalities? How?</p><p>3. How has your personality changed in the last ten years?</p><p>4. Which three words would you use to describe the personality of</p><p>your best friend?</p><p>5. How are your personalities similar?</p><p>How are your personalities different?</p><p>6. Why do you think opposites are sometimes attracted to each other?</p><p>7. Some cultures define personality in terms of the elements: Would</p><p>you say you are primarily air, water, fire, or earth? Why did you</p><p>choose that element?</p><p>8. Which three qualities do you think of as yin (feminine)?</p><p>9. Which three qualities do you think of as yang (masculine)?</p><p>10. Can you name one yin quality and one yang quality which</p><p>describe you?</p><p>11. How might being raised in poverty influence someone’s</p><p>personality?</p><p>12. Do you think being born in extreme wealth would change your</p><p>personality? How?</p><p>13. If you had been born in another country, do you think your</p><p>personality would be different? How?</p><p>14. Can you think of somebody with a good personality and bad</p><p>character?</p><p>15. What is the difference between one’s personality and one’s</p><p>character?</p><p>r e m e m b e r …</p><p>Be encouraging</p><p>make good mistakes</p><p>Be yourself</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 2 1</p><p>16. Are you primarily an extrovert or an introvert?</p><p>Why do you say that?</p><p>17. Do you think nature (biology) or nurture (our circumstances) are</p><p>more important in shaping our personalities? Why do you say that?</p><p>18. What are your best qualities?</p><p>Q u o tAt i o n s</p><p>Circle the quotations you like.</p><p>1. “Know thyself.”</p><p>—Socrates, Greek philosopher (470–399 B.C. E.)</p><p>2. “The man of character bears the accidents of life with</p><p>dignity and grace, making the best of circumstances.”</p><p>—Aristotle (384–322 B.C.E.), Greek philosopher and scientist</p><p>3. “This above all: To thine own self be true, And it must follow,</p><p>as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any</p><p>man.”</p><p>—William Shakespeare, playwright (1564–1616)</p><p>4. “Character is much easier kept than recovered.”</p><p>—Thomas Paine (1737–1809), writer and revolutionary</p><p>5. “It is absurd to divide people into good and bad.</p><p>People are either charming or tedious.”</p><p>—Oscar Wilde (1856–1900), English playwright</p><p>6. “Some people with great virtues are disagreeable,</p><p>while others with great vice are delightful.”</p><p>—Duc de la Rochefoucauld (1613—1680), French philosopher</p><p>7. “The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two</p><p>chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”</p><p>—Carl Jung (1875–1961), Swiss psychiatrist</p><p>8. “The Doc told me that I had a dual personality. Then he lays an</p><p>$82 bill on me, so I give him 41 bucks and say, ‘Get the other 41</p><p>bucks from the other guy.’ ”</p><p>—Jerry Lewis (1926–), American comedian</p><p>9. “I am what is mine. Personality is the original personal property.</p><p>—Norman O. Brown (1913–2002), American scholar</p><p>10. “Man’s main task in life is to give birth to himself, to become what</p><p>he potentially is. The most important product of his effort is his</p><p>own personality.”</p><p>—Erich Fromm (1900–1980), American psychologist</p><p>11. “I am absolutely convinced that no wealth in the world can help</p><p>humanity forward. The example of great and fine personalities is</p><p>the only thing that can lead us to fine ideas and noble deeds. Can</p><p>anyone imagine Moses, Jesus, or Gandhi with the money bags of</p><p>Carnegie?”</p><p>—Albert Einstein (1879–1955), Nobel Prize winner in Physics</p><p>12. “Generous people are rarely mentally ill people.”</p><p>—Karl Menninger (1893–1990) American psychiatrist</p><p>★</p><p>o n y o u r o w n</p><p>What do you like about</p><p>yourself ?</p><p>Write a postcard to a</p><p>stranger which celebrates</p><p>yourself and your</p><p>strongest traits.</p><p>2 2 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>w A l k i n g t h e w A l k</p><p>Sometimes it is easier to talk the talk about staying healthy than walking</p><p>the walk to stay healthy. Interview your partner and exchange health tips.</p><p>1. What are some signs of being healthy?</p><p>2. What do your friends or relatives do to stay healthy?</p><p>3. What do you do to stay healthy?</p><p>4. Have your health habits changed in the last few years? How?</p><p>5. What is something that many people should do, but don’t do to stay</p><p>healthy?</p><p>6. Do you know any home remedies for common ailments?</p><p>7. How do you treat a sore throat? Minor cut? Headaches?</p><p>8. What are some causes of back pain?</p><p>What are some possible remedies?</p><p>9. Do you take daily vitamins? Which ones? Why?</p><p>10. Do you regularly take over-the-counter drugs or prescription</p><p>drugs? Why?</p><p>11. Is there a disease or condition which is common in your family?</p><p>What steps have you taken to forestall or prevent this illness?</p><p>12. How often do you wash your hands? What other precautions do</p><p>you take to prevent the spread of germs?</p><p>13. Do you eat healthy food? Do you have any unhealthy eating</p><p>habits?</p><p>14. Do you enjoy smoking? What are some of the dangers of</p><p>smoking?</p><p>15. How much sleep do you usually get?</p><p>Is your sleep restful, or do you toss and turn?</p><p>16. How often do you feel tired or exhausted? What can you do to feel</p><p>more energetic?</p><p>“if one has no illness,</p><p>he is already rich.”</p><p>korean proverb</p><p>8</p><p>stAYing HeAltHY</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 2 3</p><p>v o c A b u l A r y</p><p>Circle the words that you already know. Look up the other words.</p><p>prevent ......................................................................................................</p><p>prevention .................................................................................................</p><p>restrict .......................................................................................................</p><p>hygiene ......................................................................................................</p><p>germs ........................................................................................................</p><p>symptoms ..................................................................................................</p><p>operation ...................................................................................................</p><p>restriction ..................................................................................................</p><p>prescription ...............................................................................................</p><p>remedy ......................................................................................................</p><p>over-the-counter .......................................................................................</p><p>exercise ......................................................................................................</p><p>meditation .................................................................................................</p><p>medication ................................................................................................</p><p>overcome ...................................................................................................</p><p>P r o v e r b s</p><p>What do these proverbs and sayings mean? Can you add another?</p><p>An apple a day keeps the doctor away.—English</p><p>Few desires, buoyant spirits; many cares, feeble health.—Chinese</p><p>A sick person is a prisoner.—Yemenite</p><p>He who has health has hope,</p><p>and he who has hope, has everything.—Arab</p><p>Nature, time, and patience are the three great physicians.—Irish</p><p>In the emergency room, we can ease their</p><p>pain, but we can not ease their lives.</p><p>Prevention beats medication.</p><p>Put a lid on what smells bad.—Japanese</p><p>Old age is a thousand headaches.—Persian</p><p>(Add yours) ...............................................................................................</p><p>2 4 • w w w. c o m p e l l i n g c o n v e r s a t i o n s . c o m</p><p>t h e c o n v e r s At i o n c o n t i n u e s …</p><p>1. Do you exercise regularly? What are your favorite exercises?</p><p>2. Do you take regular walks? Ride a bike? Go to the gym?</p><p>Practice Tai Chi or yoga?</p><p>3. What can cause stomachaches? Do you eat quickly? Do you eat</p><p>spicy foods?</p><p>4. Do you find yourself worrying a lot? Do you have ulcers?</p><p>5. Do you keep track of your blood pressure or cholesterol? How?</p><p>6. What are some warning signs for a heart attack? What do doctors</p><p>recommend?</p><p>7. How is general health care easier in the United States than in your</p><p>home country?</p><p>8. What inoculations or medical tests did you get before entering the</p><p>United States?</p><p>9. Are there diseases that are common in your native country, but are</p><p>rare in the United States? Which ones?</p><p>10. Are there common diseases in the U.S. which are rare in your</p><p>homeland? Which ones?</p><p>11. Have you ever been to a hospital? Why? What made that visit</p><p>memorable?</p><p>12. Are you at your ideal weight? Should you gain weight to attain</p><p>your ideal? Should you lose weight to attain your ideal?</p><p>13. Do you restrict your diet for health reasons? How? Why?</p><p>14. Have you seen TV ads for prescription drugs? Do you trust the</p><p>ads? Why or why not?</p><p>15. Do our emotions and thoughts affect our health? How?</p><p>16. Do you follow any regimen like meditation, yoga, or prayer to calm</p><p>your mind and body?</p><p>17. What three things could you do to improve your general health?</p><p>n o t e s & Q u e s t i o n s</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .</p><p>Q u e s t i o n s A n d Q u otAt i o n s o n t i m e l e s s to p i c s • 2 5</p><p>Q u o tAt</p>